Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


Keys to Real Self-Change

posted by Guy Finley

Question: Resolving to change comes easy, but the will necessary to keep promises to myself soon fizzle. At other times, when life gives me a good blow, change is no longer optional, and resolve becomes quite effortless. How can I muster myself to keep my good intentions for a more healthy and balanced life when it’s so easy to fall back into “cruise” control?

Answer: No one wants to struggle… when they don’t have to; only when the “currents” of life rise up and threaten to wash away what we are identified with do we pick ourselves up and work to preserve what we fear might be lost.

Such struggles serve nothing other than the world they appear out of and disappear back into once some kind of personal “harmony” is restored. Of course, the problem is that this “balance” is as precarious as the changing of the seasons called our preferences. But, passing time ensures the re-emergence of negative states as unwanted events roll through and by, and the whole pattern simply repeats itself until the body is worn out and passes away… having served nothing but its own conditioned interests.

One must learn to struggle with him or her “self”– all the time — because without awareness of the way one meets his or her life, of what meets life for one when one is just “gliding” along… then, in truth, what is it that meets life? The answer is… no one: just a host of habitual thoughts and feelings, prejudicial ideas and beliefs, mechanical reactions. If we are not aware of ourselves — right now, and in all possible subsequent moments — then even though we “live”… we are not really alive. And, for the record, the presence of strong emotional states, positive or negative, does not mean we truly live any more than an i-Pod has individual intelligence just because it can sort through a playlist on its own.

Make an aim for yourself… give yourself a task that you know you must attend to, whatever its nature. Perhaps you never stop to consider the needs of others, maybe you’re a “rush-aholic,” or continually feed yourself “pleasure foods,” or eat when not hungry, or enable your own bad habits by submitting to them against your own best interests. Just pick ONE… and keep it before you at all times. Intend to attend to this aim above and beyond all other things. This wish and willingness to struggle with your own runaway parts will produce a new awareness of what is real, true, and valuable for you.



Previous Posts

(Audio) Find Divine Direction in Disappointment
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how we must first become consciously dissatisfied with our discontentment if we want to begin the process of letting go of it. [audio mp3="http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lettinggo/files/2014/07/20130403_divine_direction_sm.mp3"][/audio]

posted 12:00:36pm Jul. 31, 2014 | read full post »

The Power to Dismiss Discontentment From Your Life (Conclusion)
Awakening to see this cycle of discontent for what it is not only empowers us to cancel it, but it also brings to an end the strain of living under the unseen contradiction in our consciousness: the hope that one’s discontentment can be resolved by the very nature that creates and sustains it. Cle

posted 12:00:25pm Jul. 30, 2014 | read full post »

The Power to Dismiss Discontentment From Your Life (Part 2)
By the light of our impersonal study about discontentment we can see two bright new truths: much of our time is spent identifying the so-called cause of our discontented condition, and the rest of our time is taken up trying to change our unwanted situation into what we imagine will better suit our

posted 12:00:47pm Jul. 29, 2014 | read full post »

The Power to Dismiss Discontentment From Your Life (Part 1)
Most of us spend a lot more time trying to deal with discontentment than is obvious at first glance. Depending on how the day breaks for us, we may find ourselves feeling discontent about our life whenever we: • Compare our present level of health and energy to those better days when we felt a

posted 12:00:30pm Jul. 28, 2014 | read full post »

How to Fulfill Your True Purpose
  The only way to change that which we will be, and have, in a time to come is to learn what it means to work “with what we are” in the present moment!

posted 12:00:24pm Jul. 25, 2014 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.