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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

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When Knowledge is Power

I love the term, “Knowledge is power” and often use it in my music business books when I encourage musicians to learn as much as they can about  how the industry works. But there’s a caveat. If you have lots […]

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Trust Your Gut

Have you felt that something wasn’t quite right, but ignored it? Or pushed away doubt? Intuition warns and guides you, when you let it. But you must let it! The subconscious notices what your consciousness doesn’t. If something doesn’t feel […]

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Empower Yourself by Being Funny

It’s said that laughter is the best medicine. Yet many of us don’t have enough in our lives. And having a good sense of humor is considered an very attractive quality in both sexes. That’s why I’m happy to have […]

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Do You Feel Inadequate?

In my Law of Attraction in Action post on Hesitation I discussed how I hesitated to take The Self-Love Movement™ to the next level for two years. But when I found my coach, I knew I’d found the right one. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Are You Who You Want to Attract?

This is post 223 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

“I’m Sorry”

I’ve often written about breaking the habit of saying ”I’m sorry” on autopilot. I used to say it whenever anything went wrong, even if I wasn’t the cause of it. I’d actually say “I’m sorry!” if someone bumped into me, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Neediness

This is post 222 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Can You Forgive Your Body for Being Imperfect?

A big block to building self-love is being unhappy with your body. Too many people tell me they’ll work on self-love when they lose weight, buff up more, etc. But self-love includes loving your body exactly as it is. That […]

Empower Yourself

While Self-Love Month is over, I hope that you’ll continue to seek ways to love yourself. Self-love is the fuel for many positive things in your life. It fortifies you to build a happy life and to stand up to […]

Keep Self-Love Going Through 2013

Today is Day 31 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today is the last day of Self-Love Month but it’s also the first […]

Who Is Stopping You from the Life You Want?

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. In my workshops and with clients, I often ask, “Who is stopping you […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Why Exercise is Self-Love

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today’s “I love me” tip is from self-love ambassador, Taylor Ryan, NASM CPT, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Creating a Personal Mantra to Empower You

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 219 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

Self-Love in Action

Today is Day 10 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today I have a special guest. Self-love ambassador Brenda Lidwell wrote to me […]

“I Can’t Do It”

Today is Day 7 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. A great way to show yourself love is to get comfortable saying those […]

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Love

Today is Day 4 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. People often think that self-love and self-esteem are one and the same. But […]

Why Guilt Can Be the Best Revenge

Revenge is usually considered a negative quality. Getting even often hurts you because what goes around, comes back to you. Plus, it keeps you immersed in the negative energy of what the person did. Depending on the circumstances, the best […]

Turn Confrontation into Communication

When you get angry enough, it’s common to consider having a confrontation with the person who annoys you. It’s natural to want to tell the other person off, or emotionally blurt out how they made you feel. Don’t! Often when […]

Principles for Success

The New Year is coming. Are you hoping to be more successful in 2013? I sure do! That’s why I’m delighted to have Matthew B. James, MA, Ph.D.back as my guest today. Dr. Matt is President of The Empowerment Partnership, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: New Years Eve

This is post 217 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Could You Survive with One Leg?

What holds you back from accomplishing what you want? It’s too hard? You don’t have the right contacts to help you? How would you feel about following your dreams if you had a real handicap, like having only one leg? […]

How My Self-Love Began at a Mary Kay Cosmetics Party

Often we need a catalyst to wake up to feeling at least a teeny bit worthy of loving ourselves. When I was a DoorMat, my first shred of self-worth began when my neighbor had a Mary Kay cosmetics party. I […]

The Only Thing That Matters

I’m thrilled to have Neale Donald Walsch, the author of 27 books on practical spirituality, as my guest today. Years ago, when I was still developing a relationship with God and building my spiritual core, someone gave me his Conversations […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Loneliness During the Holidays

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Being Nice vs. Being a Victim

People who consider themselves nice moan, “Why do people use me?” And groan, “Why me?” And whine, “I’ll never get what I want because_____.”  Fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” But this isn’t […]

Can You Master Your Life?

I’m delighted to have award-winning author and Harvard-trained adaptive leadership consultant Kathy Andersen as my guest today. She teaches people to master change in their lives, businesses and organizations. Kathy’s new book, Change Your Shoes, Live Your Greatest Life, shows […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hesitation

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Question: How Do I Handle My Boss’s Jealousy?

Jenna wrote: My boss recently got burned by her boyfriend and is very bitter toward men. I’m married to a wonderful guy and she knows it. She constantly snipes at me with comments that include a reference to my “perfect […]

Why It’s Good to Be Self-Conscious

Your perception of what you see can affect your attitude and happiness. That’s why I’m happy to have Carl Studna, a world renowned photographer, inspirational speaker and author as my guest today. He’s the author of, CLICK! Choosing Love…One Frame […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Detailing Your Feelings

This is post 214in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to […]

Join The Self-Love Movement™!

I’d appreciate your doing something for me. Please read this and pass it to as many people as you can. The message below can make a meaningful difference in the world. I’m thrilled and excited to announce that my self-love […]

Guidance vs. Trying to Control

Many people like to consider themselves helpful, and that can be a good thing. It feels good to help others when you can. But sometimes people mistake trying to control what someone else does as guidance, which it’s not. It’s […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Detailing Your Desires

This is post 213 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

One–way Takers

Some folks have a distorted sense of entitlement. They might expect help to get a job in your company or your field and push you for contacts. Or they might feel entitled to get free services from your professional skills. […]

Are You Considered a Pollyanna?

Since I’ve been posting about happiness all week, I thought this topic was appropriate to end the week—seeing the world through the eyes of the kind of optimism that being happy can give you. Sometimes when I try to be […]

Why the American Happiness Formula Is Making our Kids Depressed

I’ve been talking about happiness all week. It’s important to understand how our adult concept of happiness affects our kid. That’s why I’m happy to have Jonathan Hewitt, author of Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from […]

Stoke Your Happiness Mojo!

While it’s not officially happiness week, I’m calling it that and my posts this week will all relate to happiness. Why? BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY!! I endured many years of unhappiness when I was a DoorMat. Even […]

Denial to Your Reality

Years ago I wrote a song called Denial after a discussion with a friend about a guy I’d been seeing who lived with blinders on. He ignored obvious things he did that caused him trouble and acted like everything was […]

Looking Inside to Beat Fear & Anxiety

I’m delighted top have Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of Cellular Wisdom, back as my guest today. He works with people to help them improve their health using both inner tools and his medical background.  I’m also thrilled to […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Feeling Like a Phony

This is post 211 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Stop Playing Defense with People

When I began to say “no” to people or changed my habits in my DoorMat days, I found myself having defend what I did. People were used to me one way—always agreeable—and some didn’t like the new more empowered Daylle. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Resistance to Obstacles

This is post 210 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Find Your Own Voice

I encounter many people in a relationship who when asked, “What do you think about…?” use “we” instead of “I” in their answer. “We like this politician.” “We agree that taxes should be raised.” Often the “we” opinion belongs to […]

“Is That the Best You Can Do?”

I regularly find myself negotiating a money issue. As a freelancer, I negotiate what I’ll be paid to write an article or book. People have said they never have anything to negotiate, since they have a job with a fixed […]

Understanding the Soul of Wellness

I’m delighted to have Rajiv Parti. M.D. (aka Dr. Raj), a world leading specialist in pain management with over 30 years practicing clinical experience. He was the Chief of Anesthesiology at Bakersfield Heart Hospital where he specialized in cardiac anesthesia. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hate

This is post 209 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Question: How Can I Stop My Manager’s Nastiness?

A reader I’ll call Rose wrote that her office manager, Ms. Nasty, doesn’t treat her with respect and sometimes gets downright nasty, making sarcastic personal comments about her appearance, calling her nicknames that are disrespectful and withholding info that she […]

Making Success Your Own

Most people want to be successful. I sure do! That’s why I’m delight to have Patrick Daniel as my guest today. He became independently wealthy by the young age of 30 and today is a successful chartered accountant and owner […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hard Work

This is post 208 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Become More Bouncy

There have been several recent studies showing that people who develop resilience live longer and healthier lives. But what does resilience mean? I see it as the ability to bounce back from adversity. This doesn’t mean ignoring bad things that […]

Find the Fun in Your Work

Lately I’ve been hearing people talk about how they’re counting the days, or years, till they have enough time in at their jobs so they can quit and still get their pension. You can feel how much they hate going […]

Freeing Yourself

I’m always happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. as my guest. Her articles bring a great response as she has such a good take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Lucky Charms

This is post 207 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Making a Commitment to Grow

When I was a DoorMat, I went in circles around what I wanted to do. Of course I wanted to leave DoorMatville, and vowed often to do it, but I stayed for years after. Every time someone pushed me too […]

Why Opportunity Never Knocks On Your Door

You feel like you do everything right but never seem to get ahead and it’s frustrating! That’s why I’m delighted to have Vickie Milazzo, RN, MSN, JD, author of the New York Times bestseller, Wicked Success (Wiley), and founder of […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “It Doesn’t Matter How Bad It Looks!”

This is post 206 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. I hear […]

Faith: Your Spiritual Tranquilizer

I used to walk around holding a lot of negative emotions in when I had no faith. It made me complain a lot and triggered more negative emotions that kept me in an unhappy place. When something went wrong I’d […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 2

Yesterday I had a post called Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 1. Today is part 2 of the interview with JD Messinger, a man who has had a remarkable journey into understanding life, and himself. He went deep inside […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger, Part 1

While I’ve met all kinds of people who adhere to a spiritual mindset, I’d never have expected someone who was appointed to the U.S. Naval Academy by the U.S. Secretary of the Navy and was one of 37 Distinguished Graduates, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Habits

This is post 205 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Empower Yourself with Don’t or Won’t

There are many things we know aren’t good for us but it’s hard to resist. From food to romantic partners, to your job, we often have to use strength to hold fast to a healthier choice or one that in […]

What You Think You Can Achieve vs. What’s Possible

We’re all affected to some degree by things said about us in the past. My kindergarten teacher made fun of my artwork and told me I’d never be able to do art. It stayed with me well into adulthood as […]

Completely Accepting Life

I’m delighted to have John Tsilimparis, MFT, an authority on the dynamics of anxiety, as my guest today. His expertise was featured regularly on the TV documentary series Obsessed on the A&E Television Network and was on Collection Intervention on […]

It’s My Birthday!

Today is my birthday. I turn another year older. And, I’m happy about it! Getting older no longer scares me like it did when I was younger. I’m content with who I am. And I love me VERY much. Every […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Acting Your Age

This is post 204 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Getting Older vs. Getting Old

My birthday is this week and I’m excited. Yet I know many people, especially women, who dread each birthday like it’s a curse. I always find that a shame, especially since I’m older than many of them. But I become […]

QUESTION: How Do I Stop Unwanted Advice?

Leila asked: “My cousin is always giving me advice that I disagree with, which feels more like telling me what I should do. It feels condescending in that she says it, like I’m doing something wrong and she needs to […]

Stay Off Emotional Roller Coasters

Years ago, my emotions got a bit intense—both positive and negative. I’d just left my husband and was desperately determined to be happy. Still a DoorMat and a bit naïve, I’d grab onto anything positive that someone said. That set […]

Yes I Can!

Have you ever been asked if you can do something that you’d love to do, but, you don’t feel ready or aren’t sure how you’d accomplish it? Or it’s the last minute and you don’t feel you have enough time […]

Law of Attraction in Action: New Beginnings

This is post 202 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Where Do You Belong?

People tend to fall into patterns and make life decisions based on what they’ve been guided to do. Sometimes they were kind of programmed to go in a certain direction. Many women are taught young that their biggest goal as […]

The Language of Energy

I’m happy to have author and energetics expert, Elaine Seiler, as my guest today. Elaine is at the forefront of explaining humanity’s “energetic evolution” and how we can cope and thrive in the face of rapid change. In 1992, after […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Cravings

This is post 201 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The Boy Who Helped Save Batman Wasn’t Robin?

The Dark Knight Rises’ Exec Producer Offers Tips to Help Kids Realize Their Dream I’m delighted to have advice today from Michael Uslan, the Originator and Executive Producer of the “The Dark Knight Rises,” the third and newest in the […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “I Don’t Know If I Can Do It”

I’m thrilled and proud to announce that this is post number 200 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. I never thought this series would go so far! It’s a joy to show how you CAN use […]

Productive Envy

Envy is considered a negative quality. It can be accompanied by thoughts of wishing someone would fall down or make you not like the person, even if it’s a friend or family member. It can also trigger negative “compliments” such […]

The Healing Power of Forgiving

There’s a lot said about forgiving others when they do something you don’t like, or that hurts you or that’s downright wrong. Yet it’s still so hard for people to forgive someone who did them wrong. What’s hard to understand […]

Owning Your Greatness

I’m delighted to have Brad Yates as my guest today. I’ve posted several of his Tapping (EFT—Emotional Freedom Technique) videos that he has on YouTube. While we’ve never met, I feel like he’s my friend as I watch his videos […]

Question: Should I Loan My Best Friend Money?

Today I’ll answer a question sent in by Joan, a reader: Joan’s best friend’s husband lost his job and they’re struggling. She asked Joan for a loan to help them out. It’s a lot of money for Joan to lend. […]

Learn More from Olympians

Last week I had a post called Lessons from the US Olympics Gymnastics Team, with how each of the Fab 5’s behavior taught something special. But there was an overall message among many Olympic athletes that can make a big […]

The Chinese Way to Wealth and Prosperity

There was a big controversy when Amy Chua wrote about Tiger Mothers and how tough Chinese Moms can be in raising children to be at the top of their game. There are many strategies that the Chinese have used for […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Using Your Imagination

This is post 198 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Do You See Life in Color?

Years ago I was dating Brian, a guy who I liked a lot, but, I knew he wasn’t right for me. He treated me well, was like my best friend, and I trusted him completely. Sounds perfect? Some friends didn’t […]

Lessons from the US Olympics Gymnastics Team

I love the Olympics and try to watch at least some of it every day. I confess that gymnastics is my favorite event and am proud of the US women’s team for winning the gold medal. Watching the team finals, […]

Bring Good Sportsmanship into Your Life

Athletes are competitive. That’s what most thrive on. They play because they want to win. Most of us want to win the game of life. Many people turn into cutthroats to give themselves an advantage when they’re anxious to reach […]

The Struggle to Meditate

In last my post for my Law of Attraction in Action Series, Meditation, I recommended trying to meditate in order to clear your mind for positive manifesting. While I recommended it, I admitted that I’m not good at meditating. It’s […]

Creating a Mantra for Losing Weight

If losing weight is a goal for so many people, why is it so hard to make it happen? Because it’s hard! That’s why I’m happy to have Stephanie Mansour, CEO of Step It Up with Steph, as my guest […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Meditation

This is post 196 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

“Do You Have Minute?”

I just got a call from someone at a charity I’ve donated to in the past. I was working. Busy. Not happy to be interrupted. Grrr…. She asked, “Do you have a minute.” I wanted to get sarcastic and say […]

Learn from Lady Gaga

I’m thrilled to have Margaret M. Lynch as my guest today. And I’m delighted to announce that I’m writing my next book with her, called Why Don’t I Have More Money? It will be published next year by Tarcher/Penguin Books. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Changing Your Vibration

This is post 195 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Question: How Do I Set Boundaries on Buying What My Neighbor Sells?

Isabel wrote that she had a dilemma. Her neighbor seemed to always be selling something. She has four kids and it often feels like at least one is selling candy or cookies to raise money for school projects or the […]

Fighting Well

The title of this article may seem confusing. What is fighting well? Shouldn’t we try not to fight at all? Nope, fighting can be healthy, depending on how you do it. When someone proudly tells me that she and her […]

Stop Dieting & Start Eating—Healthy!

I recently has the pleasure of meeting Joy Bauer, who is often on the Today Show giving tips and inspiration for becoming more fit. Her warmth comes across on the screen but in person she was even more of a […]

Let Optimism Change Your World

The economy has been bad for a while. People and businesses are struggling. Yet there are many people and businesses that are rising above that with a mentality of optimism. I’m one of them. You can be too Jon Gordon, […]

Happy Independence Day!

Today is Independence Day in the US. Our country got it’s freedom and we celebrate that. Make this also a day for your own freedom–from what others want from you, from old beliefs, from limitations and all the other things […]

What’s Your Guilty Pleasure?

What’s Your Guilty Pleasure? Is it eating chocolate? Watching reality shows? Pigging out on the weekend? Most people can identify something when asked that question. I used to have lots of guilty pleasures, until I realized that most pleasure shouldn’t […]

Showing Reverence For Your Body

I’m delighted to have Laura M. Turner, M.Sc., CNHP back as my guest today. She’s an author, journalist and wellness mentor specializing in natural anti-aging practices and nutritional medicine. Below Laura provides insight about accepting all aspects of your body […]

Law of Attraction in Action: How Saying “No” to Something Can Backfire

This is post 193 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Make a Good First Impression

Sometimes a bad mood or insecurity or even a bad hair day can lower confidence or just keep the smiles off our faces. Or you may be tired and not in the mood to worry about what to wear or […]

Stop Expecting the Worst

We all do it at least sometimes—going to a negative place while waiting for something you want to happen if you don’t get good news immediately. You may be waiting for a call from a friend who you just reconnected […]

Rewriting Trauma

Many of us have trauma in our history. It can be hard to overcome if whatever caused it went on for a long time. But it can be dealt with, and healed if your recognize it and choose to move […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Your Response to Situations

This is post 192 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Let your Passions Take Gymnastics

How rigid are you? I have a friend who has what I call a cookie cutter life. Karen was raised to be a traditional sort of woman and became teacher because she was told it’s a good profession for women. […]

Winning Your Personal Fear Factor

Fear inhibits expressing your feelings, asking for a promotion, letting people go, saying “no” to requests, and many other things. Everyone experiences it. It can be subconscious or subtle. Nowadays reality shows encourage fighting fear. People survive eating pig’s innards […]

Learning About The Intuition Principle

I’m delighted to be a stop on my friend Angela Artemis’ virtual book tour today. Angela is an intuition coach  on a mission to teach readers around the world to “speak intuition” so that they can unlock all the brilliant […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Choosing YOUR Reality

This is post 191 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Life Imitating TV: Katherine Joosten and Mrs. McClusky

A few months ago I interviewed Desperate Housewives actress Katherine Joosten about her work as a spokesperson for Lung Cancer Profiles. Her courage and tenacity were strong. A two-time lung cancer survivor, Katherine was determined to get people to stop […]

Handling the Green-Eyed Monster—Envy

Envy really can be a deterrent to your happiness. It can suck the life out of your joy if you let it rule your perspective. Envy can minimize your own blessings if you compare what you have to other people […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Buying Without Fear or Guilt

This is post 190 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Get Serious Enough to Get Results

I just bumped into a neighbor who is always complaining she can’t walk far because her knees get stiff. About two months ago she told me how miserable she was having to limit her mobility. I felt so sorry for […]

Workplace Etiquette Part II

Last week Richie Frieman, who is known as Modern Manners Guy, answered two workplace etiquette questions that are commonly asked in Workplace Etiquette Part I.  Richie is as he is known as Modern Manners Guy, through his wildly successful podcast […]

Be More Like Children

All behavior is learned. As kids we’re carefree, letting our imaginations run wild. Then we grow up and restrict our behavior to fit into society, or so we believe. I was recently visiting someone with a three-year old. He gave […]

Recognize Your Beauty

We see the beauty in other people and in the world around us. But, often we don’t recognize or acknowledge our own. Do you balk or try to minimize compliments? Is it easier to put yourself down? Are your flaws […]

Workplace Etiquette Part I

It can be hard to handle workplace etiquette, especially if you need your job and are scared to rock the boat. DoorMats keep their mouths shut tight when things annoy them, but may seethe inside, causing stress to their emotional […]

Declare Your Personal Independence!

Would you like to implement the power you already possess? Yes, you already possess it! It just needs activation. Declare independence—from other people’s needs, from insecurity, from friends who use you, from disrespectful people, from not being taken seriously and […]

Aging Well: Interview with Dr. Jennifer Landa

Everyone wants to age well. Our culture is fixated and looking young. People worry about getting sick as they get older. So I went to Dr. Jennifer Landa to get some info on aging in the best way possible. Dr. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Lost & Found

This is post 188 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The Benefits of Being Happy

People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they’re often fleeting. Often we’re so busy trying find happiness we don’t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn’t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells […]

Controlling Negative Emotions

Often situations that trigger anger, disappointment, frustration, sadness, etc., make us stew. People pleasers tend to do it in silence, mulling it over and over as the feelings get more intense, or go the other way and complain to any […]

Have You Kept Your Resolutions?

It’s over four months since resolutions were made on New Years Eve. Have you kept yours? Most people haven’t. Do you think it’s too late to make good on them? Amnon Goldstein, M.D. says “no.” He’s a physician with more […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Don’t-Power vs. WILL-Power

This is post 187 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

10 Erroneous Beliefs About Being a Nice Person

A desire to be nice drives many of us to be people pleasers. It can be hard to know where true nice ends and being a DoorMat begins. Many people have great misconceptions of what nice behavior is or they […]

What’s Your Excuse?

Is there something you really want to do but…? Or something you know you should do but…? We make excuses that stop us. Maybe it’s not the right time or you think you’re not good enough or you don’t believe […]

Do You Have the Courage to Hope?

I’m happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California […]

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Want vs. What Is

This is post 186 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Getting Past Negative Experiences

We all have setbacks and disappointments and even traumatic experiences—your promotion at work may be stalled or your job is eliminated, your relationship ends, someone close to you passes away, you have an accident, your child gets into trouble, etc. […]

Celebrate Other People

I often encourage you to celebrate yourself and all you do. But it’s also nice to celebrate the people in your life that you care about. Most people are insecure in some way, no matter how confident they come across. […]

Why Bliss Should Be Your Goal

I’m blissful to have Sean Meshorer as my guest today. Sean is an inspirational twenty-first century speaker, teacher, and spiritual coach based in Los Angeles. He graduated from Stanford in 1993 with a degree in Philosophy and Religious Studies and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Accepting the Bad with the Good

This is post 185 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

My Idol: The Dalai Lama

If someone asks me if I have a choice to meet anyone, my answer is always the same—his holiness, the Dalai Lama. His goodness leaves me in awe. His bubbly personality with a happy laugh is contagious. And he taught […]

What Brings You Down?

Stuff happens. Life can be going well and then boof! A glitch appears. It could be something simple like getting a run in your stocking at work or hearing a weird noise from your car. It’s common to go to […]

Staying Young at Heart—Literally!

I’ve said many times that taking care of your health is a great act of love. And that also allows you to get older in better ways. Without a healthy heart, it’s hard to have a healthy body. That’s why […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s Impossible!”

This is post 184 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

How Do You Want to Be Remembered?

Someone I know who I’ll call Cindy passed away suddenly at forty-one. She was healthy and never expected to be killed in a car accident. I was with some of her friends soon after and they talked about her funeral […]

Don’t Give Up Your Power for Anger

I was in a good mood when my friend called to tell me she couldn’t make it to a concert we were supposed to attend that night. Her excuse wasn’t good in my book—a guy she liked asked her to […]

Strategies for Negotiating with More Confidence

With all the strides made, it’s still be proven that many women aren’t paid on par with the salaries of men—for doing the same job! Since a majority of women have at least a little bit of people pleaser in […]

May the Best Person Do It

People often have a hard time receiving help for several possible reasons. When I was a DoorMat I only wanted to help others. Receiving was tough, as it is for most people pleasers. I’d rather plod through something in a […]

Stop Living in the Future

Many people  live in the future—postponing the enjoyment of life until something you’d like happens. It gives your daydreams control over happiness right now. We think about how nice it will be when we meet the romantic partner of our […]

Can Money Ever Buy Happiness? Yes!

I write a lot about how money can’t buy happiness. Having it won’t substitute for unhappiness inside you. But Laura Vanderkam, my guest today, has an interesting take on it. She’s the author of several books, including her new one, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Economy Limits

This is post 182 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

You Can’t Do What?

I hear “I can’t…” way too often. You may see something you want to do or someone wants you to do and it looks hard or intimidating or your confidence isn’t high enough to tackle it so you write it […]

Closing Your Income Gap

Are you’re disgusted from reading about how 1% of people have most of the money? It can be depressing or worse to know how such a small segment has so much, while you might be hurting financially. But Trevor Bolin […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Start Your Day with Positive Intentions

This is post 181 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Question: How Can I Feel Empowered When I See the Ex Who Hurt Me?

A reader who I’ll call Lisa wrote that she has to go to an event for a friend who is friendly with her ex-boyfriend, so he’ll be there too. This guy took advantage of Lisa when they were involved. She […]

What’s Going On For You Right Now?

Many of us dwell in the past, letting old memories affect our present life. Or we look to the future with expectations that can be positive or negative. Doing so is usually reflected in to your level of happiness. If […]

Preparing for Spring

Many of us notice changes in ourselves that happen as we enter a new season. You may not realize it but your body adjusts to the warmer/colder temps and shorter/longer days. I always notice a shift as a new season […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Being in the Vortex

This is post 180 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Stop Living on the Defensive

Do you fight urges to snack or overeat? Do you get crazy when things go wrong that you weren’t expecting? Then you’re on the defensive, trying to fight urges or shore up problems. I’ve found that the best way to […]

Staying Grounded in Your Awesomeness

I’m happy to have Beauty Activist and Celebrity Red Carpet Makeup Artist Kenetia Lee as my guest today She is a leading authority on beauty empowerment. Her goal is to inspire women everywhere to express themselves authentically without fear. Are […]

Question: How Do I Protect My Time

A reader, who I’ll call Mary, wrote asking how to handle a situation with the mom of her son’s 6-year old friend, who I’ll call Beth, Beth doesn’t understand and respect that working from home still means working. She expects […]

What Was Your Most Difficult Choice?

We all have to make decisions. Some are easier than others. Choosing what to order for dinner when there’s a large menu may seem tough at the time but it’s insignificant compared to deciding to have a baby or to […]

How Your Intuition Grows as You Do

I’m delighted to have Angela Artemis, freelance journalist, blogger, clairvoyant medium and intuitive consultant back as my guest today. She’s also a financial salesperson experienced in financial planning, private banking and real estate finance. Her ability to navigate a demanding finance career while developing spiritually and psychically have […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Physical Ailments

This is post 178 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Friends You Should Cut Loose

In my last post, Assessing Your Friends, I discussed the importance of re-evaluating your friends and letting go of negative ones. If someone regularly does things that greatly bother you, snip them loose, or limit contact. That doesn’t mean you […]

Assessing Your Friends

During DoorMat days, I pleased and pleased to have as many friends as possible. I was under the misguided belief that everyone had to like me. People Pleasers befriend everyone. Now I’m very selective about who I call a friend […]

“Why Do People Do This or That?”

Have you ever asked something like, “How could she behave like that?” Or “Why would he do that to me?” We often question behavior that we deem as unacceptable, often something that hurts us. But people don’t just decide to […]

Law of Attraction in Action: HOW?

This is post 177 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Moving from What Ifs to What Is

Have you ever been ready to do something, take a risk, or try something new, then put on the brakes by thinking “What if this or that happens?” Most of us have done that. Certain activities seem be scary or […]

Have You Learned Your Lessons?

Do you find yourself making the same mistakes, over and over? Or continuously ending up in the same situation that you don’t like? People tell me they feel jinxed when this happens to them. They look for what or who […]

Yoga Lessons for Everyday Life

I’m delighted to have Diana Fletcher, a Certified Life coach, speaker and stress reducing expert as my guest today. Diana is the author of several books, including Happy on Purpose Daily Messages of Empowerment and publishes a bi-monthly ezine entitled […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Empowering Yourself

This is post 176 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power tomanifest all your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Look Just Ahead as You Keep Walking

Have you kept any of your resolutions yet? Or have they already gone out of your life with the holiday decorations? As I discussed in my post, Set New Year’s Intentions, it’s so easy to make resolutions about things you’re […]

Strategies to Achieve Goals

I’m delighted to have Siimon Reynolds as my guest today. He’s an internationally renowned high-performance expert what he describes as the “predictable science of success and achievement.” As a highly motivated executive himself, Reynolds co-founded Photon Group, which in eight […]

Question: How Can I Stop Lending Money?

A reader asked how she can stop loaning money to family. They rarely pay her back and always have a rationale about why she needs to help them out. They don’t help her. Yet they act like it’s her responsibility […]

The Trivedi Effect™

I’m delighted to share an interview with Mahendra Kumar Trivedi today. Over the last sixteen years, close to 150,000 people around the world have received Energy Transmissions from him. They report improved mood, less stress and anxiety, more energy, greater […]

31 Days of Self-Love 2012

Self-Love Month is over but the love shouldn’t be!  it’s important to not forget the importance of giving yourself love as much as you can. If you haven’t already done do, I highly recommend you read my free book, How […]

Adjusting Your Attitude for More Happiness

I’m happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California […]

The Self-Loving Gift of Autonomy

Today is Day 30 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. DoorMats go along with what others want. MANY people look to others for a life and get obsessed […]

How’s Your Relationship with YOU?

Today is Day 26 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Today I have Teri Johnson, author of Overcoming the Nevers by Gardening Your life and Nurturing Seeds of […]

How Do I Love Me? More Suggestions from Pros 2012

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I recently asked some experts how they show themselves love and included some in a post, to give […]

Favor vs. Obligation

Today is Day 16 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. We often confuse doing someone a favor with feeling an obligation to do something for someone. DoorMats see […]

Get Your Creative Hat On!

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m happy to have Melissa Dinwiddie, an artist, creative coach and inspirationalist known for getting people sparked, stoked […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show themselves love, to give you […]

Why Actress Kathryn Joosten (Desperate Housewives) Helps Lung Cancer Patients

Today is Day 5 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Taking charge of your healthcare is self-love. Lung cancer is the leading cause of cancer death in the […]

The Joy of Being Imperfect

Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Many of us were brought up with very high standards. Your parents might have pushed you to get […]

Start the New Year Resolved Not to Fail

Everyone is making New Years resolutions. It all feels and sound wonderful but, often—very often—the determination to keep them fades soon after January 1st. I love ending the year knowing I didn’t have any failures. While you’ve probably heard it […]

What’s Draining You?

Today I have Karen Okulicz as my guest. She’s the author of three motivational pocket books: Try: A Survival Guide to Unemployment; Decide: How to Make Any Decision; and Attitude: For Your Best Lived Life. Each book captures the best successful […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Set New Years Intentions, Not Resolutions, and DO Something

This is post 168 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Reach Higher

What are your goals? Are they big or just a little? I see many people with great potential who don’t live up to it because they get in their own way by not recognizing and accepting that they could have […]

Go for the Whole Enchilada!

DoorMats settle for crumbs—occasional attention from someone you do a favor for, romantic involvement with someone who is “better than nothing,” bits of happy times, etc. I remember clearly how that feels. Back in my Doormat days, I got used […]

How We Create Fear & Anxiety

I’m delighted top have Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of Cellular Wisdom, back as my guest today. He works with people to help them improve their health using both inner tools and his medical background. Today he shares his […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Resistant Beliefs

This is post 166 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Why I Don’t Like E-Cards

I used to send out lots of cards over the holiday season. Yes, it costs a bit for postage and also takes time to address each card and write a message. But it was also nice to send people good […]

Becoming More Innovative

I’m delighted to have innovation expert Jeff DeGraff as my guest today. Jeff is an innovation professor at the Ross School of Business, the founder of Innovatrium Institute of Innovation, and co-creator of Competing Values Framework. In his new book, […]

Healing Inner Wounds

My guest today is Thomas Gagliano, author of The Problem Was Me: How to End Negative Self-Talk and Take Your Life to a New Level. About ten years ago, he started to spend less time in the business world and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Writing Exercise #3

This is post 164 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Healthy Arguments

I hear people brag that they never fight with loved ones. There seems to be a special pride about never fighting with a romantic partner. Unfortunately, that’s nothing to be proud of. Just because you keep things on an even […]

Finding Your Purpose with Dr. Mark Chironna

I’m delighted to have Dr. Mark Chironna, certified life coach, author, and spiritual director as my guest today. Dr. Chironna’s authentic and compassionate approach to purposeful, destiny-infused living has transformed lives everywhere through one-on-one mentoring, speaking engagements, print and electronic […]

Other People’s Anger

I’ve talked a lot about calming your anger, but what about fielding the wrath of others? Today I heard from someone asking me about a situation that is sadly all too common—the wrath of someone else that seems irrational, which […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 2

Yesterday I had Part 1 of my interview with the amazing Richard Simmons where he told how he went from a very overweight kid to being at the top of his game and leading so many people down a healthy […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 1

Recently I saw Richard Simmons on several TV talk shows. I’ve always thought of him as a fun guy with lots of hair in little shorts and HUGE enthusiasm about leading and encouraging people to exercise and live a healthy […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “Am I in Alignment?”

This is post 155 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Do Something NOW!

A good way to give yourself a quick dose of self-empowerment is to do something you’ve been putting off. Things often pile up in my apartment. I get so immersed in my writing that I don’t make time to sort […]

Practical Genius with Gina Rudan

I’m delighted to have Gina Rudan, author of PRACTICAL GENIUS: The Real Smarts You Need to Get Your Passions and Talents Working for You (Touchstone Hardcover), as my guest today. She is President of Genuine Insights Inc. a contemporary professional […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Don’t Ask for What You Want

This is post 160 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Stop Lamenting Problems!

Everyone has problems. Everyone! You may think it’s just you but we all have stuff go wrong or in ways we don’t like. I do. Recently I had to move my websites to a different server and it messed on […]

Understanding Anxiety with Dr. Jason Schiffman

Many of us experience anxiety occasionally when something stressful is happening that feels out of our control. Some of us can take it to the next level and let it rule our lives. I wanted you to understand more about […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Aligning with Your Desires

This is post 158 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Question: How Can I Stop Having To Work Extra Days?

Helena wrote that her boss knows she works faster than the other people in her department and lately has been putting her on the spot to work overtime after work, and on weekends. While she does get paid for the […]

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You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

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