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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Question: All of my creative, positive passions seem to be located in another out-of-state environment. These things I have an honest interest and aptitude for, yet all opportunities around me are simply not in line with them. Should I accept this situation and look towards something else now to fulfill me?

Answer: We must do what is in our power and refuse to do what is not. If it’s not in your power because of family or other financial responsibilities to move to a more promising place, then do what you must to accomplish what is required of you. If this isn’t the case, walk through the fear. Go for what your heart longs. Either way, refuse to feel sorry for yourself.

You must do in life what you alone have been “created” to do, which doesn’t mean that your fate is your destiny; because in fulfilling this responsibility — of what you have been given to be — you also realize the possibility of transcending the nature that accompanied you into this life, and whose essence constitutes the possibilities of your character at birth.

Consider the seemingly disparate roles of the warrior and the poet. These types could hardly be more different in the parts they play in life. And yet, seen more closely, both characters express and reflect a single great freedom that each aspires to know, and to live: strength of body and flexibility of mind; power and purity; unflagging persistence in the face of insurmountable odds, including a love of righteousness that overwhelms any native fear.

So the real question before us shouldn’t be “What’s my role in this life?”…But rather, “What’s the root of all my confusion about it?”

Can you think of any natural creature that doesn’t know exactly what to do with every moment of its life? Each is endowed, at birth, with an innermost impulse, and each answers only to its given direction. No Red Robin looks with envy at the talons of a raptor, wondering if it would feel better about itself if only it could swoop down on some unwary rabbit or rat for its meal. Is the great soaring Albatross greater than the simple white Egret that stalks its meal on foot, walking upon the Lily pads?

No creature in nature is plagued with the conflict born of comparing itself to another; none fear they should be something other than they are; each serves all, and all serve each.

If you want to know your real role in life, begin with giving yourself to what you love… And not wasting your precious hours in haunted deliberations over what you think others will love about you if only you “step up” and satisfy their socially contrived expectations.

Do one thing and one thing only: give yourself to what you love; if this passion remains unknown, or uncertain, look for the trail of its promise hidden within you. Follow your longing; it’s already connected to the source of itself, as surely as a river empties into the sea. In the gradual unfolding of this daring act you will come to find, and to know, the greatest love on earth: Being what you are created to be, doing what you alone are meant to do, and knowing that you have found your Self.

We can only begin to change the world when we are willing to work with what we are in the present moment …
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In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the only true solution to anger, which is to atone for it in the moment by allowing the light of revelation to transform it, instead continuing to feed it through unconscious resistance.