Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley


What Can I Learn About Myself From You?

posted by Guy Finley

Compassion starts with the understanding that every human being on the planet looks different from us — because physically we are different — but inwardly we all live in the same pool. We all have pain and pleasure, we all share emotions that move in waves through that pool. People may live on the east bank of the pool so that the waves they know are different from the waves we know on the west bank, but if we look close enough it’s pretty clear that, in the end, we all experience the same “waves” in life.

Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “How could that person be like that?” and then by the grace of God discovered that you had done the same thing before, only called it something different? This is a beautiful realization because it proves to you that it is intended for those of us who would have a higher life to use everyone’s life for our own development. 
Instead of walking through our days meeting people with the closed-off nature that we presently act from, we can begin to let down our guard. This doesn’t mean to identify with negativity or cruelty in other people. We can certainly see their negative emotions. But because we have known hostility, fear, and hatred in ourselves, instead of punishing others for their states, we can begin to help them do what they must do, which is to fall back on themselves when we don’t take part in their negativity the way we have always done.
Did you know that whenever you resist someone’s negative state, you actually further enable that person’s negativity? So, meet people differently! Learn to meet people with this quiet inner request: “What can I learn about myself from you?” Try it. You won’t believe the difference it will make in what will come up in you and what you can learn about yourself because of what does come up. 
As we participate in this completely different order of relationship — the root of it having to do with being aware of the other person — compassion is born. There is no compassion that exists in a sleeping human being, in unconscious relationship, except for the fallacious compassion we express in order to make ourselves feel like we’re compassionate. Real compassion has to do with realizing that conscious relationship is the root of our very existence, trying to get us to wake up a little bit and enter into those relationships which make it possible for our lives to become what they’re intended to be.


  • Parveen

    Afraid to appreciate…….Thanks! Love this..

  • Parveen Islam

    Reread again.
    My favourite.Thanks once again!

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