We’ve all probably “run over” someone emotionally or hurt a friend, a loved one, or even a complete stranger while racing to get somewhere or do something “important.” Then, we regret it — most likely too late to do any good.
There may be no greater self-deception than the false notion that rushing through anything actually helps us in any way whatsoever. After all, if anxious thoughts and feelings had any power to deliver us to a place or time where peace awaits, don’t you think we’d have gotten there by now? Let there be no mistake here:
When it comes to being in a hurry, what difference does it make how fast you can get somewhere when all you find there is the next thing for you to rush through?
When it comes to healing mental or emotional pain, the first step to freeing oneself is in seeing the following facts: resistance to anything (including psychological pain) is a secret form of fascination with it; and to be fascinated with anything — regardless of its nature — is to be identified with it. Add to these insights the fact that to be identified with something is to be attached to the same, and then one can see how an unseen dependency on dark states gets formed.
It is the light of this understanding that alone shatters not just the walls of one’s psychological prison, but the level of “self” that has built and maintained them. Therefore it is an axiom: before one can be healed, one must stop hurting oneself. There is no other way.
In this short talk, Guy explains that we aren’t here to use the planet and people for our pleasures, we are here so that Love may use us for its life.
Click here to listen to this podcast “Let Love Use You for Its Life”
Question: Is real happiness actually effortless? The inner work I know is needed seems to be a constant struggle.
Answer: Don’t confuse the work to cultivate the soil with the garden that grows in the prepared soil. Real happiness is indeed effortless, once the causes of unhappiness are weeded out. In a way, you already know this truth through the experience of those moments where your joy is independent of the “you” that suddenly realizes it is having a happy time. This physical example can be applied to our spiritual life when we come to the new contentment born out of seeing that our former discontentment was rooted in a lie. Don’t struggle to make yourself happy. Persist instead with your efforts to be free of the illusion that you must somehow struggle with unhappy thoughts or feelings. See these dark states as passing clouds. As you do this, you will know that behind them sits the sun.