In this brief audio clip, bestselling author Guy Finley says that we experience unnecessary pain in this life because we value the wrong things.
Real life never stops starting over, but before one can dwell in this this newness—and know its unencumbered freedom—one must let go of any and all attachments in the past that produce a painful sense of self. www.YourImmortalSelf.com
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about what it means to let go of something without needing to know beforehand the outcome of that sacrifice.
In one sense, the interior journey that leads to the immortal Self is demanding and difficult, even seemingly impossible at times; and yet, as paradoxical as it seems, there is nothing intrinsically hard about rising above ourselves and slipping into […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley describes what it takes to let go and let a higher intelligence reconcile the sense of dissatisfaction we feel in our lives.
We all know exactly what it is like to be certain we have let go of something sorrowful or worrisome, only to find ourselves in a similar sad situation moments later. Merely wanting to let go of an unhappy circumstance […]
Our demands that life be what we want it to be do not make life more desirable… they only hide from us just how undesirable it is to be who we are in that moment…
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
We may not yet see it as being so, but whenever unwanted situations come along — stripping us of some beloved attachment — it is the operation of one world acting upon another. There is our familiar world, the one […]
Isn’t it frustrating that on one hand you know that you’re supposed to have nice relationships with everyone, and yet you have almost no relationship with anyone that actually is nice? It’s a real grain of sand in one’s soul… […]
The past is as powerless to darken the present moment, as is a shadow to reach up and drag down the form that casts it…
What do we need to do to rise above the limitations of our present understanding — limitations that, seen or not, play a role in our daily dose of heartache? The answer may surprise you! Truth teachings throughout the ages […]
Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]
Question: I’ve been having many issues lately with past pain. If someone hurt me in the past, and a situation happens now that is similar to that, my mind instantly jumps to the conclusion of the past and takes my […]
Question: Is there any value to “clearing away” the wreckage of the past? It seems to help, yet I feel wrong in trying to correct so many wrongs that are behind me. Answer: The wreckage of the past exists only […]
The past is the past. It has no foothold in us save for the parts of us that are fascinated with reliving the pain for the purpose of confirming the reality of self. The darkness that torments us over what […]
Guy Finley explains that anytime we feel a disturbance in our life, our tendency is to turn to our own mind for relief, by worrying, blaming others, thinking about what to do. This is the action of a divided mind, […]
Question: I am sure there are multitudes of memories and experiences we are better off to drop as soon as they end. However, there are many we may live out our lives and never top — such as our first, […]
Question: How can I move beyond a painful regret? Answer: Events demand decisions. Choices must be made. And we do the best we know how in any given moment. Even so, we often err and choose against ourselves. For a […]
Question: I recently found out that my husband of 21 years has been unfaithful. I should have picked up on the signs long ago, but what do I do now? Do I go out and find another love? I feel […]
Our experience of life, our relationship to it, is directly, intimately connected to the way in which we see it — meaning it is our understanding of life that determines how we “go” through it. This is why new, true […]
Guy Finley explores the popular passage “Ask and you shall receive,” and discusses what it means to really ask with a whole heart.
The study of physics — of the laws that govern relationships — reveals some very telling spiritual truths, if one has “eyes” to see. For instance…every mass in the universe pulls on every other mass, and the strength of that […]
Question: I’m unsure about which way to go… what to do… to get out of “wrong” life that I’ve been in for years. Along with a troubled marriage, I am paying for making the totally wrong choices for myself, being […]
Guy Finley explains how an event (the active) stirs into existence what was passive in us. The disturbance reveals what was always there even though we weren’t aware of it. Then there is a reconciliation. Anything that tries to justify […]
The only kind of “thanks” you can expect from others who see that you’ve decided to serve something higher than your own self-centered interests — including bringing an end to your previous support of their inflated self images — is […]
Question: My mind is a constant racket. The thinking noise never seems to end. Something has to be done about this way of reacting to life that has plagued me for so many years. I have to find a way […]
If you would like to begin in earnest the good work of letting go of dark, self-punishing states, start here: Never give to another person a slice of any mental or emotional state of yours that you have not taken […]
In that moment when we are thrown into emotional conflict, regardless of its initial cause, the first step this in-the-dark nature takes to deceive us is to direct our awareness away from the actual hurt we feel. It accomplishes this […]
By the very absence of the healing that ought naturally follow any form of injury, we should be able to deduce that certain counter forces must be at work within us. There have to be unseen anti-healing forces with a […]
If one day you bang your elbow and seven years later the same spot still aches, and now radiating pains are appearing in your fingers and shoulder, you would start to suspect that something in your body’s system was amiss! […]
Question: I’m so tired of living the same old life that leads me nowhere toward the peace I want. So why is it so hard to just let go of it all? Answer: There is one very shocking fact along […]
Real Life is change itself, a ceaseless flow of creative forces expressed in ever-new forms. So, our inability to make a fresh start isn’t because Life refuses us what we need to succeed. The problem is this: before we can […]
Letting go is an act of agreement with life; it is an accord on our part with what the present moment is telling us about ourselves as it unfolds before us — and within us — asking us what it […]
Question: Following the path you speak of gives me only temporary freedom from pain. This is actually my fault because after getting freedom, I forget to continue meditation, which gives past pain some time to regain strength to attack me […]
I am going to try to tell you something that if you are at all serious about being reborn, you will have to understand . . . First, there really exists such a thing as being reborn, but rebirth is […]
Awakening to our own true nature is a process of letting go. This point is a significant one. We don’t set out for what is limitless. Instead we quietly detect and reject those aspects of ourselves whose presence prevents us […]
In the competitive and complex worlds of business and science, imagination is critical to the processes of creativity. It serves a valuable and practical purpose. New developments are created by imagining better ways to improve old technologies. Important developments come […]
Question: What is the role of guilt? And what is the role of self-blame for personal wrongs committed? What about confession of sins? Answer: The role of guilt belongs to the self-wrecking parts of one’s self that persist in unconsciously […]
The need to be whole, to know God’s love and forgiveness is something seeded into the soul that He places there. Our task is to cultivate the “earth” of ourselves, to do the weeding and watering, and ensure that the […]
In difficult moments with others let us remember this truth: it is better to find ourselves lacking the love we need to be kind — and to quietly suffer this humiliation — than it is to act from what is […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how any kind of blame is actually an avoidance of seeing yourself as you actually are in the present moment. Click here to listen to “Blame Schmame”
A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll […]
Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged? Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, […]
In this life . . . we are unable to forget whatever remains unforgiven. So, if we won’t let go of some pain — whose time has now past — then who is to blame for the weight of this […]
Life is trying to reach us and teach us, through our experience of it, that we need new and true answers. These higher answers serve as a special kind of personal shelter that effortlessly keeps out what is harmful and […]
Key Lesson: The smaller the self, the bigger the sense of offense it takes whenever anyone steps up to challenge one of its precious self-images. Realize Real Self-Command There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over […]
The meditative life is not limited to sitting down someplace quietly, nor is it limited to someplace in time where we can control conditions so that we can experience something of a quiet mind. It can be said that meditation […]
How many of us spend our precious time and energy fuming over what others may have done to us? Unseen in the steam of our heated emotions and churning thoughts is the one inescapable fact that we are the secret […]
If you ever really want to know why there’s a fairly consistent amount of stress (in you) in the midst of your conversation with others, just work during the time in question to be more interested in discovering the truth […]
Question: I (and many others) have lost so much in the recent storm. How do we begin to move beyond all the grief and suffering to some kind of peace and understanding of why such a thing could have happened? […]
Even though we may feel badly when we lose whatever or whoever we hold near and dear to ourselves, it is good to see that nothing in this world — or that we can imagine — is permanent. Learning to […]
Question: I have been married for more many years. Recently, I discovered that my husband, who travels a lot for his job, has been unfaithful to me during his time away from home. I don’t want to expose that I […]
Without our unconscious consent, regardless of what we may have done against others, or ourselves, the past is powerless to punish us in the present moment. *** Do what is in your power: refuse to do what is not. It […]
Our task, if we want to be free human beings — if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us “what he did,” “what she didn’t do,” “what never worked out” — begins with discovering […]
Here is a life-saving fact, so welcome the healing it brings by being willing to see the truth hidden within it: There lives nothing real in our past — regardless of how disappointing or painful it may have been — […]
Some come upon the truth of things only once they’ve run aground on the reefs of remorse; others long for anchorage in what endures only after the winds of fortune slack off, leaving their sails full of emptiness. But the […]
Question: What about the idea of repentance? On one hand, being repentant for ourselves — as certain old religious teachings say we should be — seems as much a part of being self-punishing as is just “cutting loose,” going wild, […]
Question: Painful experiences from my past have a way of coming to the surface and wrecking me all over again. How do I stop engaging myself with the past, and how do I leave this pain behind me once and for […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about why human beings are so addicted to stress and tension, and why it is so important for us to understand that something within us actually enjoys being anxious. Click here to listen […]
There are those who will tell you why it is wise to never forget the pain of the past . . . but if you look closely at the anger, sorrow, and bitterness that has hardened their faces, then you […]
The following thoughts are for all of us who have ever been hurt, which means the following insights are for the whole world. Here’s what to do whenever we find ourselves wrapped in the flames of that burning house called […]
There lives nothing real in our past — regardless of how disappointing or painful it may have been — that can grab us and make us its captive, any more than a dark shadow has the power to keep us […]
Since the truth is that we do not have to share a single moment with the memory of anything that we don’t want to, this means there is something in our present nature that wants to recall painful past experiences. […]
As summer trees must cast off their ripened fruits, so the whole summer season must submit itself to the coming cooler days of fall. And, accordingly, as the earth turns, each season must let go and allow the coming season […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how painful tension persists because we are relying on something outside of ourselves to tell us who we are. Click here to listen to “Stop Waiting and Start Living”
The autumnal equinox marks the beginning of nature’s quiet retreat, a return journey back into the great “storehouse of life” wherein she will rest for awhile before becoming active once again. We see this same dynamic principle of outflow and […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how freedom from unhappiness and frustration appears naturally as we learn to let go of false purposes. Click here to listen to this podcast “Free Yourself From the Pain of False Purposes”
Question: I know that my husband has cheated on me in the past. We fight over this since he was not honest with me. I still love him but cannot trust or respect him just yet. I want to make it […]
Summer is a secret time of sacrifice; it marks nature’s perpetual passage from one form into another. The evidence is everywhere: flowers shed their petals to reveal the baby fruits hidden in their buds, even as other maturing fruits ripen […]
One of the secret reasons why summer is a welcome time of the year is because as temperatures start to gradually rise, so do our spirits! After all, who doesn’t feel better after a day by cooling waters, a late-afternoon […]
If all things are means, Then means are the end, Our pleasures and pains But a river’s bend; So flow, flow on my soul, Let go . . . once again.
In this podcast, Guy Finley explains how we have wrongly come to rely upon unnatural stress and tension as a requirement for our own psychological preservation. Click here to listen to this podcast “Do Yourself a Favor and Relax”
Stand, like mountain, Bend, like reed. Surge, like fountain, Wait, like seed. Give, like sunshine, Melt, like snow. Live like springtime . . . Come and go.
How can we harness the planetary power of spring for our own good? Here are just a few of the many ways we can work with the season to start a new life for ourselves: All past wishes lying dormant […]
QUESTION What is it in me that wants to re-live painful moments from my past, and what’s it going to take for me to break through to totally present living? Is there a way to live in the present so […]
QUESTION What is the best way to make up for past wrongs to others (betraying, lying, stealing, etc.)? ANSWER All of us have wronged others. Truth be known, until we wake up, we are all — in one form or […]
Perhaps you have heard the expression that God never gives you more than you can handle. And perhaps you wondered whether or not it was true. I’m now going to tell you why it’s the absolute truth. It’s the absolute […]
The spiritual work of letting go and of growing into our native holiness is unlike any other kind of effort one will ever have to make. It starts with embracing — and then daring to act upon — the understanding […]
Whenever you feel pressed in by life, it’s because you are pushing. Don’t push. It doesn’t work. Do something different. Try changing places in the moment with yourself by daring to step out of that self that’s insisting you change […]
Once we start to see, to know in our innermost heart, that life itself is already complete, we can let go of whatever — or whoever — would have us believe otherwise. Old attachments and their long-standing aches are now […]
If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our selfishness. We must learn what it means to consciously suffer […]
Feeling sorry for yourself is not an action… anymore than reliving some old regret has the power to change your present nature. Struggle with yourself; reaching takes disturbing the one who rests; yet, as surely as a seedling breaks out […]
In this video blog Guy Finley invites you to discover the constant refreshment of what is always beautiful and true by agreeing to be one with spirit of change itself.
It always amazes me on sun-bright mornings such as this one how I could have ever forgotten just how much beauty hides in a winter day. The ground is covered in rich brown tones borrowed from curling leaves. Here and […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how real relationship with the present moment requires both receptivity and letting go.
If fall signals the retreat of nature — as when the last leaves fall from the trees and countless creatures crawl into nooks and crannies to pass through the bone-chilling days to come — then the first day of winter, […]
In this High Holiday Season, so full of self-created gratification, we should never forget that hidden in the shadow of all passing pleasures dwells their unseen opposite, some form of sorrow that — sooner or later — must visit the […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how getting angry over our present limitations actually prevents us from consciously meeting and transcending them.
Freedom from fear has nothing to do with acquiring powers or possessions, so as to change or otherwise control those moments that seem to darken our life; real fearlessness is in our divine right to take whatever is unwanted… and […]
Two men stroll down a leaf-covered wood lot path on a clear, brisk autumn morning. Jeff and Mark have been friends for years. They enjoy their Saturday morning walks and talks together. Yet, something’s different about Mark today. Jeff senses […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the fact that as human beings we are intended to live as instruments of God’s life, as opposed to the present-day mindset in which we believe that our own self-created songs are all […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how a real spiritual life becomes possible for us when we begin to act on what we know is true.
The official start of the fall season is September 23, the autumnal equinox. This date is auspicious because it marks the onset of a great, but mostly unrecognized, cycle in life. Autumn days signal a new kind of activity; it’s […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how a new, whole relationship with life is possible for the human being who is willing to let go of the endless struggle of trying to become someone special.
QUESTION In your new book, The Courage to Be Free, you talk about seeing the good when things look bad. Many people are seeing a lot of bad right now — the economy has hurt many people and nature itself […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley describes a new kind of interior, conscious resolve in which a person ceases to tolerate the deceptive demands of negative states.
What is it that confines you? What is it that won’t let you play, talk, or interact? What is it that says you can’t write, or you’ll never sing? What is it that says you’re not as good as someone […]
Guy Finley speaks about topics related to his new book The Courage to Be Free including fear and fearlessness, beauty, kindness, love, and the authentic path to an enlightened heart and mind. Released worldwide today. Visit http://thecouragetobefree.com/
There may be no greater self-deception than the false notion that rushing through anything actually helps us in any way whatsoever. After all, if anxious thoughts and feelings had any power to deliver us to a place or time where […]
QUESTION Guy, the title of your new book, The Courage to Be Free, raises an immediate question. Why does it take courage to be free?
It is possible for the willing soul to awaken from its spiritual slumber, but such freedom has its cost: We must catch what compromises us, realize the fact of it, and then see how our identification with that unconscious character […]
At least twice a month I receive an email or letter telling me how much anger and hatred the person is feeling towards someone who betrayed them in some way…and asking how on earth can it be possible to live […]
QUESTION If there’s really a way to take the torment out of personal loss, I want to know about it. But the whole idea of not feeling loss also frightens me in a way that’s hard to describe. I mean, […]
It’s a little known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth but, when it comes to what we […]
Summer is the time of natural abundance. These are the days of a great conversion: the whole of life flourishes, fulfills, and feeds itself at once. We see before us the immeasurable power of plentitude. But what do we stand […]
QUESTION What’s wrong with knowing that someone or something outside of me is responsible for making me feel unhappy?
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains why there is never any good reason to feel disappointed or discouraged about your life.
Preparation, hard work, is part of perfecting whatever you’ve imagined you want to attain in this world. But there is a world beyond anything we can imagine; (it is) an intelligent presence, a “place” of powers and principles whose self-obliterating […]
Never run from any blow that life brings to you . . .for within you dwells a yet unknown Character whose Celestial Nature is to whatever may assail you as is the native element of gold to the mallet of […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley explains how being true to ourselves is the same thing as not resisting what life brings to us.
Life will fill Whatever you empty . . . And whatever you fill, Life will empty. That’s the code; The hidden conduct of contentment Wrapped in mystery, Filled with contradiction.
Learn how agreement can be the key to understanding in every moment. In this video blog by Guy Finley he reveals how disagreement prevents true learning, and continues the conflict with the lessons that life brings. To agree with life […]
We must learn to wish for whatever life brings us, for there is no other way to earn the kind of unshakable gratitude that lets us live with grace. The only way a man or woman will ever know a […]
In this powerful podcast, Guy Finley points the way to a completely new understanding about your own mind that can forever free you from the painful sting of past regrets.
In moments of challenge, the tendency is to immediately resist the situation because of the pain it seems to bring with it. But, the truth of the moment is very different from this habitual perception and mechanical reaction to it.
Let me extend a warm welcome to you, my new friends along the Way, and invite you to journey along with me as we make some wonderful discoveries about the true nature of letting go, and what it takes to […]