Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


A Mistaken Idea about Happiness

posted by Guy Finley

Question: Happiness is elusive! How do I let go of an ever-present feeling of being discontented? If there is one weed in a field of roses, you can bet the weed is what I will see.

Answer: When it comes to discontentment or any other unhappiness, we are making a similar painful mistake that is taking us further and further away from real rescue. We believe that the inner voices within us, that so readily point out the discontentment in our lives, are doing this pointing from some safe harbor of contentment that we can reach only by following their directions. But a harbor wouldn’t even be necessary if these same thoughts and feelings hadn’t whipped up a storm in the first place!

The false self is trying endlessly to get your attention in order to point out to you that there is something missing in your life. Your feelings of discontentment are the very nature of the false self with which you have unknowingly identified. This is why you must never do anything about your discontentment because it is not your discontentment.

Don’t be afraid of not having something to do. Try to remember that what you really want isn’t just to feel different, but to be different. Let the feelings fade and disappear, and with them the false self.



  • http://www.beyondinlovedness.com Doug Brown

    If you can’t find happiness, why do you think that you know what happiness is? If you knew, you would find it. That’s why you find unhappiness, you know what it is. Just let go of the idea that you know happiness and it will come to you. It might even come as a weed.

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