Letting Go with Guy Finley
Best-selling "Letting Go" author Guy Finley's encouraging and accessible message is one of the true bright lights in our world today. His ideas go straight to the heart of our most important personal and social issues -- relationships, success, addiction, stress, peace, happiness, freedom -- and lead the way to a higher life.
Guy is the acclaimed author of The Secret of Letting Go and 38 other books and audio programs that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. In addition, he has presented over 4,000 unique self-realization seminars to thousands of grateful students throughout North America and Europe over the past 25 years and has been a guest on over 600 television and radio shows, including national appearances on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, NPR, and many others.
Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute, and Director of Life of Learning Foundation, a non-profit Center for Self-Study in Merlin, Oregon. 200,000 people in 142 countries read his popular Key Lesson emails each week. His work is widely endorsed by doctors, business professionals, celebrities, and religious leaders of all denominations.
Guy's career reached this point through a circuitous path. Born into a successful show business family, he is the son of late-night TV and radio pioneer, Larry Finley. Growing up in Beverly Hills, his childhood friends were the sons and daughters of the most famous celebrities in the world. As a young man, Guy enjoyed success in a number of areas including composing award-winning music for many popular recording artists including Diana Ross, The Jackson 5, Billy Preston, and The Four Seasons, as well as writing the scores for several motion pictures and TV shows. From 1970-1979 he wrote and recorded his own albums under the Motown and RCA recording labels.
Throughout his youth, Guy suspected there was more to life than the type of worldly success that led to the emptiness and frustration he saw among his own successful friends and colleagues. In 1979, after travels throughout North America, India, and the Far East in search of truth and higher wisdom, Guy voluntarily retired from his flourishing music career in order to simplify his life and to concentrate on deeper self-studies.
In addition to his writing and appearance schedule, Guy presents four inner-life classes each week at Life of Learning Foundation in Merlin, Oregon. These classes are ongoing and open to the public. For more information about Guy Finley and his life-changing work, visit guyfinley.org.
"Guy Finley is...one of the leading experts at the forefront of human potential."
"Guy Finley has helped millions live fuller, more peaceable lives."
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Nothing infuriates evil as much as being seen for what it is . . .
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Guy Finley explains the revelation of our true self is the natural outcome of a constant pruning away of the illusions we have about our own character.
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When the soul cries out to spirit to carry her to a new world beyond the boundaries of this earthly domain, she is calling for the winds of faith to sweep down, fill her tattered and empty sails, and take […]
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Since the nature of real life is genesis itself—the ceaseless rebirth of “what has been” giving way to “what is and will be”—this alone tells you that you have the power to change. www.YourImmortalSelf.com
Listen to this short excerpt from Guy Finley’s interview with Dr. Pat Baccili as they discuss his newest book, The Secret of Your Immortal Self. Discover how all events in your life are meant to reveal your connection to what […]
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The pain in any unwanted revelation about our present level of self is being created by an unseen part of that same low level of self now being revealed…
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Everything points to the existence of a timeless interior Presence that doesn’t just precede the relationships we are drawn to in our lives but actually serves to arrange them, including whatever life lessons we take from these encounters. Calling on […]
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There is no reward on earth, or even amongst the stars, equal to the realization of the divinity within you. Those who have awakened and attained this pearl of great value understand—with no sense of pride for their knowledge—that the […]
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The moment you’ve been waiting for is here! It’s your turn to be one of the very few men and women — perhaps 1 in 100,000 — who have found the greatest treasure on earth. Announcing the worldwide release of […]
No oak became mighty in a moment, No mountain towered overnight; True greatness is grown in the soul By long exposure to God’s light.
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We go through our lives in a continual dance of being filled with something that needs an answer, and then going out and finding that answer… only to find out that our answer wasn’t quite the answer. Then, as we […]
Question: I know I have a confused and divided mind, so how can I get it into self-wholeness? Answer: Just as an electric fan cannot sort papers on a desk, giving them order, neither can the whirling mind produce Peace. […]
It is in the acceptance of life as it is — as it is given to us in each moment — that we find the wholeness, the holiness that is the one true center of this storm called “life.”
The main reason we must always remember to hold our chin up whenever negative thoughts try to drag us down is because whichever direction we choose first in that moment is what the rest of us will follow…
Guy Finley tells a fun and insightful story about an “achy lake” that was disturbed by the nuts that the squirrels kept dropping into it, to illustrate that you can use all of the disruptive people in your life to […]
Question: I have struggled for the past couple years with co-workers. Many of them seem intent on making me feel bad by making degrading comments about me. I have felt targeted for ridicule, and as a result don’t have much confidence […]
Question: Without reverting to their lower level, how do you get people to stop making their hurtful, cut-down remarks? Answer: One of the reasons people pounce on or attack us the way they do, is that they are feeding off […]
Question: In my job I must deal daily with several emotionally dark coworkers. What can I do to handle this situation better, besides getting another job? Answer: I know that it is difficult to be surrounded by toxic people; however, […]
Whatever we consent to embrace in life — including unwanted events that may cause us to suffer — adds to our lives a measure of love.
Guy Finley explains that when you give your love to what you know is right and true, you begin to develop a relationship with that which seeded that love in you in the first place. The more you learn to […]
Question: So if a person feels “I have no love in my life,” if that person would even have a sincere wish to know love, would that be the beginning of true love? Answer: You can build a fire in […]
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Sooner put out a fire with jet fuel than gain the upper hand on some anxious state by throwing more agitated thoughts into its turmoil.
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Question: When quieting my mind, there is sometimes a feeling of peace and clarity in the present moment, but often there is this gloomy, dark feeling of emptiness, together with a sense of fear about the future making me feel […]
Anywhere light shines, darkness submits…
In this short talk, Guy Finley explains how we cannot fail if we will persevere through our darkest moments, because the light never fails to illuminate what presently hides in the dark.
We have an essential need to be at peace. Part of that essential need to be at peace is to know that we are in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing, and to know it […]
The secret purpose of that self-loathing nature in us – that wants us to suffer today for what we could not do yesterday – is not there to help us make straight our mistakes, but rather to ensure that we […]
We must no longer agree to do the dark will that wants us to be its person. We must want, and put first, the will of what is Light and right for ourselves and everyone else around us. This means […]
Were it not for our mysterious capacity to perfectly reflect moments of beauty – to be one with it in heart, mind, and soul – there would be no beauty or harmony to behold…
In this special short talk featuring music performed live at Life of Learning Foundation in Southern Oregon, Guy Finley talks about the music and rhythm of life itself, and how we as human beings are meant to be sensitive instruments, responding […]
Question: What are the first steps in learning to discern the truth? Answer: One of the things that makes music good for us is our effortless relationship with its harmony and balance, with its rhythm and composition. We don’t have […]
What we must learn to ask ourselves, not once or twice daily, but a hundred times and every time it strikes us to remember ourselves, is this question: Where is my attention right now, and what is my experience of […]
The music of the mind — its harmony, or not, is expressed by the order of its thoughts through which it is instrumented. Confusion is dissonance; clarity is flow.
Though we find no evidence of anything noble in someone who has betrayed us, neither is there anything noble in our bitterness.
Guy Finley explains that when you feel betrayed by God, the actual betrayal is that your own mind would lead you to believe that God deserts those who love him.
We all know exactly what it is like to be certain we have let go of something sorrowful or worrisome, only to find ourselves in a similar sad situation moments later. Merely wanting to let go of an unhappy circumstance […]
Question: Someone I love has hurt me deeply, betrayed my trust, and now I don’t know how I should feel about this person. Should I forgive and forget, or try to find another who won’t be the same way? Seems […]
Our present mind knows of only two possible ways to turn when faced with a personal crisis. But neither of the directions it knows to look in ever resolve anything. Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only […]
There is no greater, more reliable teacher of true self-knowledge than intentional patience and, when married to a willingness to observe oneself through the stillness and sacrifice that such patience demands, there exists no swifter, more sure path to self-realization…
Guy Finley explains that you live in an entire galaxy of forces which ceaselessly act upon you, and it’s only your awareness of these energies that allows you to use them for your benefit rather than be unconsciously dominated by […]
You may not see it unfolding, but here’s what happens the moment you take your eye off of seeing the whole of yourself: Some unseen part of yourself takes one step closer to falling into the pit of some pain […]
The new inner vision that comes from self-observation is what provides you with true self-knowledge. To see yourself in this new way means that at the same moment of being aware of your physical self, you are also watching what […]
When we can observe ourselves by being awake to our thoughts and feelings, we allow our natural higher intelligence, our higher nature, to prevail over the unnatural thoughts and feelings of our self-defeating lower nature. Self-observation allows you to understand […]
The true measure of our wealth is not counted by what we do with the riches we may have, but rather is determined by the character of what fills our heart when what we have is taken away…
Guy Finley explains that as we awaken spiritually, we will gradually discover the truth about our authentic poverty, and in the process learn what it means to be grateful for everything we are given.
Question: I’ve noticed that the more I hear people complain about their unwanted circumstances in life, the less likely they are to do anything to change them. It makes me wonder if I’m just as ungrateful and unwilling! Answer: You […]
To have real gratitude, to have that fullness of heart that, by its greatness, fulfills the one who holds it, begins with allowing God to give you a portion of His Life… a gift one can only receive once he […]
This life of ours can either be one of endless servitude or endless gratitude, and we must choose which it is to be. To choose to live a life of endless servitude to a master that promises pleasures but delivers […]
Real love wants nothing outside of itself…
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A lot of what goes wrong on this planet is born of people who feel the weight of false responsibilities. Enabling another human being is a form of a false responsibility. Anyone who lives with someone who abuses them enables […]
We never enable someone else without having first disabled our own Higher Nature that knows better than to bargain for friendship, love — or to just feel “needed” in some way…
Freedom from the prison of negative states remains impossible until one loses interest in the false, but powerful, sense of self derived from identifying with (one’s own) surging sensations.
Guy Finley explains that each of us is a unique blend of energies, both positive and negative, all of which are meant to be used for the purpose of self-revelation.
Whenever a negative state comes to you, try to see yourself in that state through the intelligence of the following idea as opposed to seeing it through the ignorance that the state produces in you: All negative states are an […]
It’s my feeling that each of us who are interested in truly changing our lives, and so the world we live in, must turn what we learn into dedicated actions. Doing what’s true must follow our understanding of the Truth […]
There are two kinds of people in this world whose quality of life, like all of us, is determined by their outlook. There are those who feel chained to life by their own unrelenting doubts, and then there are those […]
Our demands that life be what we want it to be do not make life more desirable… they only hide from us just how undesirable it is to be who we are in that moment…
Guy Finley explains that we all have natural preferences in life, based on our individual make-up and conditioning. But when life doesn’t match up with our preferences, the pain and negativity we feel isn’t because of what has happened, it’s […]
Question: My life lately has been a seemingly unending string of “unwanted events.” I keep thinking God is trying to teach me something, or worse, that He is punishing me for something (à la Job in the Old Testament!). It’s […]
We must develop the patience to watch a moment long enough to see that the pain in it belongs to the self that insists that life honors its preferences. When we are impatient, we are certain that it is because […]
We may not yet see it as being so, but whenever unwanted situations come along — stripping us of some beloved attachment — it is the operation of one world acting upon another. There is our familiar world, the one […]
All forms of negativity may only dwell in us as long as they trick us into granting them permission to live there. Our task isn’t to overpower, or otherwise deny these sufferings, but to bring such light to bear upon […]
Hoping to help someone — who loves to be negative — see the harm of being identified with dark states, is like trying to teach a bat to appreciate sunlight, or a mud hen to preen in fresh clean waters.
No person is good or bad in and of himself, any more than a trumpet is good or bad for the music sounded out of its horn. It is the “player,” the musician behind the mouthpiece who determines these qualities […]
Question: I am at work sometimes as much as I am at home. How do we avoid the negative influences of others in the workplace? Answer: The whole point is not that we avoid what are unavoidable, difficult conditions, but […]
There are many un-illumined and downward trending parts in all of us that not only seek out their unconscious counterparts (in others) but that are secretly strengthened in the conflicted company of such dark and negative energies. We can see […]
Any time you sit, think about, and “stew” over what someone did to you, or simmer in anger about some past event, the real reason for your pain is because you’re cooking your own goose!
Guy Finley explains that all forms of rage, whether inwardly or outwardly directed, are the result of our thwarted attempts to possess what we think we need in order to be whole, happy, and in control.
The faster we try to go with whatever it may be that we are doing incorrectly, whether it’s hammering a nail or trying to nail down our happiness, the more and more frustrated we become for the unsatisfactory results. It […]
When you hear someone say, “I’m sick and tired of it,” what they are really saying without realizing it is that they’re sick and tired of suffering from their own lack of understanding. This all becomes clear once we understand […]
All of us have felt, at one time or another, trapped in our own life. During these periods of heightened unhappiness, one thing seems clear: the only reason we haven’t realized our great potential is because we’re being held back. […]
If you listen carefully, quietly, you’ll hear the voice of the moment tell you that all is well and always will be…
Guy Finley explains that we always give our attention to what we value most. You can’t “look” for the path to the Divine. The path is right here, right now. Our work is to just attend and listen for the […]
What we have taken as being our “choices” in life really belong to a nature whose mechanical reactions leave us virtually without a voice in our experience of what happens to us. In order to elevate the nature of our […]
Question: You have said to “follow what you love” and the rest of your life will take care of itself. I have been pondering whether or not to pursue a hobby as a business. The “still small voice” tells me […]
We can go on living as we have, where we allow our lower nature to respond to life for us by “remembering” what it does, and then “choosing” these reactions to act as our guide, telling us how we ought […]
Real love is immeasurable, which means it can neither be reached nor realized through measured steps…
Guy Finley explains that we are created to be the instrument of divine love, but currently all we know is conditional love as we chase after the temporary pleasures of the world. As we work to be open to each […]
Have you ever seen in a relationship that you have with someone that the alignment is starting to go off (so to speak) and you can see the car starting to drift? So, you grab the steering wheel — meaning […]
Isn’t it frustrating that on one hand you know that you’re supposed to have nice relationships with everyone, and yet you have almost no relationship with anyone that actually is nice? It’s a real grain of sand in one’s soul… […]
In its essence, every relationship in life between you and another man or woman is a reflection of the one relationship that produces it. There is one relationship that is the father, the mother of all relationships — just as […]
How to stop thinking and start seeing…
Guy Finley explains that there is a nature inside of us that wants nothing to do with spiritual work and inner transformation. We must meet this part of ourself that has no interest in doing what is right and good, […]
In the world of thoughts and feelings, there is always going to be something to bother you. You are constantly identifying with and pouring your life energy into what cannot grow. Instead, you keep trying to grow by thinking… trying […]
Our spiritual work is to bit by bit discover natural limitations in the thought process. What has happened in the world today is that human beings have had life replaced with the concept of living. In the concept of living […]
Neither Am I
With one hand He gives, with the other He takes
Filling and emptying the soul,
Carving out receptivity to His Name
With each deft blow of His soul-sculpturing hands.
I am never full, nor ever bereft. Neither am I,
But all is He.
I am His ...
posted 12:00:34pm Apr. 28, 2016
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(Audio) The Lost Secret of Making a Fresh Start in Life
Guy Finley talks about the fact that every moment is new and untouched, and if we cannot see that fact it is because we are seeing life through the eyes of an old nature that is comfortable only with what is familiar.
posted 1:53:59am Apr. 27, 2016
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Your Experience of Life is the Same As...
Your experience of life is the same as what you value most in each moment. -Guy Finley ...
posted 12:00:09pm Apr. 22, 2016
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(Video) Why Am I Here?
Guy Finley explains that when you remember your true purpose in life, the part of you that is always present and connected to conscience and a higher intelligence is able to go before you to give you a constant context for your ...
posted 3:18:04pm Apr. 20, 2016
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Resistance is Persistence
Question: When caught in an anxious state, it seems that the more I try to be awake and aware, the "tighter the grip." I know I'm resisting yet somehow embracing the state. Something's refusing to "get it." Help!
Answer: We cannot resist ...
posted 5:22:49pm Apr. 14, 2016
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