Guy Finley explains that the only way to genuinely help a loved one who is suffering is by first learning to bear the pain their suffering brings up within us.
We can teach others only by what we are. . .
Guy Finley explains that because children mainly learn from visual cues and emotional emanations, the best, most effective way to teach a child is by being a living example of the understanding you wish to impart.
Question: Should I help my children learn to have a quiet time (learn to watch their thoughts and be silent)? The four-year old is a little young; the seven-year old doesn’t want to do it. Should I just leave them […]
Question: I am 20 weeks pregnant. I’ve already felt the strong precious being inside of me. Especially when I am praying I feel the Spirit in my child. What words of direction can you give to me about being a […]
Question: I understand the nature of fear and how it feeds on itself, but I would like to know more about the right words and actions to be used when dealing with my child’s fear of the dark. I know […]
Guy Finley reveals and explains the four words that will always aid you and those around you in any stressful family situation.
Here’s a simple but ultimately very self-liberating action to take if you wish to reduce the amount of stress and anxiety that you feel in the company of others, friends, or family: Choose to be more interested in quietly discovering […]
Our true responsibility as caregivers is to lead by example… by living up to our own spiritual potential.
Guy Finley responds to a question about the spiritual potential of autistic children, and reveals that the true responsibility of a caregiver is to first live up to their own potential.
Question: Any thoughts on what is a good way to share my spiritual work with my kids? Answer: Be as consciously kind as you can be, which means to not express (but watch instead) your negative states. Be as encouraging […]
Question: You have said to “follow what you love” and the rest of your life will take care of itself. I have been pondering whether or not to pursue a hobby as a business. The “still small voice” tells me […]
Question: I have struggled with my career and work for all of my life. My wife and I live frugally, not wastefully, and do our best to be responsible householders. You have said that we must first be good householders […]
If we went through our day tending half as much to the care of God’s business, as we give to our own affairs, then — from the resulting light of gladness seen spreading across the faces of family, friends, and […]
Question: On the householder’s path, I sometimes find it difficult to stop doing the mental work and start doing the mundane day-to-day tasks. Any suggestions for getting the same enthusiasm in earning our daily bread? Answer: Life gives us back […]
Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]
Guy Finley briefly describes in this short talk how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary kind of interior self-work that changes everything.
Question: My teenage son studies hard, but his grades remain below average. I would like to be able to offer him some trick about studying and taking exams that would help him to achieve good results. Answer: All of us, […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we are all intended to understand the purpose of this life, which is to be a conscious participant in the moment-to-moment unfolding of this present moment. Click here to listen to […]
Question: My mom was a very talented professional singer. My daughter has the most beautiful voice I have ever heard and singing is as natural as breathing to her! She is embarking upon a life of medical service but I’m […]
You teach others (and yourself) when you do not react in alarm to some potentially frightening news or event. The people around you receive the lesson that those events, of themselves, have not the power to make or break the […]
Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it? Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly […]
Question: My 15-year old stepson purposely causes trouble when he comes to visit. He has colored hair and chains around his neck connected by small locks. He smokes, and speaks in a stream of four-letter words. He says he hates […]
Question: How can you stay peaceful when you are with people whose lives are really in distress, especially when they are close to you? Answer: You must ask yourself a different question. I’d suggest the following: What could be more […]
Question: What steps can one take to point young children in their right path so they won’t have to face so many problems growing up? Answer: Children and sponges have a lot in common. They soak up what is around […]
Before we can hope to change the way we speak to others, and the tones with which our words are spoken — that we might express more patience and consideration for those around us — we must first become mindful […]
Question: How can we parents, who are just beginning to obtain the least bit of understanding of the Truth, best instill in our children the will to seek and understand the Truth for themselves? Answer: It is better for your […]
Lead by example. Children not only see better than adults but they can taste what they see in a way adults have forgotten. Their essence absorbs energy without the filters that we’ve developed in the process of maturing in this […]
Question: I think that I am on the road to enlightenment, but my thoughts would lead me to believe that only the holiest of holies could ever reach that state, and it is not readily achievable to a parent having […]
QUESTION I am having trouble understanding how to leave relationships with my friends and family alone. It seems that the changes I feel are affecting them, but neither they nor I understand some of these changes. It is an extremely […]
There is one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships — one that is definitely required if we wish to continue in our own development and help others to do the same. What is this powerful catalyst that only […]
There never seems enough time to make full reparations for the wrong we do to another in a moment of careless speech, so wouldn’t it be wise to take time — before we speak — to ensure that whatever we’re […]
QUESTION What do I tell my children when they ask me about predictions for the future? They are feeling the doom and gloom of it all.
If we wish to live without resentments that linger in our hearts and rid ourselves of fear with all of its debilitating limitations, we must shed the skin of our selfishness. We must learn what it means to consciously suffer […]
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in today’s relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
QUESTION Is it possible to change my teenage son from being angry and negative? He does not take responsibility for his actions; he blames everyone else and tells lies that he believes. He also shows little respect for adults when […]
Don’t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. This understanding alone nourishes your love, […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about the often misunderstood idea of faith, and how we can come to the true, bold understanding that we are made for everything that happens to us.
Always strive to remember that there is neither one thing practical, nor wise, about any state-of-self that punishes you; even when, as in the case of anxiety, it sweetly promises to release you once you’ve done its bidding. So, regardless […]