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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

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Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers

George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.” Having DMS (DoorMat Syndrome) made me a People Pleaser who catered to others, with little reciprocation. […]

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Law of Attraction in Action: Your Response to Situations

This is post 192 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

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Becoming More Innovative

I’m delighted to have innovation expert Jeff DeGraff as my guest today. Jeff is an innovation professor at the Ross School of Business, the founder of Innovatrium Institute of Innovation, and co-creator of Competing Values Framework. In his new book, […]

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Do You Choose to Be a Victim?

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love. Self-love and allowing yourself to be ta victim don’t work together. Victims rarely love themselves. It’s not loving […]

No More!

When life is going your way, it’s easier to be happy. But you can smile even when it’s not perfect. I do it all the time! That’s what inner contentment can do for you. I’ve learned that contentment involves feeling […]

Embracing SUCCESS: inteview with Kathy Kaehler

I’m delighted to have an interview with celebrity trainer/nutritionist, Kathy Kaehler. Kathy has trained celebrity moms such as Julia Roberts, Michelle Pfeiffer and Denise Richards. I consider taking care of your body as an act of love. She lives by […]

Redefining Winning

On Saturday the US played England in soccer. It was the first time that they’ve played each other in many years. Last time the US won. This time the Brits were primed to beat us. Their fans taunted the Americans, […]

Saying “No” to People Pleaser Prison

Last week I talked about the importance of speaking up for YOU, your needs and your time in my post called Turning Over Your Welcome Mat. I call it personal freedom because tying up your time for others keeps you […]

Embracing SUCCESS: Interview with Bobbie Thomas

I’m delighted to have an interview with Bobbie Thomas as my first for Beliefnet in my Embracing SUCCESS series. Her national column, “The Buzz,” is featured in In Touch magazine and highlights Hollywood’s hottest fashion and beauty must-haves, and explores […]

Buying Your Ticket on the Train Out of Doormatville

Becoming self-empowered is a slow process. I truly believe that everyone has a little bit of DoorMat in them. I still do, though now I’ve become stronger about managing my need to be liked. I love myself enough to stop […]

I Make My Bed Every Day!

The title of this must sound like a weird statement. I make my bed every day! To most people this would seem normal, like brushing your teeth every day. But when I was a DoorMat, I rarely made my bed. […]

Compare Thee Not!

Do you judge yourself by how you compare to others? Many of us do. That’s a set-up for low self-esteem. There will always be someone thinner, or richer, or more musculare or taller, or who attracts more dates, or who […]

Would You Want You For a Friend?

I hear people complain about their friends. Why does she take me for granted? How can he flirt with my girlfriend? Why don’t I get support? Many have friends who are always downers, whining about the same problem with their […]

Taking Charge for Me

I have a hand-me-down table and chairs in my dining area. It’s what people see first when they walk into my apartment. I’ve never liked them but they served a purpose. I got used to using this table and chairs […]

Previous Posts

Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank ...

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks ...

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to ...

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when ...

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »

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