Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


Refuse to Relive the Past

posted by Guy Finley

The past is the past. It has no foothold in us save for the parts of us that are fascinated with reliving the pain for the purpose of confirming the reality of self.

The darkness that torments us over what we may have done does so to keep its place in us now. By misdirecting our attention to a time now passed, it’s able to “hide” in us the present.

Refuse to relive what was… instead, agree to see yourself as you are now. This is the only way for us to die to what lives within us at our expense. Yes, it’s painful, but “evil” isn’t an act; in some ways it’s in the part of us that clings to what was in order to “be” now.



  • Loreen Lee

    I agree, but in cases like PTSD, a working therapy is to relive the past in order to reprocess, reintegrate, remember it in a more understanding context.

    • http://www.guyfinley.org Guy Finley

      Hi Loreen, Kate from Life of Learning here, I work closely with Guy and help to manage his blog here on Beliefnet.

      Working to wake up to the truth of oneself in the present is far more valuable than trying to restore any lost sense of self due to painful events from the past. And as a person gets clearer in their own heart and mind about their present condition, understanding and dealing with the pains of the past happens naturally and effortlessly.

      Here are some helpful short talks that provide further insight into this topic:

      Heal Yourself and Heal the Past
      http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/video/5233

      Go Beyond What Has Passed into the Presence that Heals It
      http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/video/5297

      Best to you,
      Kate

  • guyfinley

    Hi Loreen,

    Kate from Life of Learning here, I work closely with Guy and help to manage his blog here on Beliefnet.

    Working to wake up to the truth of oneself in the present is far more valuable than trying to restore any lost sense of self due to painful events from the past. As a person gets clearer in their own heart and mind about their present condition, understanding (and knowing how to deal with) the pains of the past happens naturally and effortlessly.

    Here are some helpful short talks that provide further insight into this topic:

    Heal Yourself and Heal the Past
    http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/video/5233

    Go Beyond What Has Passed into the Presence that Heals It
    http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/video/5297

    Best to you,
    Kate

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