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Letting Go with Guy Finley

There come times in our lives when our wish to be new, coupled with our interior work to realize this wish, produces certain “effects” that can be most trying; in fact, times such as these are a kind of trial. What happens is that the spiritual changes occurring within us — and their new values — outrun the existing physical conditions and relationships that helped give rise to these changes in us.

Be patient, be kind, and remain intent upon being true to yourself with regards to your growing spiritual wish to be whole and free. Things must and will come to a “head,” and there will be a change; it’s inescapable. Don’t fear, or at least, don’t allow that negative state to make you act against your own best interests. When relationships pass, as most must, it doesn’t mean that the love that caused them to appear must disappear. A new form always rises when an old one passes… watch for it.

The only thing “fixed” in us are those parts of our presently unenlightened nature that convince us to resist life’s natural changes. As this fear-filled, downward-trending nature tricks us into accepting its conclusions, they become the same as our captivity. We unconsciously accept the limited and painful life this alliance-in-the-dark produces. We can do better!

Real self-change begins with seeing that Real Life is change itself. This means there is no condition that can hold you captive without your unconscious cooperation. Withdraw it. Wake up. Walk out of yourself by changing how you see what you call your life. Realize that while the contents of your life may come and go, turn dark, or suddenly seem delightful, regardless, these things will pass. Resting in the awareness of this Truth while working to stand upon its higher ground, you come upon the life within you whose nature is the unchanging witness of these movements. This self dwells outside of change, even as all that changes moves through it.

No one can say “No” to this world who is afraid to walk through it alone . . .

tree, sunrise over mountain

Eventually you must see that any action your mind gives you to console you about anything is stealing from you the possibility of being a reflection of the Divine. Stand unconsoled so the true consolation may make itself known to you.