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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Real love can never betray you… for when you start with, and then endeavor through what love asks of you, you will come to know this greatest of truths that sets you free: love’s endpoint begins – and has always abided – within you.

How do you make love real? Without sacrifice there can be no fulfillment of love. Most of us know love as a trade, but real love is not convenient. It always has a cost. These 7 acts of love mentioned in the Bible can help you realize a higher form of love in all your relationships…

Proverbs 18 – Listen Without Interrupting

Catch the part of you that knows better than anyone else, that never stops inserting and asserting itself in the moment.

James 1:19 – Speak Without Accusing

Give up the part of yourself that is always looking to dominate.

Colossians 3:13 – Forgive Without Punishing

Be present to the pain in you… without blaming another. Refuse to fight or protect yourself.

Ephesians 4:15 – Share Without Pretending

Listen instead of feigning interest. Actually give your attention to the person with you.

Philippians 2:14 – Enjoy Without Complaint

Catch the part of you that never stops comparing, and stop judging.

Corinthians 13:7 – Trust Without Wavering

Have faith in the good that sees the moment; in the light that reveals both you and the other person.

Colossians 4:2 – Pray Without Ceasing

Never forget your helplessness. Remember the cost of sacrificing yourself, which is to give yourself completely to what wants to give itself to you.

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Never speak out of anger, Never act out of fear, Never choose from impatience, But wait... and peace will appear. - Guy Finley

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Just as the wind moves through a tree and carries its pollen to the blossoms of another tree, our relationships are intended to help “pollinate” the soul so that true understanding of why we are here on Earth can flower within it. We grow through our relationships with life, which means that through them we are shown possibilities about ourselves we never knew existed. To exclude any of these discoveries is to deny ourselves the truth of ourselves, something the Truth within us would never do.

We need a new intention in all of our relationships, something like this: “I will not suffer you; instead I will work to be increasingly conscious of us, suffering what I must for the sake of both of us. I will not cast you out as being something inferior to myself; I will not do that because it’s impossible to recognize any ‘inferior’ condition in you unless something of it exists in myself as well.”

Our work, if we’re willing, is to catch that surging separation called “You are different from me.” And then, in that same moment, to apply our new understanding that cancels this unconscious act of resistance. Instead, we embrace the realization that “you” and “I” are both exposed in this God-given moment that God meant for the purpose of transcending ourselves.

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The human being is created to develop in the “likeness” of that marvelous Intelligence that made us. This Divine Intelligence didn’t create anything that it fears or hates. It’s a ridiculous thought to walk around and believe (as we all do because of the strong sense of self that it produces) that another person is our enemy simply because we feel enmity for him or her.

Now, just so we’re clear on this, there are plenty of unpleasant people. Our world is packed with them! But, given the negative effect of resenting others, and the fact that (for now) all we know to do about those who disturb us is to resist them, could it be that when it comes to our human relationships we have been blinded to one of the main reasons for them? The answer is “Yes” … [to be continued]

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