Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


The Missing Half of Life

posted by Guy Finley

The spiritual work of letting go and of growing into our native holiness is unlike any other kind of effort one will ever have to make. It starts with embracing — and then daring to act upon — the understanding that nothing can be added to our True Self. Just think for a moment what such knowledge could mean to us if we were to take the trouble to make it our own.

For instance, rather than spend our time struggling in vain to make others into what we want them to be, we would be able to see the inherent flaw in this kind of thinking. Then, rather than trying to change others to suit our needs, our choice would be to simply drop this false idea that someone else is responsible for our fulfillment.
Freedom from the burden of false responsibilities…real reconciliation with lovers, friends, and family…the grace to forgive old foes completely…a growing sense of a loving and compassionate intelligence unbound by passing time: these gifts and more come to those who learn to let go.
So, this is what I have learned: the missing half of our lives is letting go. Make this spiritual discovery and be fulfilled; be fulfilled without effort, and be free. Breathing in would be worthless without its opposite of exhaling; think of letting go as learning to take part in the breath of life itself, something that is as natural to who you truly are as it is for the sun to shine.


  • Just Living

    I don’t believe “Nothing” can be added to our true self. We are human beings, ever changing. I’d like to think we are constantly evolving our “true self” through “living” and learning from our lifes experiences. Life’s “lessons” hopefully lead to growth and understanding of other people. Life here in the “lower level” is not always about letting go… “Let go”, “Relax”, “you are not responsible”… it is impossible to stop all stress, fear and anxiety. We are not vegetables. It is impossible and probably dangerous to ignore our healthy natural impulses. People need to have a certain amount of healthy fear in their lives. A healthy dose of fear can save us from being scammed by smooth talking New aged salesmen and even worse, smooth talkers in general trying to steal your life away.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpDvP1XgI8I The Egoic Self vs. True Self

    If what you are doing is working for you, then keep doing it. If like some of us / me, the reason we are on sites like this is that “it” wasn’t working. Any “smooth talker” (me), is flawed if they keep alive their “old” mentally made sense of “self” that takes things from this world in order to define who they are. It is false self, that is why the “true” self cannot be added to or needs anything from this world to define it.
    When that person ( me) steps out of the presence of “now” and looks to the past for something or someone to give them a sense of self. Or, they look forward to a time in the future the surely will give them what they think they need to be at peace. They(me) are never fulfilled or it is only temporary. Then the incessant thoughts of this ego keep looking for more and more; never satisfied, because it ( the false self) will never be. This is the biggest lie we have bought into and why mans’ (womens’) existence is filled with so much pain and relentless worry. Has any of us ever known to take ONLY the right “dose” of fear. That is why our bodies suffer stress because it does not distinguish between real imminent fear and the fear of a unconscious mind replaying and seeking those things that trigger that fear response. We are getting sick over imagined events that we convince ourselves to engage in thinking “we better play it safe” because if not this time then the next for sure we will be in danger. We end up not “living” at all, not in the true sense, though we try to convince ourselves as such.
    signed,
    A much flawed-smooth talker

  • Just Living

    I am just saying…. I don’t “buy” everything Guy is saying. I know that we are ALL flawed in many a way. I just feel that the “true” self does “evolve”. I understand that we should learn not to draw from our environment anything to DEFINE ourselves,but that would make us pretty darn DEVINE, wouldn’t it? I am not getting sick over “imagined” events that happened… I am just trying to sort things out in my mind now. I do find myself “playing safe” in my mind alot lately. But I am focusing on myself a bit more too…. my true self and my false self and my crazy self :)

  • Just So…Much…

    What you see as an evolution is just the erosion of the ego..Which we mistook for “US”.. The suffering we endure doesn’t grow or shape the true self, it breaks down the ego, the old self. The true self not so much evolves as we just become more aware that it exists in us and the old self falls away. Nothing is “added” if you believe we are all meant to be divine. Everything inside a seed has all it needs (blueprint wise) to be the flower it blossoms into. The outer layers that hid it die away for it to emerge. SO, blossom little sprout. Did you ever just notice your “egoic self” in all its’ “glory”. The ability to see ego take center stage is the first step into dismissing it and all the baggage it brings. You will notice when emotions surface in reaction to some slight or confrontation; just observe the moment, the increasing anxiety, the heart rate going up, the need to give someone a piece of your mind.. See the moment for what it really is and not just be swept away by it. Don’t resist it, just observe it..You will become more and more cognizant and that is the beginning of the end of the false self and that erodes its control over you. As the real self is allowed to be you, the false self exits taking your crazy self with it..
    S.T. ( Smooth Talker)

  • Just So…Much…of Me

    PS. The irony is not lost on me that even my posting my “insights” is purely egoic in nature no matter how altruistic they appear to be..
    Living in the True Self means never having to explain, defend, cajole, lecture anyone….
    the message is still valid even if the messenger is not… :}

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