Regardless of how one may feel in any given moment, real life can present no task before us for which we are “inadequate.”
Yes, we may be unprepared at its outset… just as each year a bare tree can’t know, in advance, the weight of a heavy winter snowfall until its branches bend and maybe even break beneath it; but no tree is its limbs, and neither are we made less for what we can’t do or carry when first challenged by something that seems too great for us to handle.
Our truest strength is our ability to realize that whatever our present weakness may be, it is but a temporary one… providing we are willing to persist, to wade into what seems greater than we are, and test this truth time and time again.
The unimaginable reward of persisting through whatever stands in your way is the eventual — and inevitable — discovery that you are created to change.
Any friendship based on a relationship that is “already understood” is less a friendship than it is an unstated agreement that things should change between those involved only when and if mutually agreed upon. But real friendship is no such contract; it’s a mutual consent between the parties involved to share in love’s never ending encouragement to outgrow whatever limits the growth of the soul.
Question: I had a friend for 5 years, and out of the blue I made a simple remark…and now she is not my friend anymore! I apologized, and she said she forgives me, but it’s obvious she holds a grudge. Now our friendship is over… for good. It’s breaking my heart. What can I do to get over this? How can there be no forgiveness for what I said without thinking?
Answer: Friendships should be looked at as one does a tree; without a deep and healthy root system to sustain the tree in droughts — and through storms — the tree will not thrive and survive. So it is with so-called “friends” whose caring runs only as deep as temporary circumstances allow. You are better off without this person, and should be glad to know what you now do about her! You have not lost a friend, but gained new understanding about how shallow runs human nature! Don’t be afraid to see the truth of these words. Your new understanding will eventually bring you new and truer friends who share the same wisdom as well as the love of it.
Whether it’s issues concerning health, relationships, or some other heartache… letting go is the central theme of this life; we can either agree with its great lesson and learn to release our resistance to unwanted moments… or cling and cry, and continue serving a suffering that changes nothing.