Advertisement

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

Feeling Locked Up in Pain

Question: How do you begin to be open, when the pain and anger is so strong? How do I support my loved ones when I feel so cold inside? Is it fear that is keeping me locked up in this pain?

Answer: It may seem difficult to understand at first, but we must come to a new understanding that there are parts of ourselves that sit in direct opposition to our wish to be happy, whole, and loving human beings. In this instance, any fear that we have of expressing what we really feel towards another (as long as we are not being cruel, or otherwise just venting vicious states) is really the fear of somehow losing ourselves.

Let me briefly explain this idea: to begin with, we all know (more or less) that there lives within us an unconscious violence — a kind of untamed rage that given its leash would run away with us, and run over whomever else is in its way. So we swallow our anger and frustration in the face of relationships with others that ignite it. We don’t want to lose control of ourselves, or have other people see us as being out of control. As a result, we resist the pressure of our own negative states until they finally can no longer be suppressed, at which point we finally explode, producing the very unwanted result we had hoped to avoid. Clearly this approach of suppressing one’s negative states doesn’t work.

Advertisement

On the so-called “positive” side of this equation, we also fear (at times) expressing the depth and breadth of our love for someone; we sense (and often properly so) that telling someone we just can’t live without them will give them license to do toward us whatever they feel like doing because we told them the extent of our dependency upon them. So again, we fear losing ourselves to a situation that seems greater than our ability to deal with.

What’s the solution to this seeming dual edged sword upon which we dance? If we see the truth of our interior state, then there is only one action we can take: we must do what we fear doing. In this instance, we must ask ourselves what’s more important to us? Do we want to be someone who remains outside of a relationship and a captive of it at the same time — for fear of what may happen should we speak our heart (no matter how poorly this may be done, by the way)… or do we want to be free of these love limiting, resentment producing fear states, regardless the cost? This is a question you must answer for yourself.

Previous Posts

Anchor Yourself in the Truth that Sets You Free
Hidden within and behind all that you see changing around you dwells a timeless, changeless order of being; our eyes but half-seeing, we perceive only the outline of life, and not what truly Lives... ...

posted 12:00:23pm Sep. 04, 2015 | read full post »

(Audio) Uncover the Unstoppable Goodness in Your Soul
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how an authentic struggle is necessary in order to realize the flowering of the goodness that is seeded within us. [audio ...

posted 12:00:18pm Sep. 03, 2015 | read full post »

The Patience to Possess Your Soul
All creations are subject to the laws that govern and maintain the greater cycles of life. Active gives way to passive, passive heralds a return to activity; all must be reconciled and then start again. Learning to observe, recognize, and ...

posted 12:00:17pm Sep. 02, 2015 | read full post »

The Seed of Celestial Possibility
All that is moves through and expresses itself in cycles. Think of the seasons: each spring there is a stirring, the promise of a birth yet to come; we see, revealed before us, the appearance of possibilities that were formerly at rest. The ...

posted 12:00:10pm Sep. 01, 2015 | read full post »

The Path to the Indwelling Divine
Whenever we place any form of mental or physical consolation—be this food, friends, religious icons, some foolish purchase—ahead of our need to realize the indwelling Divine, we may be assured of the following result: the only thing that ...

posted 12:00:51pm Aug. 31, 2015 | read full post »

Advertisement


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.