Our awareness of the present moment is one and the same as the Presence within us that grants us that awareness. This revelation literally points to the entrance of an unthinkably confident relationship with life. The nearer we come to understanding the promise of this insight, the closer we are to knowing a self-command that can’t be taken from us. Here’s why: The awareness of our living relationship with the present moment — our willingness to consciously practice its presence — empowers us to know what’s best for us without having to think about it.
This level of awareness sees what is real and what is not. And the more we place ourselves in the presence of this indwelling light, the more we will see small miracles take place before our very eyes. Quiet command over all that unfolds becomes as effortless for us as it is for the spreading light of dawn to chase away morning shadows. An upwelling confidence in the secret goodness of life replaces conflict and self-doubt. After all, how can we fail to find the fearless life we seek when reality itself points the way!
Instead of relying on what is powerless to deliver us from what disturbs us — as we’ve always done in the past – we can choose to wake up and practice the Presence! When we do, that dreaded bad dream of feeling powerless in the face of some situation “bigger” than we are can’t get started because we quietly refuse to let it start and to render us helpless. When we choose to wake up and practice the Presence, we place ourselves in the presence of a power that ensures our perfect safety.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about a beautiful kind of higher certainty that can come into your life in which it is impossible to ever again have one more doubtful, fearful, or worried thought about what to do next.
Click here to listen to this short talk “Awareness is the Law
Lead by example. Children not only see better than adults but they can taste what they see in a way adults have forgotten. Their essence absorbs energy without the filters that we’ve developed in the process of maturing in this world. Children naturally are nourished, for either the good or bad of that inner food, by the energetic states they pick up from those around them.
If we will taste what we give our children to eat — psychologically, emotionally speaking — then we will gradually come to understand that we should never feed them anything we don’t want ourselves. For instance, what do we teach children when we’re angry or impatient? What do we teach them when they see us anxious over some news?
Children and sponges have a lot in common. They soak up what is around them. Words that are in contrast with conditions are absorbed by children in the form of conflict. On the other hand, if they “taste” our inner silence, they’ll want to be nourished in time by what they have seen. And what could be more healthful and healing to those around you who are distressed than your calm detachment from any pain they may experience?
What all of us need is awareness of the reality of our interior life and its impact on others around us. However, the fear that we may have fallen or failed our children gives them not our wish for solid ground, but instead a soiled ground. Just drop the moments in which you find yourself compromised. Intend to love and let it show you what is not loving. Be as consciously kind as you can be, which means to not express (but watch instead) your own negative states. Be as encouraging as possible without producing false hope. Speak the truth at all times without being cruel or unnecessarily over-correcting. And when asked for what you think is right, dare to speak it in spite of the consequences.
When it comes to the overall well being of your children — all of your relationships, for that matter — there is nothing more important for you to do than to stay awake as best you can. It may be invisible to the eye, but the human heart needs the energy of love to grow, and this holds especially true for our children. Giving them the right kind of “foods” to grow, to successfully develop their essence, begins with being conscious of the kind of energy you’re expressing moment to moment. This is why being present to yourself is the best present of all for all that you love.
Question: Do you have a recommendation for how to stop smoking? I need some advice about freedom from the inner voices that tempt me.
Answer: There is an important principle at the root of all true spiritual teachings, and it applies to your question. The principle is that “resistance to the disturbance is the disturbance.” What this means is that when we struggle to stop ourselves from doing something against ourselves merely out of the wish not to suffer what we do to ourselves, we may be assured the behavior will continue. We can’t end our wrong relationship with the parts of ourselves that tempt us and then torment us for falling into their hands until what we are tempted to do no longer holds any attraction for us. This approach is not trying to dominate what is defeating us, but is based on the idea of illuminating what has been deceiving us. Until we recognize the difference, we will struggle for no true gain because we do not understand that what we are against within us is a secret part of us.