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Letting Go with Guy Finley

There are those who avoid — at all costs — being tested by life.

There are those who wait, in fear, for life to test them.

Then there are the rare few who choose to use life to test them in every moment they can remember to do so.

Of these three types, which do you think grows in courage and faith, in strength and compassion?

To answer correctly, and then to act on this wisdom, is the spiritual meaning of “choosing to be chosen.” But, avoid this question — or fail to answer it — and you allow your choice to be made for you… against you.

 

The past is as powerless to darken the present moment, as is a shadow to reach up and drag down the form that casts it…

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Do you ever experience a nagging feeling that something is missing in your life? In this talk Guy Finley explains why this feeling exists and what you can do to move beyond it forever.

On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as we’re about to discover, resisting our negative states doesn’t distance us from them, let alone remove them from our interior world; quite the contrary. Here are the three secret stages of psychological resistance, and why it is the “anti-change factor.”

Resistance separates, isolates, and finally crystallizes whatever is being resisted.

Now, here’s the key to changing our relationship with what’s ruining our wish to change: resistance to some unwanted psychological state does not distance us from its suffering…it attaches us to it. This kind of attention doesn’t just animate what it falls on; it actually helps manifest what would have no right to exist otherwise. So that the longer we attend to — resist — whatever makes us ache in this way, the more real it becomes.

Let me restate the above in summary form: psychological resistance fixes — makes as one –the self and the negative state it resists. This means that the solution to our unwanted suffering is in seeing our complicity with it. For only then are we willing to die to the part of us that believes it can free itself by not wanting to be itself.