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Brooding, resenting, blaming, regretting—all are forms of unconscious suffering; each and all serve to strengthen the false notion that our negative state is caused by a condition outside of us. These dark shadows that always trail behind unwanted moments serve […]

Confusion is a kind of psychic traffic jam in the mind, often manifesting itself at the onset of some challenging moment. And while we usually blame this interior tangle on conditions outside of us, the facts—once revealed—tell another story. Confusion […]

Tucked into a deep, high remote canyon somewhere in the Himalayan Mountains sits a secret monastery assigned the task of training would-be adepts in the lost science of self-realization. Only those who have studied there or who are allowed to […]

Resistance to unwanted moments seems intelligent; it feels wise to disagree with whatever we perceive as punishing. But this resistance does not separate us from our suffering; instead, it binds us to it. www.YourImmortalSelf.com

Guy Finley clarifies that working to meet challenging moments “impersonally” does not mean to pretend you’re not bothered by what comes up inside of you, but to receive the impressions from the unwanted event fully so that it can be […]

If there could be only one idea — a lamp whose light could show the aspirant of real life the way out of the prison of dark thoughts and punishing feelings — it would surely be this: your true self […]

Most of us, on a day-to-day basis, go through life carried along by a constant stream of expectations. In fact, these expectations are so common to our sense of self and its well-being that we barely even realize we have them […]

The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. In other […]

Question: I want to grow spiritually, but somehow I have to move beyond justifying my weaknesses if I’m ever going to learn the lessons meant for me. How do I stop justifying the messes I’ve made in my life? Answer: […]

We rarely see how, or when we act against ourselves – or others – because of how instantly, easily we agree to identify with a legion of sleep-inducing thoughts and feelings that appear to serve one purpose: to justify a […]