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The best we can do for others, to help make their lives brighter, begins with the work of enlightening ourselves. In this manner — from our first tentative steps toward a life in the Light, all the way to the […]

There is always a moment before a problem starts with another human being where we realize that what we want is not going to happen. Ordinarily we’ll say the other person is about to “ruin my day.” But there is, […]

Evil transforms suffering into unconscious acts of blame, bitterness, and self-pity — harmful forces that punish everyone; while the Good transforms these same dark states into conscious suffering — creating humility that heals whomever it touches.

In any relationship where one person depends on another to be his or her “parachute” – and the other accepts this role –both will fall to the ground. Question: I know someone who is always down in the dumps, and […]

Question: I have been struggling for years with the fact that I often desperately want people to like me. It is clear that my needy self causes the opposite effect by making me nervous, tense, and artificial. It seems obvious […]

When it comes to our wish to make real changes in ourselves, good intentions cost us nothing… and that’s why the road to hell is paved with useless coins. On the other hand, making a conscious effort to change – […]

As life pours itself out in the stream of passing time, and we run into challenges seemingly greater than our ability to answer—each of these encounters “asks” this question of us: 
“Are you willing to change (who you have been) […]

1. I believe the more I comfort and fill myself with thoughts of a “brighter tomorrow,” the better off I am, but I can see… all discontentment belongs to an inconsolable level of self that doesn’t exist without seeking something […]

The first step, and in some ways the most difficult along the upper Way, is the separation of the false from what is real; imagine what happens when someone you think is your friend is suddenly seen as always having […]

Every daring dismissal of what we have already been is a conscious invitation to realize who we are yet to be.