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Question: Can guilt be used to tell me that I did something that needs to be changed? Answer: Guilt is a wasted, useless, and ultimately self-destructive state. We need only see ourselves as we are in the moment when misstepping. […]

Being able to release one’s resistance to any unwanted moments does more than help to change the tide of events; it proves that there’s always a safe harbor available… if we’ll just remember to “swim” for it!

When things don’t go the way we want them to, our tendency is to turn negative on the spot. It’s as if something in us throws a switch and, the next moment — like being caught in the surge of […]

When expectations get dashed, we don’t see new possibilities unfolding; all we see is the way things should have gone. We don’t see what is with all of its positive possibilities; instead we see only the negative . . . […]

It is never the unwanted condition itself that has us stuck, but that we are unknowingly hung up in habitual thoughts and feelings about our situation.

Question: When things don’t work out in my life — when I lose someone or something — I am plagued by thoughts over what could have/should have been. How do I pull myself out of this obsessive thinking about what I […]

The longer any illusion is taken to be real, the less illusory it seems to be . . .

The main reason we must always remember to hold our chin up whenever negative thoughts try to drag us down is that whichever direction we choose first in that moment is what the rest of us will follow.

Any human being who has to hold himself together is someone who is ready to fall apart. Trying to hold yourself together is a terrible way to go through life. Our task is to prove this to ourselves. The fears […]

In order to have a sunny life on a moment-to-moment basis, you must be willing to let something new happen to you. No one sincerely asks for a new life until they are thoroughly dissatisfied with the old one. Letting […]