If you ever really want to know why there’s a fairly consistent amount of stress (in you) in the midst of your conversation with others, just work during the time in question to be more interested in discovering the truth of yourself (quietly watching yourself) than you are in trying to prove yourself as being somehow special or otherwise infallible.
In all of us there dwells a certain “dark” character whose chief feature is to ensure that no one ever doubts its perfection. As long as we identify with this unconscious nature, we embody its fear…which is, by the way, the proof of its imperfection.
And who wants to protect what is inherently blind to itself, even as it insists upon its 20/20 vision!
Question: It seems that nothing in my life has turned out the way I have prayed that it would. The sadness over my situation is overwhelming, even though I have tried my best to give all my failures over to God. Where do I go from here?
Answer: Can you think of any example from the past of where some great individual who became an instrument or vessel of the divine arrived at that relationship without suffering consciously for the sake of that communion? Even the few sages reputed to be born already illumined gave at great cost their lives… not to mention what they may have had to bear prior to that incarnation. At some point we must not only recognize that if we are to give our lives to God/the divine, then this means that our lives must serve His purpose… and not the one that we imagine we ought to have as a result of our surrender. To give our lives to God means we give everything to Him –including our self-loathing, our sense of inadequacy, our hypocrisy, and our suffering over the same, whatever that condition may be. This may be the hardest of all things to do… but in the end is the true indicator of the depth of our intention to serve the greater life whose timeless love is our greatest wish. It may be wisely said that the last attachment a man has upon the path to his perfection is giving up the attachment he has to his suffering. Consider these words and start over.
Though we are created to be the embodiment of Freedom itself, still – – to be free — we must choose that Life before all else.
Question: I love the idea of living in a world without storms, but given how much turmoil and trouble there seems to be every¬where, including in ourselves, where do we find such an elevated state of self?
Answer: Peace of mind produces right values, right values produce right thoughts. Right thoughts produce right actions, and right actions produce work which will be a material reflection for others to see of the serenity at the center of it all. —Robert M. Pirsig
Never agree that you are powerless in the face of dark and unwanted moments, because instead of mindlessly aching, you can always reclaim your attention and remember this truth: The Light of God is greater than any shadows that come over you, so instead of hating the darkness, look for this light and watch how your life grows brighter.