Letting Go with Guy Finley
Best-selling "Letting Go" author Guy Finley's encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas go straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues -- relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom -- and lead the way to a higher life.
Guy is the acclaimed author of The Secret of Letting Go and 38 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. In addition, he has presented over 4,000 unique self-realization seminars to thousands of grateful students throughout North America and Europe over the past 25 years and has been a guest on over 600 television and radio shows, including national appearances on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, NPR, and many others.
Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute, and Director of Life of Learning Foundation, a non-profit Center for Self-Study in Merlin, Oregon. 200,000 people in 142 countries read his popular Key Lesson emails each week. His work is widely endorsed by doctors, business professionals, celebrities, and religious leaders of all denominations.
Guy's career reached this point through a circuitous path. Born into a successful show business family, he is the son of late-night TV and radio pioneer, Larry Finley. Growing up in Beverly Hills, his childhood friends were the sons and daughters of the most famous celebrities in the world. As a young man, Guy enjoyed success in a number of areas including composing award-winning music for many popular recording artists including Diana Ross, The Jackson 5, Billy Preston, and The Four Seasons, as well as writing the scores for several motion pictures and TV shows. From 1970-1979 he wrote and recorded his own albums under the Motown and RCA recording labels.
Throughout his youth, Guy suspected there was more to life than the type of worldly success that led to the emptiness and frustration he saw among his own successful friends and colleagues. In 1979, after travels throughout North America, India, and the Far East in search of truth and higher wisdom, Guy voluntarily retired from his flourishing music career in order to simplify his life and to concentrate on deeper self-studies.
In addition to his writing and appearance schedule, Guy presents four inner-life classes each week at Life of Learning Foundation in Merlin, Oregon. These classes are ongoing and open to the public. For more information about Guy Finley and his life-changing work, visit guyfinley.org.
"Guy Finley is...one of the leading experts at the forefront of human potential."
"Guy Finley has helped millions live fuller, more peaceable lives."
-Barnes and Noble
It is a distinct stage in the development of the aspirant when — rather than being easily distracted by some imagined consolation for his pain, or by concluding who is to blame for it — his first and real […]
Guy Finley explains that true goodness is not measured by actions which validate your image of being good. What is truly good has no self-reference — it comes from pure action, which is a natural outcome of being present.
The character of goodness, of compassion and kindness that we would like to reflect and express before our friends (and enemies), requires that we place “its” life before our own. And yet, when we agree to this interior action of […]
Once we see it’s impossible to please ourselves at the expense of the pain of someone else, we are released from the cycle of seeking a false comfort whose conflict compromises “winners” and “losers” alike. Only then are we free […]
When, at times, the spiritual aspirant feels as though there’s no reason to go on…because he can no longer believe in an imagined good somewhere ahead of him, he comes to what seems a complete dead end. And yet, it […]
Whoever struggles to protect himself from his perceived fear does not banish his enemy but secretly breeds the dark seeds of its life…
Guy Finley explains in this brief talk that it is possible for us to find complete freedom from the mechanical, enemy-making nature that presently tricks us into believing that it is necessary to our well-being to have enemies of any […]
We cannot change the world that we see until something changes in us the way we see it…
Question: All of the difficulties we have with one another seem to be due to the fact that we’re all trying to protect ourselves. It seems like in the very process of trying to keep ourselves safe, we actually create […]
If we really lived in this world as it is, there would be no war. If I really lived with the person that I was married to, if I really lived with the children that I have… it would be […]
To discharge ones duty is the first responsibility. To do this thing well is the second task. To do more than one is asked is the Path to Perfection…
Question: I have struggled with my career and work for all of my life. My wife and I live frugally, not wastefully, and do our best to be responsible householders. You have said that we must first be good householders […]
If we went through our day tending half as much to the care of God’s business, as we give to our own affairs, then — from the resulting light of gladness seen spreading across the faces of family, friends, and […]
Question: On the householder’s path, I sometimes find it difficult to stop doing the mental work and start doing the mundane day-to-day tasks. Any suggestions for getting the same enthusiasm in earning our daily bread? Answer: Life gives us back […]
Guy Finley explains that being a good householder means that we are able to properly attend to what is practical before what is pleasing. By placing ourselves in this right relationship with our responsibilities, we become better able to discern […]
Within us lives a timeless Self that cannot forget what is right, bright, and true any more than the sun has to try to remember to shine each day.
Guy Finley explains that if you want to have a relationship with the divine, with what’s right and good, you must learn to stand up for truth within you. Have the courage to exchange self-concern for spiritual awareness, and you […]
Question: Where is the line between not having an issue with anything and enabling or allowing? I don’t understand where I must “forget myself” and where I must stand up for something. Answer: One should always try to “forget oneself” […]
If we knew that the universe was set up for our higher transformation, and that Love is the underlying force in everything we see, and don’t see, we would never give in to the fear that keeps us locked in […]
To have courage does not mean that we will be without fear. Real courage – the kind of courage we need on a day-to-day basis to act with integrity in our business and personal relationships – is our willingness to […]
Living in fear of what dwells within you – whatever it may be that you deny, or that you don’t want others to know about – is how darkness ensures you remain just outside the circle of Divine healing Light.
When we feel pain, we tend to take it personally and feel like we are the only ones in the world who are suffering. That seems like the natural thing to do. But what if pain is impersonal? What if […]
Question: When I manage to remember my higher aim in life, I seem to lose control of my life, and other people are quick to take advantage of what they evidently see as my weakness. Should this be happening or […]
Question: Why in the world am I so weak that I can’t remember my good intentions? How will I ever succeed spiritually when this weakness keeps getting in the way of my making any real progress? Answer: Part of the […]
There are those who avoid — at all costs — being tested by life. There are those who wait, in fear, for life to test them. Then there are the rare few who choose to use life to test them […]
The past is as powerless to darken the present moment, as is a shadow to reach up and drag down the form that casts it…
Do you ever experience a nagging feeling that something is missing in your life? In this talk Guy Finley explains why this feeling exists and what you can do to move beyond it forever.
On the surface, meaning seen through the eyes of the self caught up in a negative reaction, resistance to an unwanted revelation about oneself makes “sense” — as in when we “eject” an intruding pest from our house. But, as […]
In these times, where social appearance is more important than spiritual substance, what has become our longing to change is really the unconscious desire to control not just the shape of our bodies — according to prevailing values — but […]
It isn’t something of which most of us are aware, but we human beings are “marked” with a certain strange feature: and that is…we want to change. Perhaps you’re thinking: “What’s so strange about that?” After all, who amongst us […]
Every moment that unfolds in life presents us with an invitation to choose either the path of what will better us or a path that will make us more bitter — as when we unconsciously embrace a resentment instead of […]
Guy Finley explains that as your awareness of the natural laws that currently govern your actions increases, so does your ability to make choices based on higher knowledge instead of being blindly guided by ignorance. Spiritually speaking, this is the […]
I can’t tell you how important it is for you to set your spiritual aim for self-freedom over and over, each day. Then, start over as though a whole new wind were at your back. If you will do this, […]
Human nature – your nature — is not fixed. It can be transformed. That’s what makes us special above all of God’s countless expressions. And this fact empowers us in a very special way. It means that each of us […]
In any moment of conflict that we can remember to remember ourselves (and the Supreme) we may still have to go through that struggle, but by our inner work we have chosen the “high side” of it. This conscious choice […]
You can turn any painful event into a new kind of victory…
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we must first become consciously dissatisfied with our discontentment if we want to begin the process of letting go of it.
Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s […]
By the light of our impersonal study about discontentment we can see two bright new truths: much of our time is spent identifying the so-called cause of our discontented condition, and the rest of our time is taken up trying […]
Most of us spend a lot more time trying to deal with discontentment than is obvious at first glance. Depending on how the day breaks for us, we may find ourselves feeling discontent about our life whenever we: • Compare […]
The only way to change that which we will be, and have, in a time to come is to learn what it means to work “with what we are” in the present moment!
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how everything that exists was made for us to discover our true nature.
Question: What can one do to have a greater awareness of reality? Answer: A quart cup cannot hold a gallon of water. Don’t worry about “a greater awareness” but be as constant and conscious as you can towards the awareness […]
The present moment is the canvas of creation: our perception, a palette of primary colors; our actions, brush strokes — while thought provides both background and texture. To know these things is the beginning of the artful life.
Before you can learn how to change your destiny, you must first realize that secret place within yourself where your own future is created. You must consciously enter that place of power where all of your life-choices are made for […]
Any lingering shame over who or what you were in “days gone by” is like a newly opened rose blushing for having once been a bud…
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains the difference between the false kind of shame that shackles us to a self that is trapped in the past, and the proper kind of conscious remorse that is the seed of true […]
No individual relationship is the (sole) cause of one’s conflict or pain; our relationships reveal the nature of an unconscious pain that we bring into them with us. To start discerning the difference between these (two) perceptions is the beginning […]
Question: I’ve seen that I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt and shame? Is there a right way to make amends to the people I’ve wronged? Answer: Oh […]
No animal hides in shame for being itself. No tree bends to the opinion of others. No wind avoids the granite face before it. Only human beings cultivate ways in which to fawn or cower before one another, and all […]
Just as the still waters of a quiet pond effortlessly mirror the depths of the sky that towers above it, so does the silent mind reflect with ease upon the Divine that dwells within it.
Guy Finley explains that no matter how well something is interpreted, the interpretation will always be incomplete because it’s at a different level from the original impression. When you see that your mind is always interpreting your experiences for you, […]
We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict; we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative […]
Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]
It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself. We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would […]
The only thing that troubles you about other people is what you secretly want from them. How many of you lose command when you’re with other people? Have you ever walked down the street, and somebody that you’ve never even […]
Guy Finley explains that you are only troubled by other people when you want something from them, which we are often unconscious to. When you choose, through presence, to use relationships for the purpose of self-revelation, you will find yourself […]
Past mistakes cannot create a present pain…
Guy Finley briefly describes in this short talk how our lives can change for the better, including all of our past, if we are willing, right now, to do the necessary kind of interior self-work that changes everything.
What do we need to do to rise above the limitations of our present understanding — limitations that, seen or not, play a role in our daily dose of heartache? The answer may surprise you! Truth teachings throughout the ages […]
Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]
Question: I’ve been having many issues lately with past pain. If someone hurt me in the past, and a situation happens now that is similar to that, my mind instantly jumps to the conclusion of the past and takes my […]
Unconscious suffering is the inevitable painful outcome of having mistaken the partial for the whole…
Guy Finley explains that the music from a particular country or nationality, for instance Ireland or Africa, includes a unique set of intervals that express the essences of the individuals in that population. While we may each have our own […]
Letting go is the out-breath of the universe. It is part of a natural cycle connected to a greater whole, where the ending of anything already has a new beginning built into it. And just as we must expel a […]
Question: Aside from extremes and obvious harm, does it matter where we place ourselves physically? I know we can and need to work whenever and wherever we are, but one cannot deny obvious occurrences and impressions in different neighborhoods, cities, […]
If we will only work to remember that we live in a world within which there are an infinite number of stories unfolding – all at the same time – then we will never forget that it is our choice […]
Each time we will consciously refuse to strike back in anger or act out some aggression toward the one who hurts us, we sow the seed of a new order of a conscious life. Now instead of being used by […]
Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]
It doesn’t matter how, or where, this dark cycle of conflict got started. It is not important any longer. Why? Because once we understand that to try to hurt someone — even just to want to — is to hurt […]
When someone acts thoughtlessly towards us, it is a similar thoughtlessness in us that responds. In other words, our own hostile reactions take no thought for anything outside of what they call into account for their suddenly heated existence — […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about an idea that, if understood properly, has the power to forever change the way we respond to situations that usually instigate a painful conflict of one kind or another.
To know that there is no “self” to fail – only a certain level of understanding not as yet adequate to the task set before it – is to be empowered to transcend any trials we must face…
Guy Finley explains that you can never be free of anything you resist. In order to transcend any pain or problem, you must meet it completely, as you are, and accept what life is trying to give you so that […]
Question: When I am in physical pain and not in control of what my body is doing, is there a tip you can give me for easing the seemingly inevitable anxiety? Answer: In one sense, everything about this life is […]
If it weren’t that unwanted “things” come along as they do – reducing us to nothing — how would we ever realize that already living in us is everything needed to transcend all that we are.
Question: I am always so impressed with people who are able to overcome their physical impairments with grace and a positive outlook. How can we transform our physical pains into spiritual gain? Answer: Until you change what you do with […]
Perhaps a man is worried about the future. He believes that in order to feel secure, he must acquire a certain amount of money. Any time he feels thwarted in his efforts to achieve his aim, he finds himself in […]
The next time you experience any kind of pain — an irritation, a flash of anger, a twinge of resentment — you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Inner-life master and author Vernon […]
It takes little effort to see how much we suffer. Look at people’s faces, or read the newspaper. Everywhere people’s hearts ache. Yet if you ask most of them about their own lives, they will lie about their confusion and […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how the ending of large-scale wars in the outer world must begin with individuals who are willing to stop going along with the interior excuses that justify having enemies.
The True Self never asks, “What’s the use?” The True Self never complains about anything, because that nature is in a relationship that is continually completing itself anew every instant. It doesn’t carry with it any of these ideas, images, […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we would rather hold onto old convictions that are connected to images that we have of ourselves rather than allow natural changes to take place as they are intended.
Real greatness has absolutely nothing to do with anything that you can ever think about. It has nothing to do with any way in which you will ever imagine yourself. True greatness is a relationship with Greatness, and when you’re […]
Question: You’ve talked about how we’re made of the stuff of stars. Do you mean that we are meant to be part of a whole universal process of transformation. Answer: Yes. Your True Self is made in the image of […]
We are not meant to live in time. When we think about ourselves, when we think about things we want – what we call that which will fulfill us — even when we imagine something we think we’ve never had, […]
Even all by yourself, and in the middle of nowhere, you — who reach for the hand of God — are never alone, for He already holds your heart within His own.
Guy Finley explains in this short talk that higher help is always freely given to us when we ask properly, but the “problem” is that most of the time we do not recognize, or reject the real help when it […]
There is an old proverb that goes something like this: “God never takes anything from us without giving us something greater in return.” The task for those of us who seek the life divine — those who seek to live […]
It’s well known that storm-tossed waves often expose new treasures along the shoreline; there is unexpected wealth to be collected by those who know the secret value of rough seas. And yet, even though most of us have little tolerance […]
If we look at (unexpected) events as something placed in our way, a troublesome time we must pile through on our way to some imagined peace to come, then we literally throw away the possibility of discovering that each moment, […]
The greatest, most “expensive” gift that anyone can give to another is priceless, and yet… it is available in abundance for everyone to give all the time. Not only that, but this same gift rewards its giver in the […]
Guy Finley explains that you can either sit and regret the cruel behavior you’ve been subjected to by others in your past, or you can use your awareness of the pain it causes you in the present to become properly […]
Judging oneself may seem wise to the level of self involved in that judgment; but all judging of oneself is the deflection of a revelation that would heal oneself… if allowed to flower.
Question: Is there any value to “clearing away” the wreckage of the past? It seems to help, yet I feel wrong in trying to correct so many wrongs that are behind me. Answer: The wreckage of the past exists only […]
The past is the past. It has no foothold in us save for the parts of us that are fascinated with reliving the pain for the purpose of confirming the reality of self. The darkness that torments us over what […]
Since the present moment ceaselessly refreshes itself — so that all is ever-renewed in the now — there exists nothing in Reality with the power to hold us captive…
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the real nature of self-transformation. Learn what it means to place yourself in a vibrant relationship with real Life. Discover a whole and truly refreshing new way to meet life.
We must all agree to continue with our inner studies with a new and heightened wish for greater understanding. It may not seem so at the time of a trouble, but the truth is, the only thing any of us […]
When we think about our lives, it is clear that we do the same things every day. We get ready in the morning. We eat a meal. Perhaps we go shopping. With such repetition, it’s no time at all before […]
Reality is renewal itself. This means that as we learn to surrender ourselves to the Source of Life that never stops starting over — so are we empowered to see that whatever seems a lost opportunity, is really the same […]
What you need is not a way to resolve or outrun what is punishing you but to rise above that world within yourself where these recurring pains are a part of the natural landscape…
Guy Finley explains that anytime we feel a disturbance in our life, our tendency is to turn to our own mind for relief, by worrying, blaming others, thinking about what to do. This is the action of a divided mind, […]
Question: Resolving to change comes easy, but the will necessary to keep promises to myself soon fizzle. At other times, when life gives me a good blow, change is no longer optional, and resolve becomes quite effortless. How can I […]
Just as the man who climbs a great unknown mountain marvels one moment at what his ascent reveals, only to tremble before the next ridge revealed above him that he knows blocks his way, so too our journey inward offers […]
Just as an acorn that goes unplanted in the earth can never realize its destiny to become a mighty oak, so it holds with any Real Spiritual Principle that we unearth in our journey through this life: only those Truths […]
Learn to be thankful that life is being given to you moment by moment, for it is only through such gratitude that love reveals the great secret of rebirth…
Guy Finley explains that it’s a dangerous path to say we are one with God, because we go into imagination that we are divine. “I am the vine, ye are the branches.” The branch exists because of the vine. We […]
Before it’s possible to get on with the real business of spiritual rebirth, we must be fully convinced that no dark discontentment with ourselves can ever be the seed of a new self.
Rebirth is a reality, however know this: it is not a time to come but an eternal spring whose celestial seed awaits only for the willing heart and mind to begin its cultivation.
It is given to us to choose in which of the infinite worlds we will dwell, and there is no greater gift, nor power, granted to any creature under the sun. To not know one’s choice, or worse, to have […]
Resisting any dark condition of ourselves does not save us from it…
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how our sincere wish to act rightly in the moment will attract the authentic higher help that we need to change.
Real rescue from our problems can only come to us from above the level of our problem. And yet, in order for any solution to be real, it must be found somewhere within us, since that is the real location […]
Why do we end up as often as we do in those painful situations in which the last words usually spoken go something like, “How in the world did I get myself into this mess?” Sound familiar? It should. And […]
Half measures produce half results, and half results are one and the same as lessons only half learned. Lessons half learned guarantee you’re halfway there, once again, to repeating those lessons in your life that you have yet to learn!
The secret source of spiritual growth is found in silent receptivity…
Guy Finley explains that we meditate because we want to be in touch with a world within ourselves that isn’t subject to the vagaries and whims of the outer world or even our own thoughts and feelings. By establishing a […]
As strange as it sounds, it is natural at times to lose our zeal for awakening. This sense of self-loss is actually a necessary step along the higher path. For many years, a person can work for greater wholeness, for […]
Question: Can you briefly state an effective way to use feelings of discouragement for spiritual growth? Answer: You may have this backwards. We don’t use clouds to realize the sun. When the clouds are gone, the sun is there. Discouragement […]
People complain that their spiritual lives languish even as all they listen to, and for, is what amounts to the sound of their own voice. The secret of real spiritual growth is not mental or emotional activity, but silent receptivity.
Learn the secret of outgrowing any troublesome problem…
Guy Finley explains the necessity to remain as conscious as possible to any inner pain as it’s occurring. He points out the paradox that in spite of the burning sensation, something in me wants to hold on to it. Our […]
Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this […]
The experience of every moment of our life is a direct reflection of our nature. We never experience anything that does not arise directly from our own inner life. Life always happens from the inside out. What we know and […]
Work consciously to deliberately drop the names of your pains and you will also learn to let go of all the reasons you have for experiencing them.
The spiritual life is a genesis. When the seed awakens it isn’t to herself, but to the life that now stirs her. As only one, she slept. As two, she knows life. As both she leaves her dark world and […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about what it would mean to allow every impression that touches your heart and mind to stir and change you as it is intended.
What is immortal? Love, God’s Love — that which is not connected to a form. It isn’t a person’s face, it isn’t a passage of music — it is that which produces those things. We are intended to be changed […]
Our hope in prayer is to become one with the Living Light whose dawning opens the doorway to the Divine…
Over the years of living on a small mountaintop in southern Oregon, I have learned many valuable lessons from observing the wildlife that shares the forest area in which my house sits sequestered. The truth is, along the spiritual path, […]
Proceed along the spiritual path, even in the midst of feeling discouraged over your progress, and you will make the glad discovery that no discouraging state has the power to keep up with you…
Guy tells us that it’s not until all the edifices of our imagined existence crumble that a new foundation can be built. But we must go without “shelter” for a while. Spiritual change comes when I’m willing to stop protecting […]
There are parts of us that want the Truth, and then there are parts of us that only want what allows us to be comfortable and content with our life as we have known it. The upward path requires taking […]
There come times in our lives when our wish to be new, coupled with our interior work to realize this wish, produces certain “effects” that can be most trying; in fact, times such as these are a kind of trial. […]
The only thing “fixed” in us are those parts of our presently unenlightened nature that convince us to resist life’s natural changes. As this fear-filled, downward-trending nature tricks us into accepting its conclusions, they become the same as our captivity. […]
No one can say “No” to this world who is afraid to walk through it alone . . .
Eventually you must see that any action your mind gives you to console you about anything is stealing from you the possibility of being a reflection of the Divine. Stand unconsoled so the true consolation may make itself known to […]
Asking God to help you — without first doing the interior work of seeing and admitting the truth of yourself to yourself — is like sending someone else to church or temple for you to pray for your transfiguration.
If putting yourself first had any real power to grant you true liberty – a way to make you content, then – for all you’ve given to yourself – shouldn’t you be happy and free by now?
John the Baptist, a man dedicated to preparing the way for the Messiah promised in the Old Testament, taught that any person who wanted to experience Real Life should, “Repent, repent.” This was followed by his admonition that “the Kingdom […]
What we’re really looking for in this life is what we already have within us…
Guy Finley explains that although at times it may seem otherwise, the universe does want you to succeed as a human being. When you finally understand the truth of this, you’ll no longer have doubts about finding happiness.
Just as it is not our job to make the light that brings life to all creatures, neither is it our job to make ourselves happy. Our soul responsibility, when it comes to living in happiness, is to consciously provide […]
Question: All of my creative, positive passions seem to be located in another out-of-state environment. These things I have an honest interest and aptitude for, yet all opportunities around me are simply not in line with them. Should I accept […]
You must do in life what you alone have been “created” to do, which doesn’t mean that your fate is your destiny; because in fulfilling this responsibility — of what you have been given to be — you also realize […]
We can only begin to change the world when we are willing to work with what we are in the present moment …
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about the only true solution to anger, which is to atone for it in the moment by allowing the light of revelation to transform it, instead continuing to feed it through unconscious resistance.
“Turning to learning” begins with the honest recognition that our present approach to solving personal problems just doesn’t work. This may come as a surprise: Learning to live without recurring problems begins with losing faith in our habitual responses that […]
These three words — I can learn — are the most powerful three words in any language. Nothing in the universe can hold down that rare individual who clearly realizes that he or she doesn’t know what’s in the way […]
Either we learn what it means to lead by example, or we are lounge chair leaders who have deceived ourselves into believing that our ability to criticize those who go before us is the same as having reached the top […]
There is only one thing that you don’t have to imagine or struggle to keep alive — and that is what you authentically love.
Guy Finley explains why it would be wise to become highly suspicious of the parts of ourselves that endlessly seek the approval of other people.
Question: I am sure there are multitudes of memories and experiences we are better off to drop as soon as they end. However, there are many we may live out our lives and never top — such as our first, […]
Question: I am in a relationship with a man who has not received God as I have. I’ve tried to share with him my journey, but he rejects my feelings and does not want to hear anything about God. I […]
Spiritually speaking, all relationships serve one purpose: self-knowledge. Self-knowledge serves one purpose: awakening to the truth of one’s self. Awakening to the truth of oneself serves one purpose: dying to oneself. Dying to oneself serves one purpose: rebirth. And rebirth […]
The true spiritual warrior starts life over, over and over again.
Question: I have felt and seen within a part of me that just seems to exist all on its own without thought. But am I missing something if I can’t stay conscious of it? Are the multitude battles I go […]
Spiritually speaking, the cost of starting over is not what we pay to achieve some desire of ours, but is in our willingness to let go of — to dare to live without — any desire we may have whose […]
The only reason we ever feel stuck between the proverbial “rock and a hard place” — unable to see a way to get out — is because we’ve forgotten this simple spiritual truth: There’s always another direction waiting to reveal […]
Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short talk that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments within ourselves.
In order to let go of any painful past condition — so there is never again a moment where regret or sorrow is pulling us down — we must allow every movement, each unexpected event encountered, every thought and feeling […]
Question: How can I move beyond a painful regret? Answer: Events demand decisions. Choices must be made. And we do the best we know how in any given moment. Even so, we often err and choose against ourselves. For a […]
Without our unconscious consent, regardless of what we may have done against others, or ourselves, the past is powerless to punish us in the present moment.
Our relationships with one another are often a source of distress. And, speaking in general terms, most of the conflict we experience with others has to do with some form of consideration that we feel they are not giving to […]
Guy Finley explains that if we ever find ourselves feeling superior to another person, then that is the perfect time to take an honest look at ourselves so that we can begin to sense what it truly feels like to […]
Question: I recently found out that my husband of 21 years has been unfaithful. I should have picked up on the signs long ago, but what do I do now? Do I go out and find another love? I feel […]
Real compassion lies in our ability to remember that any angry, resentful person is usually just someone who can no longer bear the weary weight of his or her own carefully concealed despair.
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how each moment of life is made for anyone and everyone who is present to it. If you are not in this moment, you are not alive within the life that gives this […]
A whole new kind of spiritual happiness dawns in us as we realize that dark clouds do not ruin sunny skies… they merely pass through them to help us remember our love of the light.
Question: I have been a student of self-help and other personal development genres for over 30 years. I have always had a conflict between using unconscious processes (hypnosis, etc.) vs. conscious awareness processes to facilitate change. Which is the proper […]
Our attention needs to be turned around so that rather than always being mechanically drawn to consider whatever it meets in each passing moment, it is directed upon what it is (within us) that meets the same. Otherwise our attention […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about three stages in the life of a spiritual aspirant: first we explore the world, then we develop into good householders, and then if we are truly fortunate, the remaining years of our […]
Question: I live in a place where people are not very open to spirituality. Because I’m discovering who I am and what potential I was created to be, it can be difficult at times. How do I live from what […]
Our experience of life, our relationship to it, is directly, intimately connected to the way in which we see it — meaning it is our understanding of life that determines how we “go” through it. This is why new, true […]
There is an unspeakable gem whose light comes seemingly from all around us, but in truth is an upwelling from within us. Our relationship to that upwelling light — to that source of love — is really where we find […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley reveals some startling, live-changing facts about motivation that up until now have been hidden in plain sight. Part 1: Part 2:
The next time you want to go ahead with any project — whether it’s designing a rocket ship or finally getting around to repairing your favorite rocking chair — and you start to feel those old familiar doubts, dreads, or […]
Most of us wouldn’t be too surprised to hear that our mind has a will of its own. We all know what it’s like to be more or less helplessly doing something we wish we weren’t! We often feel the […]
Each time you’ll take the step that you’re sure you can’t, you’ll discover that the “you” who would not was only a thought that believed it could not. *** How many times have you found yourself thinking you’d like to […]
Learn to love what seems more beautiful than yourself, celebrate the gifts of others that outshine your own, practice the patience you have yet to win… giving yourself to a greater Self is not just the path to freedom, but the […]
If you love getting gifts — and who doesn’t — then why not accept, with gratitude, the greatest gift there is: the “present” moment.
How do we learn to use our relationships with others to realize a new kind of relationship with ourselves wherein we are able to discover that who we really are is all we need to be? Our willingness to strive […]
Only when the pleasure of being by ourselves either equals or exceeds that contentment that we feel in the company of others, are we capable of being unshakably true to ourselves, as well as those with whom we gather.
Guy Finley explores the popular passage “Ask and you shall receive,” and discusses what it means to really ask with a whole heart.
Love never anticipates life; anticipation arises from wanting something more from life than it offers in the moment, which means the father of anticipation is a close relative of greed.
There are aspects of divine life that we can — when we understand where we are intended to live — make a connection with and receive from that higher life everything we need to handle in any moment. You and […]
When you finally see that you can have almost anything in the world that you want, but that nothing you give to yourself actually brings an end to your wanting, then you’ll slowly cease giving yourself to this painful nature […]
When we are anxious, when there’s a pressing desire, we don’t see the fact that the state has occupied us and is trying to reconcile itself through what it pushes us to acquire. If we could look at something we […]
There may be no greater self-deception than the false notion that rushing through anything actually helps us in any way whatsoever. After all, if anxious thoughts and feelings had any power to deliver us to a place or time where […]
The Promise of Free Will
Only as each of us awakens to our actual condition in life, dominated as we are to one degree or another by a discontented self, can we ever hope to use our free will to give up our willfully discontented self in favor of a new and true ...
posted 3:00:54am Jul. 03, 2015
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(Audio) The Fulfillment of Free Will
In this short audio clip, Guy Finley talks about some of the characteristics of free will -- the capacity to choose what we love -- and the higher kind of responsibility that comes with that gift.
posted 12:00:38pm Jul. 02, 2015
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Put Your Hand in the Hand that Lifts You
Whether you see it or not, this world is in the hands of the hand that is coming from beneath the earth. Just think of all the acts of will that are occurring as they never have occurred before on this planet where young children and adults ...
posted 3:00:13am Jul. 01, 2015
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The Measure of Real Inner Worth
We are tested not by Spiritual Light but in spiritual darkness . . . for what test is made amongst things revealed? . . . Our real inner worth is measured by what we turn to in moments concealed. ...
posted 3:00:37am Jun. 30, 2015
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You Always Have a Choice
There is a will that operates twenty-four hours a day that is for you, and a will that operates twenty-four hours a day that is against you. You’re familiar with the will that works against you. It’s that will that drags you into internally ...
posted 3:00:03am Jun. 29, 2015
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