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In difficult moments with others let us remember this truth: it is better to find ourselves lacking the love we need to be kind — and to quietly suffer this humiliation — than it is to act from what is […]

A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll […]

Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged? Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, […]

Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]

If it helps, think of troubling times like these as your having been distracted while taking a long walk through the city. Maybe you were caught up with thinking about the “good old days!” Then you suddenly realize that, in […]

Our task, if we want to be free human beings — if we want a life in which we no longer carry around with us “what he did,” “what she didn’t do,” “what never worked out” — begins with discovering […]

The following thoughts are for all of us who have ever been hurt, which means the following insights are for the whole world. Here’s what to do whenever we find ourselves wrapped in the flames of that burning house called […]

There lives nothing real in our past — regardless of how disappointing or painful it may have been — that can grab us and make us its captive, any more than a dark shadow has the power to keep us […]

In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the unseen connection between lying and having enemies. Click here to listen to this podcast “The Truth About Lying”

QUESTION What is it in me that wants to re-live painful moments from my past, and what’s it going to take for me to break through to totally present living? Is there a way to live in the present so […]