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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

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“I Love Me” Tip: Tap into Vibrant Health with Brad Yates

In June I had a week-long series on how to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), also known as Tapping to benefit all areas of your life. It included an interview with Margaret M. Lynch, a Success Coach, speaker and recognized […]

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Class Reunion

I was invited to a school reunion and thought it would be fun to attend. High school was a happy time for me. I had loads of friends and was involved in many activities. So I went and it was […]

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Making Peace with Problems

I’m delighted to have Joyce Shafer back as my guest today. She’s a Life Coach, the author of I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say and other books/e-books, and also publishers State of Appreciation, […]

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Law of Attraction in Action: Napolean Hill

This is post 155 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Adopting an Eastern Perspective

I’m happy to have Laura M. Turner back as my guest today. She’s a 15-year veteran fitness instructor, fitness trainer, journalist, author and natural health practitioner as my guest today. She hosts beauty & body online, a website dedicated to […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “I’m Afraid of Getting Older.”

This is post 154 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Happy Birthday to Me!

Today is my birthday! Am I sad? No! Lamenting it? Heck no! Feeling bad about another year on my age? No way! Today I’m celebrating me all day long! People as young as twenties begin to tick off their days […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “Everything Will Work Out Okay.”

This is post 153 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Rationales that Don’t Serve You Well

A lot of lessons come to me when I’m running. This week I recognized how easy it is to rationalize not doing something that’s good for you. I hadn’t been running much when the hot weather or heavy rains made […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Strong Belief

This is post 152 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Question: How Do I Handle a Mean Boss?

A reader responded to my post last week on People Who Tear You Down with a question. How do you respond to a boss who picks on you, puts you down, and then acts like he’s got your back. She […]

On Optimism

I’m happy to have Linda Sapadin, Ph.D. as my guest today. She’s a psychologist in private practice who specializes in helping people enrich their lives, enhance their relationships and overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior. Dr. Sapadin shares how to develop […]

Are You Prepared to Walk Away from What Bothers You?

You’re dying to stand up for yourself or ask for what you know you deserve. You work harder than anyone else yet haven’t asked a raise. Your romantic partner does unacceptable things but you haven’t had the nerve to address […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Daily Affirmations

This is post 147 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Spinning Negatives into Positives

I was recently driving home with a friend from a location that’s normally a 45-minute drive. As we got to highway that was the final leg of my trip, traffic stopped. It felt like it took forever to reach what […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Fueling the Law of Attraction with EFT

This is post 143 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Take Charge of You Own Personal Alchemy

I’m delighted to have Laura M. Turner, a 15-year veteran fitness instructor, fitness trainer, journalist, author and natural health practitioner as my guest today. She hosts beauty & body online, a website dedicated to inspiring all to stay healthy, disease […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Seek and Ye Shall Find

This is post 141 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Focus on the Desire

This is post 140 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Do You Focus on Being Positive?

I’m happy to have Joyce Shafer, You Are More! Empowerment Coach and author of I Don’t Want to be Your Guru, but I Have Something to Say & other books/ebooks (Lulu.com) as my guest today with tips for staying on […]

Behind the Face of a Bully

Bullying is all over the news. The Internet makes it easier for young people to pick on others. We usually assume that those who bully are mean spirited people who live to hurt those who can’t defend themselves. I thought […]

What’s Your Story?

When people ask me how I am, I usually give an enthusiastic “Great!” Even if something negative is on my mind, I still consider myself “Great!” While I might not feel well or something is on my mind that I […]

Stress Relief

Today I have author Michael David Lawrience as my guest for day 4 of his Virtual Blog Tour for his book, Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, & Pain. It will be available on Amazon toward the […]

Try Try!

I was recently at a playground with a toddler. Most of the kids were older. As he watched older boys going on the bigger swing with no safety bars, he he wanted to go on it too. I told him […]

You Can’t Fix Anyone But You

I was watching a TV talk show and a woman in a bad relationship went on and on about how she read every book she could to learn how to fix her guy and she was frustrated that he hadn’t […]

Finding Your Happy

What makes you happy? I mean really happy, the kind that keeps you content through life’s ups and downs. I used to think that when I had more money to buy the stuff I wanted I’d be happy. But when […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Checking Your Mirror

This is post 133 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

“Thank YOU Self!”

I often promote gratitude. It’s a great way to feel good and helps you attract more goodies. Now it’s time to turn that onto YOU. It’s so easy to take yourself for granted or lose your perspective if you’re busy […]

Interview with Lisa Paul

Courage and perseverance can make goals real, as shown in this interview with Lisa Paul. In 1984, as an American college student and nanny living in Moscow, she came to Inna Meiman’s house for her first Russian language lesson and […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Clear Your Sink Every Day

This tip may seem odd to you. How can clearing your sink every day say, “I love me”? It might not for everyone but many of us haven’t been in the habit of washing dishes in a timely fashion and […]

What, Me Worry?

Do you worry about “what ifs?” and the worst case scenario outcome for everything? I know people like that. Give them something to think about and their minds race to look for potential trouble where there probably wouldn’t be any. […]

Interview with Joe Vitale about THE AWAKENING COURSE

I was so excited to have the opportunity to interview inspirational speaker and best-selling author, Joe Vitale because I admire him so much. His writing and videos, including his appearance in the best-selling DVD, The Secret, have personally inspired me […]

Unconditional Love and Union

I’m delighted to have Gabriella Hartwell as my guest today. She’s an Intuitive Relationship Life Coach, Spiritual Mentor and author of You Find Your Soul Mate When You Let Go of Searching.  She also writes the blog, Insight, Inspriation, In […]

Prayers for Japan

I have a few problems on my plate that are big for me and have been making me feel stressed. Then I turned on the TV and saw pictures from Japan after the earthquake and tsunami and my problems melted […]

Finding Success in YOU

I’m exceptionally happy to have Lisa McCourt as my guest today. She’s made GETTING REAL a lifetime pursuit, weaving the world’s most powerful authenticity strategies together into her Juicy Joy training programs, based on her upcoming Hay House book, Juicy Joy […]

What’s “There”?

I ask people if they’re happy with their lives and they often say they’re not “there” yet. Life will be better when they get “there.” I’ve asked what “there” means and get evasive answers. I don’t think they quite know […]

How You Sabotage YOU

I’m happy to have Stephanie Mansour, CEO of Step It Up with Steph, as my guest today. She has been featured on CNN, AOL, Crain’s Business, and local TV stations across the country for her holistic and unique approach to […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Smile!

Smiling makes you feel better. It’s been scientifically proven. Smiling triggers your body to release serotonin, a neurotransmitter chemical which makes you feel good. Sometimes if I’m feeling a little down, I force myself to smile. Maybe I picture someone […]

Say “Yes” to Spontaneity

It was 7:40 PM. I had to get up early that morning so I was very tired. My plan was to try to go to sleep at 10-ish. I was undressed and happily enjoying the quiet as I did some […]

“I Did It My Way”

I’ve never been a big Frank Sinatra fan but I do very much respect the talent he shared with the world. Many of his songs were classics. The one that stands out above the rest for me is “My Way.” […]

Interview with SARK

In December I had a guest article by SARK is a best-selling author and artist, with sixteen titles in print and well over two million books sold, including the national bestsellers Succulent Wild Woman, Bodacious Book of Succulence, Eat Mangoes […]

How Do I Love Me? Here Are Some Ways

Today is Day 27 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. As Self-Love Month comes to a close, I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how […]

What You’re Not vs. What You Are

Where does your self-image come from? Often it comes from old messages or perceptions. Insecurity can make us believe all the bad stuff people tell us and shrug off the good stuff. One negative comment can pierce a fragile ego. […]

The Right Best Friend–YOU

I’m delight to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California. […]

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

We look for love from a romantic partner. “I need to find someone to complete me” is a common lament I hear from single women, and even from men. Yet no one can complete you but YOU! We look for […]

Have a Blessed & Loving New Year!

As 2010 comes to an end, I wish you all the joy, hope, prosperity and love that you can manifest. You see, I know that each of you is capable of having a year full of more abundance than you […]

Baby Steppin’ into a Joyous New Year

One more day of 2010. One more opportunity to think about how you want your life to change next year. People are thinking about fresh starts, big dreams, new beginnings, etc. As I said in my post about New Years […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Giving Up vs. Letting Go

This is post 119 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Encouragement

This is post 118 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Setting Boundaries

Self-awareness leads to growth. As you accept your right to be happy, you will hopefully accept that to achieve it, you must set boundaries with people. Each bit of self-realization is a step toward valuing yourself enough to set small […]

Interview Philip Smith About Healing

When I began to read Walking Through Walls by Philip Smith, I was taken by how vividly he described his untraditional upbringing. His father, Lew Smith, was a successful interior designer who got a calling to heal people and dramatically […]

Giving Back: One Rose

There’s a Japanese woman in my building who’s lived here as long as me. We always say hello on the elevator but that’s about it. Her English isn’t great so our conversations have been limited. But she always smiles and […]

Joy For the Holidays

On Monday I answered a question about feeling lonely during the holidays. Today I’m DELIGHTED to have suggestions about how to enjoy the holidays from SARK, one of my favorite authors. I still remember how excited I was when I […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Declare Yourself

This is post 116 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Question: Is it a contradiction to feel blessed yet still feel lonely?

Someone asked this question on my post about counting your blessings that I wrote about Giving Thanks on Thanksgiving. She said she knows she has many blessings, and expresses her gratitude. But, this time of year, with all the holiday […]

Preparing for the New Year

How do you get ready for the New Year? Do you look forward to it coming as a way to start fresh on your dreams and goals? Is that when the Fat Fairy will wave her magic wand and your […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Physical Excuses

This is post 115 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

I Challenge You to Love Yourself!

January Is Self-Love Month Most people I encounter say they want to love themselves. Most self-help books encourage you to build it. Loving yourself strengthens confidence, helps you accept yourself as you are, motivates taking care of self, and a […]

Giving Thanks on Thanksgiving!

I used to love Thanksgiving Day for the food. For those of you living in other countries, we celebrate Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November. Families get together to have a big decadent meal, commonly featuring a turkey, sweet […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Uncertainty

This is post 114 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Profound Gratitude

I’m delighted to have Walter Green, author of This is the Moment: How One Man’s Yearlong Journey Captured the Power of Extraordinary Gratitude (Hay House, Oct. 2010), as my guest today. He has an amazing perception of gratitude and how […]

Listening to Your Spiritual GPS

I’m delighted to have Leonard Szymczak MSW, LCSW, a psychotherapist and educator for over 35 years, as my guest today. He was director of The Family Therapy Program at the Marriage and Family Centre in Sydney, Australia, and later served […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Writing Exercise #2

This is post 112 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

“They” Don’t Have to Understand

You set a boundary with a friend. You don’t want to do something they want you to and say so. Or perhaps you’re making a more empowering lifestyle change that a friend disagrees with. Or you may not want someone […]

Interview with Maria Papapetros

I’m delighted to have an interview today with Maria Papapetros, psychic and healer, who has made great strides in the field of para-psychology. Internationally renown for her work with individual clients and group workshops, Maria is a central energy source […]

Looking Up for Answers

When I have a problem, I try to figure out a solution. It’s the same when people come to me for advice. I do my best to offer something good for them to do. But there are times it’s hard […]

Interview with W.D. Wetherell

I’m delighted to have an interview with W.D. Wetherell, award-winning author of over a dozen books including Soccer Dad and Morning. His short stories have appeared in many publications including Kenyon Review, Tri-Quarterly, New England Review, Atlantic, Southern Review, and […]

Solo Forgiving with Ho’oponopono

Last week in the guest post on The Huna Way of Forgiveness, by Dr. Matthew B. James discussed the act of forgiving others and asking for forgiveness. Several people commented that they wouldn’t be able to actually do it face […]

Effective Forgiving

I’m delighted to have Matthew B. James, Ph.D., international trainer, lecturer, educator, and president of American Pacific University and the Empowerment Partnership as my guest today. His work is dedicated to creating personal transformation by teaching Huna, the ancient science […]

Why Failure Shouldn’t Stop You

I’m happy to have Angela Artemis, a freelance journalist, blogger, clairvoyant medium and intuitive consultant as my guest today. She’s also a financial salesperson experienced in financial planning, private banking and real estate finance. Her ability to navigate a demanding finance career while developing spiritually and psychically have […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Responding to Negatives

This is post 107 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Shifting from Negative to Positive

As an author and guide Beca Lewis is dedicated to bringing Universal Spiritual Principles and Laws into clear focus, to shift material perception to spiritual perception, which following the law “what you perceive to be reality magnifies,™” adjusts lives with […]

It Would be Over Now Anyway

Have you ever dropped a donut you were enjoying or knocked over a drink or arrived somewhere that had just closed or leave late and miss part of a game you had tickets for? When that happened to me in […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Holding onto Faith

This is post 105 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Celebrating Age

As I said in my post on Tuesday on Thinking Young, my birthday is Sunday. Every year I celebrate it with people who are close to me at the Telephone Bar in the East village. I’ll actually be doing this […]

The Subconscious Mind

I’m delighted top have Dr. Friedemann Schaub back as my guest today. In March he shared The 9 Keys to Self-Healing. He works with people to help them improve their health using both inner tools and his medical background. I’m […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Thinking Young

This is post 104 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Giving Back: Kindness for Those Who Annoy You

What’s your response to someone who annoys or hurts you? Anger? Bristling? Wanting to get back at them? Instead of hurting them or lashing out, give them kindness instead. People who do things to annoy you are usually not happy. […]

Embracing SUCCESS: Interview with Nick Friedman and Omar Soliman

On Tuesday I had a post in my Law of Attraction in Action series on Vision Plans and used Nick Friedman and Omar Soliman as examples. Today I have an interview with them. I wrote my newest book, Effortless Entrepreneur: […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Vision Plans

This is post 103 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Raising Your Standards

I’m happy to have Morgana Rae as my guest today. She’s an internationally acclaimed life coach, author, and speaker. Her successful company, Charmed Life Coaching,  guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, to market easily and authentically, and to radically […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Thinking Big

This is post 102 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Say You’re Sorry If You Are

I’ve written about why it’s not good to say, “I’m sorry” out of habit, if you’re not sorry. DoorMats apologize whether they did something wrong or not. They often apologize for everything that goes wrong, whether they caused the problem […]

Why Doing Yoga Says “I Love Me”

I’m happy to have Max Strom as my guest today. He’s a teacher, speaker, and author is known for inspiring and impacting the lives of his students and has become one of the most respected teachers of personal transformation and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Rejection

Wow! This is post 100 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. People didn’t think this series would last too long since I’d run out of topics–but I’m far from that! The Law of Attraction encompasses every […]

Make Each Day a Good One

I recently heard people being interviewed on the radio about the bad weather we were having. They were asked how they felt from all the the heat and humidity. One after another, people complained about it. I agreed with what […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Tolerance

This is post 98 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

“This Is Self-Love”

Last week I was at a spiritual gathering and the leader asked for definitions of love. Eventually there was a tie-in to self-love. I defined love as caring enough about yourself to do whatever it takes to nurture every aspect […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Pessimism

This is post 97 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Question: How Do I Give Criticism Less Importance?

A reader commented on my post called Giving Back: Kind Words. She said that while she has a nice boss and knows she does a good job, her boss isn’t forthcoming with appreciation. She asked why it seems that people […]

Taking a New Work Direction

I’m happy to have author of Kerry Hannon, What’s Next? Follow Your Passion and Find Your Dream as my guest today. In the current economy, many people are out of work or trying to change what they do to earn […]

Giving Back: Kind Words

I’ve been posting in my Giving Back series to alert you to the importance of paying forward for your blessings. DoorMats give to gain approval. Being liked is most important to them so they give to get approval and to […]

Interview with Liz Holzemer

I’m delighted to have an interview with Liz Holzemer today. When I heard her speak in April, I was so inspired by her courage and fortitude as she told the story of how she handled a scary diagnosis 10 years […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Gossip

This is post 95 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Note to Self

I had a big response to Tuesday’s post in my Law of Attraction in Action series called “Something Good Will Come of This.” People wrote they need to etch this into their brain so they’d have it handy when something […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “Something Good Will Come from This”

This is post 94 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

What’s YOUR Pleasure?

I was recently at an event that included a talk by Dr. Christiane Norhtrup, who I greatly admire for her work with women’s health, her book, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, and her great perspective in general. She mentioned that her […]

The Truth About Time

I’m delighted to have Laura Vanderkam as my guest today.  She’s the author of several books, including her new one, 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think. She puts a new spin on your perspective of time.  Four […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Energy

This is post 93 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Getting Along with Everyone

Today I have Tamara Overlee, author of The Truth of Life From the World of Love and Spirit. Her article emphasizes how we should treat one another if we are to make the world a better place. Learning of CompassionAutomatic […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Cause & Effect

This is post 91 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how. I […]

Embracing SUCCESS: Interview with Gary Player

I’m honored to have an interview with Gary Player, one of golf’s greatest champions. As one of the “Big Three” of golf’s golden era (with Jack Nicklaus and Arnold Palmer), he helped launch golf as a major international sport. He […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Worry

This is post 89 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how. A […]

Law of Attraction in Action Series

Rather than include all the posts for my Law of Attraction in Action Series, I’ve made a separate post that people can refer back to read others in the series. They’re all listed here. I’ll add the new one each […]

The 5 Myths of Positive Mental Attitude

People sometimes tease me for my super positive attitude. I get bah-humbugs when I try to encourage certain folks and find it soooooooooo sad, since they are choosing to be unhappy. I truly don’t get it but I guess some […]

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Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” People

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to leave or mean “no” or cut visits if ignored? Decide how

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks to achieving goals are the labels you put on yourself.

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself.” Having DMS (DoorMat Syndrome) made me a People Pleaser wh

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when they’re trying to manifest if something doesn’t work out

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »

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