Letting Go with Guy Finley
Best-selling "Letting Go" author Guy Finley's encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas go straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues -- relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom -- and lead the way to a higher life.
Guy is the acclaimed author of The Secret of Letting Go and 38 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. In addition, he has presented over 4,000 unique self-realization seminars to thousands of grateful students throughout North America and Europe over the past 25 years and has been a guest on over 600 television and radio shows, including national appearances on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, NPR, and many others.
Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute, and Director of Life of Learning Foundation, a non-profit Center for Self-Study in Merlin, Oregon. 200,000 people in 142 countries read his popular Key Lesson emails each week. His work is widely endorsed by doctors, business professionals, celebrities, and religious leaders of all denominations.
Guy's career reached this point through a circuitous path. Born into a successful show business family, he is the son of late-night TV and radio pioneer, Larry Finley. Growing up in Beverly Hills, his childhood friends were the sons and daughters of the most famous celebrities in the world. As a young man, Guy enjoyed success in a number of areas including composing award-winning music for many popular recording artists including Diana Ross, The Jackson 5, Billy Preston, and The Four Seasons, as well as writing the scores for several motion pictures and TV shows. From 1970-1979 he wrote and recorded his own albums under the Motown and RCA recording labels.
Throughout his youth, Guy suspected there was more to life than the type of worldly success that led to the emptiness and frustration he saw among his own successful friends and colleagues. In 1979, after travels throughout North America, India, and the Far East in search of truth and higher wisdom, Guy voluntarily retired from his flourishing music career in order to simplify his life and to concentrate on deeper self-studies.
In addition to his writing and appearance schedule, Guy presents four inner-life classes each week at Life of Learning Foundation in Merlin, Oregon. These classes are ongoing and open to the public. For more information about Guy Finley and his life-changing work, visit guyfinley.org.
"Guy Finley is...one of the leading experts at the forefront of human potential."
"Guy Finley has helped millions live fuller, more peaceable lives."
-Barnes and Noble
Question: I have struggled for the past couple years with co-workers. Many of them seem intent on making me feel bad by making degrading comments about me. I have felt targeted for ridicule, and as a result don’t have much confidence […]
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Question: In my job I must deal daily with several emotionally dark coworkers. What can I do to handle this situation better, besides getting another job? Answer: I know that it is difficult to be surrounded by toxic people; however, […]
Whatever we consent to embrace in life — including unwanted events that may cause us to suffer — adds to our lives a measure of love.
Guy Finley explains that when you give your love to what you know is right and true, you begin to develop a relationship with that which seeded that love in you in the first place. The more you learn to […]
Question: So if a person feels “I have no love in my life,” if that person would even have a sincere wish to know love, would that be the beginning of true love? Answer: You can build a fire in […]
You know what the most outstanding feature of a human being is? Whatever he or she wants to be in relationship with, they can be united to. It is the greatest gift. No other creature has this. Even the angels […]
Question: People believe that they have to have certain conditions in their lives in order to have love. I have to have a person in my life. I have to have everything just right. But what you teach is that […]
In this world of opposites not everything that we go through can feel good; but to see the necessity of naturally conflicting states — and how they are balanced in all things — is to realize the existence of an […]
Guy Finley explains that the grand movement of life itself is a ceaseless rebalancing. But because the native state of every living organism is inertia, when life produces the conditions it needs to make itself complete and whole we find […]
Question: Is it easier to grow spiritually if one is naturally “emotional,” that is having easier access to one’s feelings? Answer: We are each according to type “centered” in certain centers in us. Some are more emotional, some are more […]
Nothing seems harder to accept than the fact that we are responsible for so much of what proves to be unnecessary suffering. But we must challenge this involuntary, often intractable refusal to consider such ideas. The truth is that we […]
We are not made by that Great Intelligence that balances whole star systems, to suffer from the conflict that arises from an unbalanced understanding of our own essential nature! This is why if we ever wish to gain conscious control […]
Our true responsibility as caregivers is to lead by example… by living up to our own spiritual potential.
Guy Finley responds to a question about the spiritual potential of autistic children, and reveals that the true responsibility of a caregiver is to first live up to their own potential.
Question: Any thoughts on what is a good way to share my spiritual work with my kids? Answer: Be as consciously kind as you can be, which means to not express (but watch instead) your negative states. Be as encouraging […]
Question: The more I think I know about true spirituality, the more I become easily aggravated by the behavior of others when I hear them make an obviously false (spiritually) statement, or I observe their inconsistent behavior. I sense that […]
Question: My father has had cancer for about two years. Neither of us talk about dying. When a nurse asked him about dying, he said he was afraid he wouldn’t go to heaven. I would like to help in some […]
Stress, anxiety, and tension are the dark jewels adorning a thorny crown we must wear whenever we try to live more than one moment at a time…
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the importance of being present to ourselves, especially when the mind seeks to identify with something so that it can feel disturbed.
Sooner put out a fire with jet fuel than gain the upper hand on some anxious state by throwing more agitated thoughts into its turmoil.
Your awareness of troubled thoughts and feelings roaming through you is the power that keeps their harmful and self-limiting influences from having control over you. Their aim is to get you to define yourself by identifying with their dark and […]
The next time (and every time) you catch some negative thought or feeling that says, “I am anxious,” “I am scared,” “I am mad,” or “I am in so much pain” — the first thing to do is to come […]
To live in Presence is the path to peace…
Guy talks about the importance of being present to ourselves at all times, especially as the unattended mind creates false purposes for itself which can only lead to pain.
Question: I have been doing great at ridding myself of false purpose, but can’t yet seem to find my real purpose. The careers I might be interested in are all out of my reach. Any comment? Answer: Be patient and […]
It’s impossible to separate a false purpose in life from the pain that it produces.
In one way, it’s hard to say what has happened to the health of our world and the people upon it, not that suitable terms don’t exist. The problem is that whatever picture one paints with words, it points only […]
The habitual assumption that life’s answer to our request to realize a New Life is going to be “No,” effectively ensures that our wish will not be granted! Any part of our being that unhappily assumes something negative will happen […]
Guy Finley explains that a true spiritual aspirant is someone who works to “make it real” because he or she has seen the futility of deflecting life through pretense and imagination.
Here for your consideration is a very common but false belief about what one must do or be in order to transcend the limitations in his or her life. Study this closely. See how its unquestioned, socially accepted convention serves […]
Most of us at least sense that whenever we fall into despair, lose our temper, or relive some past painful regret, we have lost possession of ourselves. To some extent we know that negative states limit our freedom because, in […]
Life is always new, which means there is no such thing as an “old” problem. The only thing aged in us, with regards to what continues to make us ache, is our worn out ideas about how to overcome our […]
We are not created to spend our lives in fearful preparation over what may come — but rather to use whatever comes our way, each moment, to help us perfect our understanding that God is good…
In this short talk, Guy Finley describes what it takes to let go and let a higher intelligence reconcile the sense of dissatisfaction we feel in our lives.
As life pours itself out in the stream of passing time, and we run into challenges seemingly greater than our ability to answer — each of these encounters “asks” this question of us: “Are you willing to change (who you […]
In those moments when we meet a challenge that stands in our way, we are not meeting some immovable, transient object. In reality, we are meeting nothing more than our own present understanding of that event. Wherever we are — […]
Question: When quieting my mind, there is sometimes a feeling of peace and clarity in the present moment, but often there is this gloomy, dark feeling of emptiness, together with a sense of fear about the future making me feel […]
Anywhere light shines, darkness submits…
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how we cannot fail if we will persevere through our darkest moments, because the light never fails to illuminate what presently hides in the dark.
We have an essential need to be at peace. Part of that essential need to be at peace is to know that we are in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing, and to know it […]
The secret purpose of that self-loathing nature in us – that wants us to suffer today for what we could not do yesterday – is not there to help us make straight our mistakes, but rather to ensure that we […]
We must no longer agree to do the dark will that wants us to be its person. We must want, and put first, the will of what is Light and right for ourselves and everyone else around us. This means […]
Were it not for our mysterious capacity to perfectly reflect moments of beauty – to be one with it in heart, mind, and soul – there would be no beauty or harmony to behold…
In this special short talk featuring music performed live at Life of Learning Foundation in Southern Oregon, Guy Finley talks about the music and rhythm of life itself, and how we as human beings are meant to be sensitive instruments, responding […]
Question: What are the first steps in learning to discern the truth? Answer: One of the things that makes music good for us is our effortless relationship with its harmony and balance, with its rhythm and composition. We don’t have […]
What we must learn to ask ourselves, not once or twice daily, but a hundred times and every time it strikes us to remember ourselves, is this question: Where is my attention right now, and what is my experience of […]
The music of the mind — its harmony, or not, is expressed by the order of its thoughts through which it is instrumented. Confusion is dissonance; clarity is flow.
Though we find no evidence of anything noble in someone who has betrayed us, neither is there anything noble in our bitterness.
Guy Finley explains that when you feel betrayed by God, the actual betrayal is that your own mind would lead you to believe that God deserts those who love him.
We all know exactly what it is like to be certain we have let go of something sorrowful or worrisome, only to find ourselves in a similar sad situation moments later. Merely wanting to let go of an unhappy circumstance […]
Question: Someone I love has hurt me deeply, betrayed my trust, and now I don’t know how I should feel about this person. Should I forgive and forget, or try to find another who won’t be the same way? Seems […]
Our present mind knows of only two possible ways to turn when faced with a personal crisis. But neither of the directions it knows to look in ever resolve anything. Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only […]
There is no greater, more reliable teacher of true self-knowledge than intentional patience and, when married to a willingness to observe oneself through the stillness and sacrifice that such patience demands, there exists no swifter, more sure path to self-realization…
Guy Finley explains that you live in an entire galaxy of forces which ceaselessly act upon you, and it’s only your awareness of these energies that allows you to use them for your benefit rather than be unconsciously dominated by […]
You may not see it unfolding, but here’s what happens the moment you take your eye off of seeing the whole of yourself: Some unseen part of yourself takes one step closer to falling into the pit of some pain […]
The new inner vision that comes from self-observation is what provides you with true self-knowledge. To see yourself in this new way means that at the same moment of being aware of your physical self, you are also watching what […]
When we can observe ourselves by being awake to our thoughts and feelings, we allow our natural higher intelligence, our higher nature, to prevail over the unnatural thoughts and feelings of our self-defeating lower nature. Self-observation allows you to understand […]
The true measure of our wealth is not counted by what we do with the riches we may have, but rather is determined by the character of what fills our heart when what we have is taken away…
Guy Finley explains that as we awaken spiritually, we will gradually discover the truth about our authentic poverty, and in the process learn what it means to be grateful for everything we are given.
Question: I’ve noticed that the more I hear people complain about their unwanted circumstances in life, the less likely they are to do anything to change them. It makes me wonder if I’m just as ungrateful and unwilling! Answer: You […]
To have real gratitude, to have that fullness of heart that, by its greatness, fulfills the one who holds it, begins with allowing God to give you a portion of His Life… a gift one can only receive once he […]
This life of ours can either be one of endless servitude or endless gratitude, and we must choose which it is to be. To choose to live a life of endless servitude to a master that promises pleasures but delivers […]
Real love wants nothing outside of itself…
Guy Finley explains what real love is and what it isn’t, and notes that it is impossible for you to genuinely love another person if you cannot first be completely content and comfortable with being alone.
The person who enables another human being believes the only choice they have is to somehow keep that person in line, save that person from themselves — not for the good of the other human being but because the enabler, […]
A lot of what goes wrong on this planet is born of people who feel the weight of false responsibilities. Enabling another human being is a form of a false responsibility. Anyone who lives with someone who abuses them enables […]
We never enable someone else without having first disabled our own Higher Nature that knows better than to bargain for friendship, love — or to just feel “needed” in some way…
Freedom from the prison of negative states remains impossible until one loses interest in the false, but powerful, sense of self derived from identifying with (one’s own) surging sensations.
Guy Finley explains that each of us is a unique blend of energies, both positive and negative, all of which are meant to be used for the purpose of self-revelation.
Whenever a negative state comes to you, try to see yourself in that state through the intelligence of the following idea as opposed to seeing it through the ignorance that the state produces in you: All negative states are an […]
It’s my feeling that each of us who are interested in truly changing our lives, and so the world we live in, must turn what we learn into dedicated actions. Doing what’s true must follow our understanding of the Truth […]
There are two kinds of people in this world whose quality of life, like all of us, is determined by their outlook. There are those who feel chained to life by their own unrelenting doubts, and then there are those […]
Our demands that life be what we want it to be do not make life more desirable… they only hide from us just how undesirable it is to be who we are in that moment…
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]
We must develop the patience to watch a moment long enough to see that the pain in it belongs to the self that insists that life honors its preferences. When we are impatient, we are certain that it is because […]
We may not yet see it as being so, but whenever unwanted situations come along — stripping us of some beloved attachment — it is the operation of one world acting upon another. There is our familiar world, the one […]
All forms of negativity may only dwell in us as long as they trick us into granting them permission to live there. Our task isn’t to overpower, or otherwise deny these sufferings, but to bring such light to bear upon […]
Hoping to help someone — who loves to be negative — see the harm of being identified with dark states, is like trying to teach a bat to appreciate sunlight, or a mud hen to preen in fresh clean waters.
No person is good or bad in and of himself, any more than a trumpet is good or bad for the music sounded out of its horn. It is the “player,” the musician behind the mouthpiece who determines these qualities […]
Question: I am at work sometimes as much as I am at home. How do we avoid the negative influences of others in the workplace? Answer: The whole point is not that we avoid what are unavoidable, difficult conditions, but […]
There are many un-illumined and downward trending parts in all of us that not only seek out their unconscious counterparts (in others) but that are secretly strengthened in the conflicted company of such dark and negative energies. We can see […]
Any time you sit, think about, and “stew” over what someone did to you, or simmer in anger about some past event, the real reason for your pain is because you’re cooking your own goose!
Guy Finley explains that all forms of rage, whether inwardly or outwardly directed, are the result of our thwarted attempts to possess what we think we need in order to be whole, happy, and in control.
The faster we try to go with whatever it may be that we are doing incorrectly, whether it’s hammering a nail or trying to nail down our happiness, the more and more frustrated we become for the unsatisfactory results. It […]
When you hear someone say, “I’m sick and tired of it,” what they are really saying without realizing it is that they’re sick and tired of suffering from their own lack of understanding. This all becomes clear once we understand […]
All of us have felt, at one time or another, trapped in our own life. During these periods of heightened unhappiness, one thing seems clear: the only reason we haven’t realized our great potential is because we’re being held back. […]
If you listen carefully, quietly, you’ll hear the voice of the moment tell you that all is well and always will be…
Guy Finley explains that we always give our attention to what we value most. You can’t “look” for the path to the Divine. The path is right here, right now. Our work is to just attend and listen for the […]
What we have taken as being our “choices” in life really belong to a nature whose mechanical reactions leave us virtually without a voice in our experience of what happens to us. In order to elevate the nature of our […]
Question: You have said to “follow what you love” and the rest of your life will take care of itself. I have been pondering whether or not to pursue a hobby as a business. The “still small voice” tells me […]
We can go on living as we have, where we allow our lower nature to respond to life for us by “remembering” what it does, and then “choosing” these reactions to act as our guide, telling us how we ought […]
Real love is immeasurable, which means it can neither be reached nor realized through measured steps…
Guy Finley explains that we are created to be the instrument of divine love, but currently all we know is conditional love as we chase after the temporary pleasures of the world. As we work to be open to each […]
Have you ever seen in a relationship that you have with someone that the alignment is starting to go off (so to speak) and you can see the car starting to drift? So, you grab the steering wheel — meaning […]
Isn’t it frustrating that on one hand you know that you’re supposed to have nice relationships with everyone, and yet you have almost no relationship with anyone that actually is nice? It’s a real grain of sand in one’s soul… […]
In its essence, every relationship in life between you and another man or woman is a reflection of the one relationship that produces it. There is one relationship that is the father, the mother of all relationships — just as […]
How to stop thinking and start seeing…
Guy Finley explains that there is a nature inside of us that wants nothing to do with spiritual work and inner transformation. We must meet this part of ourself that has no interest in doing what is right and good, […]
In the world of thoughts and feelings, there is always going to be something to bother you. You are constantly identifying with and pouring your life energy into what cannot grow. Instead, you keep trying to grow by thinking… trying […]
Our spiritual work is to bit by bit discover natural limitations in the thought process. What has happened in the world today is that human beings have had life replaced with the concept of living. In the concept of living […]
What we need to succeed in the spiritual life is a heart that can see. Most people spend more time taking care of their physical bodies than their spiritual ones. They preoccupy themselves with insane appetites to try to keep […]
It is a distinct stage in the development of the aspirant when — rather than being easily distracted by some imagined consolation for his pain, or by concluding who is to blame for it — his first and real […]
Guy Finley explains that true goodness is not measured by actions which validate your image of being good. What is truly good has no self-reference — it comes from pure action, which is a natural outcome of being present.
The character of goodness, of compassion and kindness that we would like to reflect and express before our friends (and enemies), requires that we place “its” life before our own. And yet, when we agree to this interior action of […]
Once we see it’s impossible to please ourselves at the expense of the pain of someone else, we are released from the cycle of seeking a false comfort whose conflict compromises “winners” and “losers” alike. Only then are we free […]
When, at times, the spiritual aspirant feels as though there’s no reason to go on…because he can no longer believe in an imagined good somewhere ahead of him, he comes to what seems a complete dead end. And yet, it […]
Whoever struggles to protect himself from his perceived fear does not banish his enemy but secretly breeds the dark seeds of its life…
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it is necessary to our well-being to have enemies of any […]
We cannot change the world that we see until something changes in us the way we see it…
Question: All of the difficulties we have with one another seem to be due to the fact that we’re all trying to protect ourselves. It seems like in the very process of trying to keep ourselves safe, we actually create […]
If we really lived in this world as it is, there would be no war. If I really lived with the person that I was married to, if I really lived with the children that I have… it would be […]
To discharge ones duty is the first responsibility. To do this thing well is the second task. To do more than one is asked is the Path to Perfection…
Question: I have struggled with my career and work for all of my life. My wife and I live frugally, not wastefully, and do our best to be responsible householders. You have said that we must first be good householders […]
If we went through our day tending half as much to the care of God’s business, as we give to our own affairs, then — from the resulting light of gladness seen spreading across the faces of family, friends, and […]
Question: On the householder’s path, I sometimes find it difficult to stop doing the mental work and start doing the mundane day-to-day tasks. Any suggestions for getting the same enthusiasm in earning our daily bread? Answer: Life gives us back […]
Guy Finley explains that being a good householder means that we are able to properly attend to what is practical before what is pleasing. By placing ourselves in this right relationship with our responsibilities, we become better able to discern […]
Within us lives a timeless Self that cannot forget what is right, bright, and true any more than the sun has to try to remember to shine each day.
Guy Finley explains that if you want to have a relationship with the divine, with what’s right and good, you must learn to stand up for truth within you. Have the courage to exchange self-concern for spiritual awareness, and you […]
Question: Where is the line between not having an issue with anything and enabling or allowing? I don’t understand where I must “forget myself” and where I must stand up for something. Answer: One should always try to “forget oneself” […]
If we knew that the universe was set up for our higher transformation, and that Love is the underlying force in everything we see, and don’t see, we would never give in to the fear that keeps us locked in […]
To have courage does not mean that we will be without fear. Real courage – the kind of courage we need on a day-to-day basis to act with integrity in our business and personal relationships – is our willingness to […]
Living in fear of what dwells within you – whatever it may be that you deny, or that you don’t want others to know about – is how darkness ensures you remain just outside the circle of Divine healing Light.
When we feel pain, we tend to take it personally and feel like we are the only ones in the world who are suffering. That seems like the natural thing to do. But what if pain is impersonal? What if […]
Question: When I manage to remember my higher aim in life, I seem to lose control of my life, and other people are quick to take advantage of what they evidently see as my weakness. Should this be happening or […]
Question: Why in the world am I so weak that I can’t remember my good intentions? How will I ever succeed spiritually when this weakness keeps getting in the way of my making any real progress? Answer: Part of the […]
There are those who avoid — at all costs — being tested by life. There are those who wait, in fear, for life to test them. Then there are the rare few who choose to use life to test them […]
The past is as powerless to darken the present moment, as is a shadow to reach up and drag down the form that casts it…
Do you ever experience a nagging feeling that something is missing in your life? In this talk Guy Finley explains why this feeling exists and what you can do to move beyond it forever.
On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as […]
In these times, where social appearance is more important than spiritual substance, what has become our longing to change is really the unconscious desire to control not just the shape of our bodies — according to prevailing values — but […]
It isn’t something of which most of us are aware, but we human beings are “marked” with a certain strange feature: and that is…we want to change. Perhaps you’re thinking: “What’s so strange about that?” After all, who amongst us […]
Every moment that unfolds in life presents us with an invitation to choose either the path of what will better us or a path that will make us more bitter — as when we unconsciously embrace a resentment instead of […]
Guy Finley explains that as your awareness of the natural laws that currently govern your actions increases, so does your ability to make choices based on higher knowledge instead of being blindly guided by ignorance. Spiritually speaking, this is the […]
I can’t tell you how important it is for you to set your spiritual aim for self-freedom over and over, each day. Then, start over as though a whole new wind were at your back. If you will do this, […]
Human nature – your nature — is not fixed. It can be transformed. That’s what makes us special above all of God’s countless expressions. And this fact empowers us in a very special way. It means that each of us […]
In any moment of conflict that we can remember to remember ourselves (and the Supreme) we may still have to go through that struggle, but by our inner work we have chosen the “high side” of it. This conscious choice […]
You can turn any painful event into a new kind of victory…
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we must first become consciously dissatisfied with our discontentment if we want to begin the process of letting go of it.
Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s […]
By the light of our impersonal study about discontentment we can see two bright new truths: much of our time is spent identifying the so-called cause of our discontented condition, and the rest of our time is taken up trying […]
Most of us spend a lot more time trying to deal with discontentment than is obvious at first glance. Depending on how the day breaks for us, we may find ourselves feeling discontent about our life whenever we: • Compare […]
The only way to change that which we will be, and have, in a time to come is to learn what it means to work “with what we are” in the present moment!
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how everything that exists was made for us to discover our true nature.
Question: What can one do to have a greater awareness of reality? Answer: A quart cup cannot hold a gallon of water. Don’t worry about “a greater awareness” but be as constant and conscious as you can towards the awareness […]
The present moment is the canvas of creation: our perception, a palette of primary colors; our actions, brush strokes — while thought provides both background and texture. To know these things is the beginning of the artful life.
Before you can learn how to change your destiny, you must first realize that secret place within yourself where your own future is created. You must consciously enter that place of power where all of your life-choices are made for […]
Any lingering shame over who or what you were in “days gone by” is like a newly opened rose blushing for having once been a bud…
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains the difference between the false kind of shame that shackles us to a self that is trapped in the past, and the proper kind of conscious remorse that is the seed of true […]
No individual relationship is the (sole) cause of one’s conflict or pain; our relationships reveal the nature of an unconscious pain that we bring into them with us. To start discerning the difference between these (two) perceptions is the beginning […]
Question: I’ve seen that I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt and shame? Is there a right way to make amends to the people I’ve wronged? Answer: Oh […]
No animal hides in shame for being itself. No tree bends to the opinion of others. No wind avoids the granite face before it. Only human beings cultivate ways in which to fawn or cower before one another, and all […]
Just as the still waters of a quiet pond effortlessly mirror the depths of the sky that towers above it, so does the silent mind reflect with ease upon the Divine that dwells within it.
Guy Finley explains that no matter how well something is interpreted, the interpretation will always be incomplete because it’s at a different level from the original impression. When you see that your mind is always interpreting your experiences for you, […]
We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict; we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative […]
Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]
It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself. We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would […]
The only thing that troubles you about other people is what you secretly want from them. How many of you lose command when you’re with other people? Have you ever walked down the street, and somebody that you’ve never even […]
Guy Finley explains that you are only troubled by other people when you want something from them, which we are often unconscious to. When you choose, through presence, to use relationships for the purpose of self-revelation, you will find yourself […]
Past mistakes cannot create a present pain…
Guy Finley briefly describes in this short talk how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary kind of interior self-work that changes everything.
What do we need to do to rise above the limitations of our present understanding — limitations that, seen or not, play a role in our daily dose of heartache? The answer may surprise you! Truth teachings throughout the ages […]
Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]
Question: I’ve been having many issues lately with past pain. If someone hurt me in the past, and a situation happens now that is similar to that, my mind instantly jumps to the conclusion of the past and takes my […]
Unconscious suffering is the inevitable painful outcome of having mistaken the partial for the whole…
Guy Finley explains that the music from a particular country or nationality, for instance Ireland or Africa, includes a unique set of intervals that express the essences of the individuals in that population. While we may each have our own […]
Letting go is the out-breath of the universe. It is part of a natural cycle connected to a greater whole, where the ending of anything already has a new beginning built into it. And just as we must expel a […]
Question: Aside from extremes and obvious harm, does it matter where we place ourselves physically? I know we can and need to work whenever and wherever we are, but one cannot deny obvious occurrences and impressions in different neighborhoods, cities, […]
If we will only work to remember that we live in a world within which there are an infinite number of stories unfolding – all at the same time – then we will never forget that it is our choice […]
Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by […]
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
It doesn’t matter how, or where, this dark cycle of conflict got started. It is not important any longer. Why? Because once we understand that to try to hurt someone — even just to want to — is to hurt […]
When someone acts thoughtlessly towards us, it is a similar thoughtlessness in us that responds. In other words, our own hostile reactions take no thought for anything outside of what they call into account for their suddenly heated existence — […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about an idea that, if understood properly, has the power to forever change the way we respond to situations that usually instigate a painful conflict of one kind or another.
To know that there is no “self” to fail – only a certain level of understanding not as yet adequate to the task set before it – is to be empowered to transcend any trials we must face…
Guy Finley explains that you can never be free of anything you resist. In order to transcend any pain or problem, you must meet it completely, as you are, and accept what life is trying to give you so that […]
Question: When I am in physical pain and not in control of what my body is doing, is there a tip you can give me for easing the seemingly inevitable anxiety? Answer: In one sense, everything about this life is […]
If it weren’t that unwanted “things” come along as they do – reducing us to nothing — how would we ever realize that already living in us is everything needed to transcend all that we are.
Question: I am always so impressed with people who are able to overcome their physical impairments with grace and a positive outlook. How can we transform our physical pains into spiritual gain? Answer: Until you change what you do with […]
Perhaps a man is worried about the future. He believes that in order to feel secure, he must acquire a certain amount of money. Any time he feels thwarted in his efforts to achieve his aim, he finds himself in […]
The next time you experience any kind of pain — an irritation, a flash of anger, a twinge of resentment — you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Inner-life master and author Vernon […]
It takes little effort to see how much we suffer. Look at people’s faces, or read the newspaper. Everywhere people’s hearts ache. Yet if you ask most of them about their own lives, they will lie about their confusion and […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how the ending of large-scale wars in the outer world must begin with individuals who are willing to stop going along with the interior excuses that justify having enemies.
The True Self never asks, “What’s the use?” The True Self never complains about anything, because that nature is in a relationship that is continually completing itself anew every instant. It doesn’t carry with it any of these ideas, images, […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we would rather hold onto old convictions that are connected to images that we have of ourselves rather than allow natural changes to take place as they are intended.
Real greatness has absolutely nothing to do with anything that you can ever think about. It has nothing to do with any way in which you will ever imagine yourself. True greatness is a relationship with Greatness, and when you’re […]
Question: You’ve talked about how we’re made of the stuff of stars. Do you mean that we are meant to be part of a whole universal process of transformation. Answer: Yes. Your True Self is made in the image of […]
We are not meant to live in time. When we think about ourselves, when we think about things we want – what we call that which will fulfill us — even when we imagine something we think we’ve never had, […]
Even all by yourself, and in the middle of nowhere, you — who reach for the hand of God — are never alone, for He already holds your heart within His own.
Guy Finley explains in this short talk that higher help is always freely given to us when we ask properly, but the “problem” is that most of the time we do not recognize, or reject the real help when it […]
There is an old proverb that goes something like this: “God never takes anything from us without giving us something greater in return.” The task for those of us who seek the life divine — those who seek to live […]
It’s well known that storm-tossed waves often expose new treasures along the shoreline; there is unexpected wealth to be collected by those who know the secret value of rough seas. And yet, even though most of us have little tolerance […]
If we look at (unexpected) events as something placed in our way, a troublesome time we must pile through on our way to some imagined peace to come, then we literally throw away the possibility of discovering that each moment, […]
The greatest, most “expensive” gift that anyone can give to another is priceless, and yet… it is available in abundance for everyone to give all the time. Not only that, but this same gift rewards its giver in the […]
Guy Finley explains that you can either sit and regret the cruel behavior you’ve been subjected to by others in your past, or you can use your awareness of the pain it causes you in the present to become properly […]
Judging oneself may seem wise to the level of self involved in that judgment; but all judging of oneself is the deflection of a revelation that would heal oneself… if allowed to flower.
Question: Is there any value to “clearing away” the wreckage of the past? It seems to help, yet I feel wrong in trying to correct so many wrongs that are behind me. Answer: The wreckage of the past exists only […]
The past is the past. It has no foothold in us save for the parts of us that are fascinated with reliving the pain for the purpose of confirming the reality of self. The darkness that torments us over what […]
See Conclusions as Limitations
If you approach the possibilities of learning about your life as being limitless—which they are—then it follows that any conclusion you reach about yourself has to be an unseen limitation. Why? Because there’s always more to see. For ...
posted 12:00:27pm Dec. 01, 2015
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You Are Created to Outgrow Limitation
We all have those moments when life rears up, when it seems certain that we’re about to be trampled by forces greater than ourselves! But regardless of how you may feel in the face of any given challenge, you may rest assured of the following ...
posted 12:00:20pm Nov. 30, 2015
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The Source of Real Change
We are wrongly led to believe that life makes us into the kind of person we are. In truth, it’s our level of self-understanding that makes life what it is for us! This is why nothing can really change for us until we see that trying to change ...
posted 12:00:54pm Nov. 27, 2015
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(Audio) Outgrow Being Unhappy Over Anything
Real spiritual growth does not happen automatically with the mere passage of time. A change in our outer activities does not lead to true change. In this podcast, Guy Finley explains that changing what we "do" is not the same as a change of ...
posted 12:00:50pm Nov. 26, 2015
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Freedom From the Fear of Feeling Powerless (Conclusion)
The next time you’re overcome with feeling as if you are powerless, take this one interior action and watch that fear disappear: instead of looking at what your fear is telling you is greater than your power to deal with it—i.e., a failing ...
posted 12:00:15pm Nov. 25, 2015
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