Anger or resentment toward someone who has left us does not prove we love and they don’t. It proves we don’t understand the true nature of love, or we wouldn’t be ripping ourselves apart because someone tore from us something to which we had become attached. This momentary hole in our soul—created by such losses—must be left empty and not filled with negative states, otherwise we will never see the birth of a new and higher order of love within us because we’ve no room left for it to appear.