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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Guy Finley explains that you can never be free of anything you resist. In order to transcend any pain or problem, you must meet it completely, as you are, and accept what life is trying to give you so that you can grow into a new order of yourself.

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Question: When I am in physical pain and not in control of what my body is doing, is there a tip you can give me for easing the seemingly inevitable anxiety?

Answer: In one sense, everything about this life is a kind of preparation for death. This death that is inevitable physically is one indicator that we should be using its long shadow to find ways to stand in the Light. As strange as it seems, it is this fear or resistance to our own physical end that perpetuates our painful relationship with it. It is hard to understand, but if we will not run from this fear, but rather become intimate with it, we will grow so tired of being afraid that we will die to the fear. Dying to this fear is the real beginning of dying to death. This is something you cannot have explained to you, but rather it is a bold inner requirement we are all given the opportunity to realize. If we will refuse to run from the battle we face, whatever it may be, victory appears!

If it weren’t that unwanted “things” come along as they do – reducing us to nothing — how would we ever realize

that already living in us is everything needed to transcend all that we are.

Question: I am always so impressed with people who are able to overcome their physical impairments with grace and a positive outlook. How can we transform our physical pains into spiritual gain?

Answer: Until you change what you do with your pain, you cannot be healed. Suffering is a kind of seed that holds the capacity to deliver us from darkness or confirm our suffering. Our usual response to pain tells us what we need to do to get past it. The only thing we can change about our lives is what we hold to be true… we can’t change anything else. We suffer because of what we “know” is true; our sense of self stands upon the ideas we are identified with. God gives us the will to choose what we want. What’s not up to us is everything that leads up to the moment of choice. Pain is the passage that can lead to revelation, to a brand new understanding and identity.