Even though we may feel badly when we lose whatever or whoever we hold near and dear to ourselves, it is good to see that nothing in this world — or that we can imagine — is permanent. Learning to welcome events that foster this understanding helps liberate us from painful attachments to relationships, possessions, and of course, our own bodies. What follows is freedom from all forms of false dependency and their attending fears.
Question: I have been married for more many years. Recently, I discovered that my husband, who travels a lot for his job, has been unfaithful to me during his time away from home. I don’t want to expose that I know he cheated on me because I’m afraid he will leave me. What should I do?
Answer: It’s of little comfort when someone we love has betrayed us, but while comfort may be what we want in such times, what we really need is a new understanding of who we are… that includes realizing our value as a human being is not determined by others, let alone someone who doesn’t even value his own integrity. I know it’s hard to see it just now, but your pain is nothing compared to that of the one who causes it; yes, it seems you’re being lied to, but anyone who lies lives in hell. Your pain will wither and pass in time (if you will just let it go); his will fester and eventually consume him. That’s how it works when we consent to compromise ourselves (and then others, as a result). So don’t allow yourself to be made in his image by allowing resentment or hatred to rule your heart. Yes, it’s a tough row to hoe, but nothing compared to the future that awaits those who lie about love.
Nothing is created that isn’t preceded by an act of love, which means that our experience of life — our manifestation of it — for either its grace and beauty, or its broken-heartedness, is the inescapable expression of what we actually love.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the difference between merely thinking about spiritual ideas and the actual awareness of the truth of ourselves in the present moment.
Click here to listen to “Liberate Yourself From Your Self”