Question: I have struggled for the past couple years with co-workers. Many of them seem intent on making me feel bad by making degrading comments about me. I have felt targeted for ridicule, and as a result don’t have much confidence […]
Question: Without reverting to their lower level, how do you get people to stop making their hurtful, cut-down remarks? Answer: One of the reasons people pounce on or attack us the way they do, is that they are feeding off […]
Question: In my job I must deal daily with several emotionally dark coworkers. What can I do to handle this situation better, besides getting another job? Answer: I know that it is difficult to be surrounded by toxic people; however, […]
In those moments when we meet a challenge that stands in our way, we are not meeting some immovable, transient object. In reality, we are meeting nothing more than our own present understanding of that event. Wherever we are — […]
Guy Finley explains that when you feel betrayed by God, the actual betrayal is that your own mind would lead you to believe that God deserts those who love him.
Freedom from the prison of negative states remains impossible until one loses interest in the false, but powerful, sense of self derived from identifying with (one’s own) surging sensations.
Guy Finley explains that each of us is a unique blend of energies, both positive and negative, all of which are meant to be used for the purpose of self-revelation.
Whenever a negative state comes to you, try to see yourself in that state through the intelligence of the following idea as opposed to seeing it through the ignorance that the state produces in you: All negative states are an […]
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]
We must develop the patience to watch a moment long enough to see that the pain in it belongs to the self that insists that life honors its preferences. When we are impatient, we are certain that it is because […]
All forms of negativity may only dwell in us as long as they trick us into granting them permission to live there. Our task isn’t to overpower, or otherwise deny these sufferings, but to bring such light to bear upon […]
Hoping to help someone — who loves to be negative — see the harm of being identified with dark states, is like trying to teach a bat to appreciate sunlight, or a mud hen to preen in fresh clean waters.
No person is good or bad in and of himself, any more than a trumpet is good or bad for the music sounded out of its horn. It is the “player,” the musician behind the mouthpiece who determines these qualities […]
Question: I am at work sometimes as much as I am at home. How do we avoid the negative influences of others in the workplace? Answer: The whole point is not that we avoid what are unavoidable, difficult conditions, but […]
There are many un-illumined and downward trending parts in all of us that not only seek out their unconscious counterparts (in others) but that are secretly strengthened in the conflicted company of such dark and negative energies. We can see […]
Do you ever experience a nagging feeling that something is missing in your life? In this talk Guy Finley explains why this feeling exists and what you can do to move beyond it forever.
Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s […]
Most of us spend a lot more time trying to deal with discontentment than is obvious at first glance. Depending on how the day breaks for us, we may find ourselves feeling discontent about our life whenever we: • Compare […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about an idea that, if understood properly, has the power to forever change the way we respond to situations that usually instigate a painful conflict of one kind or another.
Question: Can you briefly state an effective way to use feelings of discouragement for spiritual growth? Answer: You may have this backwards. We don’t use clouds to realize the sun. When the clouds are gone, the sun is there. Discouragement […]
Guy Finley explains the necessity to remain as conscious as possible to any inner pain as it’s occurring. He points out the paradox that in spite of the burning sensation, something in me wants to hold on to it. Our […]
The experience of every moment of our life is a direct reflection of our nature. We never experience anything that does not arise directly from our own inner life. Life always happens from the inside out. What we know and […]
Guy Finley speaks about how it’s possible to live completely free from fear, worry, and other self-limiting thoughts and feelings.
Guy Finley explains how an event (the active) stirs into existence what was passive in us. The disturbance reveals what was always there even though we weren’t aware of it. Then there is a reconciliation. Anything that tries to justify […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we must always make an effort to be awake so that we can begin using life’s currents and waves for our own interior growth. Click here to listen to “Go Against […]
Your original Self doesn’t come loaded with worry, regret, fear, resentment, or, for that matter, any other self-limiting states that can grow where darkness gathers. Self-limiting thoughts or feelings have power over us only when we are tricked into believing […]
In this life, we have one of two choices when it comes to painful events, past or present. We can either go on hating and fearing what we think life has done to us (or others), and let these negative […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how most of the unnecessary struggle and conflict that we experience in this life is due to our habitual, unconscious fixation on recurring thoughts and feelings. Click here to listen to “End the […]
Don’t be afraid to let the truth strike you. What does this mean? Whether in simple truths like the ones you’re about to read, or in an moment of great personal crisis, don’t fear what life is trying to show […]
What else is the blow of any pain that follows the loss of something thought to be our own, but a sharp and merciful reminder that in this life we do not possess what we imagine we do! *** The […]
Not only is resistance an unseen form of attachment, but it’s also a form of attention…and attention “animates” whatever it touches, because attention is relationship. If one will take the time to see the truth of these thoughts, this means […]
Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it? Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly […]
Part 1 The proven way to end ninety-nine percent of those heart-heavy feelings that drag you down each day is to stop thinking about yourself! Part 2 The only way to realize a life free of painful comparison to others […]
At one time I lived in a beautiful part of California called Ojai. The upper Ojai Valley is filled with huge walnut and oak trees that stand out against a backdrop of scrub and high chaparral. The seasons are marked […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about a new understanding of ourselves that will put an end to unconscious suffering… if we will remember to put it into practice. Click here to listen to “Self-Healing Begins as Self-Hurting Ends”
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why we must come to realize the need to shake ourselves awake as often as possible if we want to be free of the negative states that currently pull us down. Click […]
Learn the hard lessons and watch your life become easier… Conditions reveal our character, just as our character helps to create the conditions that reveal it in turn. This means that struggling to change some unwanted condition without first addressing […]
Question: It seems like the more I struggle with a disturbance, the more it stays with me. The more I think about it, the more intense it gets. What is the way out of this trap? Answer: No disturbance of […]
This time of year, all kinds of animals in nature are on the move, the leaves are swirling around, winter is bearing down upon us, and it’s hard to miss the fact that everything is changing… everything that is except […]
Things go wrong in life. They just do. And sometimes downturns feel like they’ll never get back to right-side up. Life is like that. So what! What we have been given is not what makes us who we are: the […]
Dark inner states win their victory over us because we believe in them. More to the point, we believe in the illusions they create within us without seeing that these same mistaken beliefs then shape the structure of our reality. […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how true beauty is never absent from our lives, even in the midst of a troubling moment. Click here to listen to this podcast “Turn the Table on Any Troubling Moment”
Most of us have found ourselves washed away, overcome by a flood of punishing thoughts and feelings. Picture a desperate man being swept down a river, grabbing onto whatever comes along, and it’s easy to see how we end up […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how freedom from unhappiness and frustration appears naturally as we learn to let go of false purposes. Click here to listen to this podcast “Free Yourself From the Pain of False Purposes”
If you can do nothing else in some moment of being a slave to some negative state, then at least work to remember your real wish to serve what is right and true, regardless of the cost to you. This […]
Question: Do you have any suggestions for making use of idle time such as waiting in lines, traffic, doctor offices, etc.? Answer: Any time we feel ourselves getting bored or “up tight” because we feel our time is being wasted, […]
Most of us must go to work every day and perform repetitive tasks that are rarely of our choosing. And when these unwanted routines run — as they do — it isn’t long before our growing resistance to them leaves […]
Question: Why does it feel so good to give in to depression? And why is it so hard to see the truth that wallowing in sadness in fact does us no good? Answer: We value negative states because of the […]
The true spiritual battle occurs in the “dark” of us, a contest between the light of our wish to be better than the bitterness in us, or higher than some heartache or hatred dragging us down. Whatever its nature, this […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how resistance to any negative state such as anger, anxiety, or fear does not help diminish the state, but instead actually causes the state to gain mass and strengthens the illusion that it […]
Question: The past keeps coming into my thoughts when situations arise that bring rehearsed doom and gloom feelings that hamper the chance for success in the present. What do I do in that moment? Meditate? Pray? Try to think of […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about what it would mean for us to let real life sound its essential notes within us without the unnecessary dissonance of our resistance. Click here to listen to this podcast “Just Let the […]
We find it natural to seek relief from the world around us, a world appearing to be one stronghold atop another of stressful conditions and anxiety-producing events. Accordingly, we seek relief from these contentment-crushing states by struggling to change those […]
QUESTION What is the source of the “blues,” and what is the most effective way to begin shaking it?
We can either fight for our spiritual right to awaken to the world within us where passing time and its troubles are without negative influence over us, or we can quit on ourselves and become whatever the world makes of […]
QUESTION What do I tell my children when they ask me about predictions for the future? They are feeling the doom and gloom of it all.
Discover a whole new way to meet the storms of life in this video blog by Guy Finley. You’ll learn the true purpose of all psychological storms and how to use their power to refresh and renew your life.
In this video blog by Guy Finley learn the secret truth behind the fact that no negative state can exist without resistance and begin to free yourself of troubling thoughts and feelings.
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how getting angry over our present limitations actually prevents us from consciously meeting and transcending them.
We secretly need those we disdain to be who and what they are — so that in our judgment of them we can “thank our lucky stars” that we’re “not like that”; but seen properly, this gratitude is base and […]
Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]
We all have things inside of us that we fear: haunting thoughts and dark feelings we sense are down there, but that we’d rather not face for fear they may drag us down into their domain. So instead of questioning […]
QUESTION I get so easily confused these days as I wrestle with all the ways one hears about how to handle difficult people. No one approach seems to apply or work with everyone. It seems I can only repeat solutions […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley explores how a true spiritual warrior is not someone who imagines future victories to come, but is the individual who is willing to step onto the battlefield and meet what he or she must.
Though few understand the truth of the following, freedom is (always) a question of possibilities. Prisons, of any kind, strip away our possibilities. For example, (an inmate) has lost the simple freedom to just wander where he wishes, outside in […]
In the moment you find yourself stressed, tense, worried, irritable, or angry — when you find yourself in a negative state, thinking about what to do about your negativity — all you have to do to break free is realize […]
QUESTION High anxiety has plagued me for sometime now, though I am not always conscious of it — I only realize it when I start having physical symptoms, like insomnia, or a racing heart. I am not sure how to […]
Learn about true peace in this video blog by Guy Finley. Release yourself from the mind that prompts you to worry by asking “What If?”, by remembering that Presence knows what to do in any moment.
How many of us spend our precious time and energy fuming over what others may have done to us? Unseen in the steam of our heated emotions and churning thoughts is the one inescapable fact that we are the secret […]
QUESTION Why is it that when it comes to others, I don’t say what I feel until I am irritated? Then I don’t care what I say to get my point across!
In this podcast, Guy Finley describes a new kind of interior, conscious resolve in which a person ceases to tolerate the deceptive demands of negative states.
What is it that confines you? What is it that won’t let you play, talk, or interact? What is it that says you can’t write, or you’ll never sing? What is it that says you’re not as good as someone […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how you can start enjoying every moment your life, no matter what it is that you have to do.
It’s a little known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth but, when it comes to what we […]
Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us — because physically we are different — but inwardly we all live in the same pool. We all have pain and pleasure, we all […]
Never accept the lingering presence of any negative state. These unconscious forces must appear within us, but they must never be allowed to define us or our actions. The awakening mind — or even one disposed toward such an end […]
How do you move from a life of endless problems to a life of endless possibilities? Learn to cultivate the four conditions of happiness: clear eyes, a quiet mind, a sense of beauty, and an open heart.
Here is how to receive a gift from Life greater than can be told: never again give to another person any thought or feeling that you wouldn’t want to keep for yourself. To help you consider this lesson more deeply, […]
Discover how to use interior storms to develop an unshakeable understanding of the cycles of life and our true relationship with them. In this video blog by Guy Finley he explains that in the grand scheme of things every movement […]
Always strive to remember that there is neither one thing practical, nor wise, about any state-of-self that punishes you; even when, as in the case of anxiety, it sweetly promises to release you once you’ve done its bidding. So, regardless […]
No one, no thing – no dark thought or feeling – has either the right or the power to limit your freedom without your consent. This knowledge is the key to tossing these tyrants out of your life. Becoming a […]
Reliving a past pain in the belief that revisiting it will keep you from going through that same suffering again is like throwing money out the window of a moving car so that you won’t spend it foolishly later!
In moments of challenge, the tendency is to immediately resist the situation because of the pain it seems to bring with it. But, the truth of the moment is very different from this habitual perception and mechanical reaction to it.