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Letting Go with Guy Finley

If it weren’t that unwanted “things” come along as they do – reducing us to nothing — how would we ever realize

that already living in us is everything needed to transcend all that we are.

Question: I am always so impressed with people who are able to overcome their physical impairments with grace and a positive outlook. How can we transform our physical pains into spiritual gain?

Answer: Until you change what you do with your pain, you cannot be healed. Suffering is a kind of seed that holds the capacity to deliver us from darkness or confirm our suffering. Our usual response to pain tells us what we need to do to get past it. The only thing we can change about our lives is what we hold to be true… we can’t change anything else. We suffer because of what we “know” is true; our sense of self stands upon the ideas we are identified with. God gives us the will to choose what we want. What’s not up to us is everything that leads up to the moment of choice. Pain is the passage that can lead to revelation, to a brand new understanding and identity.

sunrise, lake, mountains

Perhaps a man is worried about the future. He believes that in order to feel secure, he must acquire a certain amount of money. Any time he feels thwarted in his efforts to achieve his aim, he finds himself in a storm of anger and despair. But he has been working with these ideas, so he decides to do something different about his pain. When the worry thoughts come, instead of coming up with some new scheme to protect himself, or ranting against an unfair world, he decides to admit that he doesn’t know what to do, and instead, to ask for Higher help. As that light shines on the storm, he begins to realize that he had been putting himself through unnecessary torment. He sees that his fear made demands that practicality did not require. He sees that his desperation made him do foolish things with his money, but that more intelligent decisions were possible. By having the courage to see that everything he believed about himself was mistaken, a new, higher view is possible for him.

Stop fighting the storm. Instead, seek to understand it. When you begin to doubt everything you believe about your suffering, you will see that you never had to remain in the path of those destructive storms at all.