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To be your own person — to have your own life — begins with quietly refusing to be what “others” would have you be so that they can have the life that they want!

Question: Why do I care at all about how I appear in the eyes of others? Answer: Please follow this explanation carefully. It will set you back on the road to having your own life. You have always believed that […]

The part of us that tries to feel better about itself — by seeking approval from other people — is itself the source of the disturbance that we feel. Awareness of this fact allows for a natural separation and release […]

Anger or resentment toward someone who has left us does not prove we love and they don’t. It proves we don’t understand the true nature of love, or we wouldn’t be ripping ourselves apart because someone tore from us something […]

We have all been hurt, left with a heart wounded by others who seem to go on just fine without us. In moments of such loss, our emptiness doesn’t stay empty for long; we are soon filled with anger, guilt, […]

Question: I am struggling to get over a relationship that just felt so good in so many ways. She left me because she had a feeling in her gut that it was not right. I find myself constantly thinking about her and […]

How many men or women do you know that when a fight has begun – or even in the middle of one – they suddenly see and agree that to blame the other person for the state that they are […]

Question: I feel completely drained of my own energy at the end of the day. Is there a way to deliver God’s limitless energy and love to people so that I can stay energized in the interaction instead of drained? […]

Trying to support an illusion steals your energy and those with whom you interact. Real life does not drain you as you learn to “be” with others…

You can’t have your own life until you learn to challenge the “status quo” (spiritually speaking), and consciously face your fear of the pain it will bring…