The person who enables another human being believes the only choice they have is to somehow keep that person in line, save that person from themselves — not for the good of the other human being but because the enabler, […]
A lot of what goes wrong on this planet is born of people who feel the weight of false responsibilities. Enabling another human being is a form of a false responsibility. Anyone who lives with someone who abuses them enables […]
We never enable someone else without having first disabled our own Higher Nature that knows better than to bargain for friendship, love — or to just feel “needed” in some way…
Question: Resolving to change comes easy, but the will necessary to keep promises to myself soon fizzle. At other times, when life gives me a good blow, change is no longer optional, and resolve becomes quite effortless. How can I […]
Guy Finley explains why it would be wise to become highly suspicious of the parts of ourselves that endlessly seek the approval of other people.
Most of us have found ourselves washed away, overcome by a flood of punishing thoughts and feelings. Picture a desperate man being swept down a river, grabbing onto whatever comes along, and it’s easy to see how we end up […]
Question: I have been working with the non-resistant approach to a troubling habit. As I work, it seems that every time temptation attacks, it lasts for shorter durations of time and doesn’t attack as often. Will the temptation eventually cease […]
Question: Do you have a recommendation for how to stop smoking? I need some advice about freedom from the inner voices that tempt me. Answer: There is an important principle at the root of all true spiritual teachings, and it […]
We can be new now, if we’re first fed up inwardly with our old, false nature; and secondly if we’re willing to really let go of this nature as we understand what that means. That’s what our higher studies are […]
The first purpose of the food we eat is to provide us with the best possible fuel needed for our interior and exterior work. The second purpose of food is to remind us that whatever we’re given to nourish ourselves […]
QUESTION Guy, the title of your new book, The Courage to Be Free, raises an immediate question. Why does it take courage to be free?
Don’t try to please each other, for each of you has constantly changing pleasures. Instead, strive to please love, and in this you will please what is capable of being loved in each other. This understanding alone nourishes your love, […]