The “promise” of any pleasure to come is really nothing more or less than the memory of a pleasing sensation imagined as just being ahead of you; in truth, it is projected there — onto the screen of the mind — from somewhere out of your past. The power of these wants, and the passion of their pursuit, is all due to the presence of a kind of psychological “special effect” — a highly attractive state that feels real because of the very desirable sensations that always attend its appearance.
If you wish to see through this trick of the false self, and save yourself a considerable amount of useless suffering, here’s a new action to take each time you catch yourself being drawn to jump down the rabbit hole of some familiar desire:
Before you “buy” the ticket (to the promised Wonderland)… do the best you can to remember how that exact same “sensational” mental movie ended last time. Consciously recall, as vividly as you can, the real cost of sitting through a rerun that you’ve not only seen a hundred times, but one that almost never has a happy ending!
Question: Could you please share your insights on trusting your partner with regards to attempting to have a meaningful relationship? It seems that almost nobody can be loyal, and they always end up cheating or thinking the grass is greener on the other side. This could be a matter of life and death these days rather than just hurtful feelings of jealousy. Is it even possible to be truly satisfied and not have overwhelming curiosities?
Answer: You’ve asked two questions that perhaps I can answer with one idea. First, part of the “problem” of being asleep to oneself includes the fact that such a person has no inkling that he or she is not one integrated being, but is actually a composite of various desires and the sense of self that is born from these forces in his or her soul. No one who is many can act as one. To expect someone to be loyal, to have integrity, to be true, when such a person is almost by law divided into more natures than Seth himself, is to ask for sorrow. So, the first thing that we must do if we wish to cease feeling ourselves a victim is to begin the process of integrating ourselves. Once we realize the truth of our own condition, it is impossible to be deceived by anyone who remains in a state similar to the sleep life we have now escaped. This is a form of spiritual safety. But more important than that sense of security that comes from the presence of a Living Light within us is that for this same Light within us, we are liberated from the base longing of hoping to complete ourselves by someone or something exterior to ourselves. This is contentment that is not based in the opposites, but is a natural radiation of one now living in an undivided Reality.
The pain we feel over being betrayed is not the fault of the one who has fractured our trust. Such anguish belongs to, and is created by, those darkly combustible parts of us into which we so readily fall and become inflamed whenever certain self-supports are unexpectedly pulled out from beneath us.
Any “I” that hates relates not to the person it holds responsible for this rage, but this “I” sits in secret relationship with ruinous negative states that have neither place nor power in this world without drawing some sleeping soul into an unconscious conspiracy called “blame.”
Without our unconscious consent, regardless of what we may have done against others, or ourselves, the past is powerless to punish us in the present moment.
Do what is in your power: refuse to do what is not. It is not in your power to change events gone by, but you can let go of the time-bound self that wants to chain you to pain that only exists in the past!