Question: Recently a relative asked to live with us. The moment we heard from her, I sensed she was to help me with something. Two weeks later we were talking, she started to cry, and said she had had an abortion. Chills swept through me, and my own tears came up over an abortion I had many years ago when I was about her age. I believe this is not a coincidence, but do I just let things unfold on their own?
Answer: Let these things reveal the lessons they bring without reaching to make something happen with the usual mind. Your niece is looking for forgiveness from a pain that she thinks she understands, but doesn’t. And the more you awaken to the truth of yourself, and see, for instance, that for most of our lives we have no idea of what we agree to do (with all of their negative ramifications), let alone how to make these things “right” in our hearts, the more you’ll know how to help this girl, and what you can and can’t do for her.
In the end, the kindest thing we can do for others is to search out, within ourselves, the one true source of kindness, understanding, and compassion, and then be that for one and all.
Any human being who takes his or her own life not only fails to escape the pain that drove them to this act, but insures that even on the other side they will continue to experience this conflict in their consciousness. The physical body and its many complex relationships — both physical and invisible — is a special type of cauldron in which the aspiring soul is purified, balanced, and brought into Spirit through this process. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you can escape any lesson that God intends for you. Stay the course.
You possess unsuspected powers of perception just waiting to be awakened. There’s a way to know, without ever having to think about it, exactly which of your own thoughts and feelings are your friends, and which are foes… a totally thought-free way to understand which of your thoughts are practical and necessary for everyday life, and which are stealing your life with unsuspected self-compromise. Practice knowing without thinking. Let yourself see the meaning of individuals and their actions, of your behavior, of world events, of all your relationships — without telling yourself what you see. Let the meaning of what is before you reveal itself to you. Keep you out of it. If you don’t, self-compromising self-interest will come in to cloud the picture.
The kind of prayer most commonly understood and practiced is asking for what you want and being temporarily filled with — and renewed by — both the self making that request and the anticipation of what is requested. Examples of this kind of prayer are as easy to produce as listening to your own thoughts tell you why you’re unhappy with your life: “Please send me some money… Please straighten out my problem… Please arrange a happy ending for me.” In this type of prayer, you are in charge of what you think you must have to be happy. However, if you try to establish a relationship with God based on your ideas of God and your ideas of you, you will get what you asked for, but you won’t be renewed. It will be the renewal that you have to renew again and again.
There is another kind of prayer, one critical for real self-renewal, and this secret prayer is where you ask God to be in charge of your life — to give you not what you think you want, but what He knows you need in order to enlarge your relationship with Him. This powerful kind of prayer begins with learning to ask the Almighty to help you help yourself see the truth about your life, even while knowing it will most likely reveal something about you that you don’t want to see.
This new willingness on your part for God’s will to supplant your own invites His Life to pour into yours. In comes the water that renews your life. You find yourself more alive than when you were struggling to give yourself the life you hoped for. You find yourself newly alive.