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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

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Positive Mental Attitude Archives

Ditch the Victim Mentality

A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill […]

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Standing Up for Yourself

You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop […]

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Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”

This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

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We’re often so proud of ourselves for making the effort to communicate that we don’t pay attention to our approach. Becoming aware of how we present our thoughts and ideas can get them across more clearly. Simply paying more attention […]

Get Good Customer Service

Do you complain about customer service people? If you were brought up to avoid causing problems, you may keep your mouth shut about bad service or defective products, and complain to friends. Reaching a person instead of an automated voice […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Labeling Things That Happen with Negatives

This is post 288 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Adding Power to Your Manifesting

This is post 139 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Do You Refuse to See Your Truth?

Years ago I had a friend who had HUGE issues, but to him, everything was fine. His friends had given up on getting him into therapy. He insisted he could handle stuff himself. And he did, with lots of alcohol, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Stress

This is post 286 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Façades

I’ve learned that many people put on facades, when he/she is overcompensating for insecurity. Since I work with a lot of people, I get to see what’s behind the facades and how what they project isn’t who they are. People […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Changing Your Vibration by Bringing in More Joy

This is post 285 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Get Rid of Your “Not Good Enoughs”

When I was a DoorMat, I let people walk all over me. I jumped to do favors for everyone. I agreed to do what other people wanted to do. Other people ran my life for me. All because I believed […]

Own Your Future

I had a dream about going to Banff in Canada and Montana since I was a teen and a cousin went on an adventure there. He showed me his pictures and they blew me away. I had to go too! […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Making the Best of What Happens

This is post 281 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Rewriting Elizabeth Barrett Browning

  Elizabeth Barrett Browning wrote How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I borrowed it for the title of the book I’m giving away through The Self-Love Movement™—How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways. […]

Are You a Needy People Magnet?

Do you find yourself surrounded by people who need you for something? Do you tend to end up with romantic partners who need fixing? It’s common, especially for DoorMats who have people pleasing as part of their M.O.  I did […]

Give Yourself Permission to Express Yourself

I encounter many people who share that they’re scared to express how they feel to friends, family, work colleagues, etc. Some don’t know why they’re scared. Not knowing what the results might be can cause the greatest fear. Fear of […]

10 Tips for Getting Comfortable with Saying “NO!”

I was recently at a motivational event. The speaker asked people in the audience to share something special they’d done. One woman said she began to say “no” occasionally. Everyone applauded this feat. Women are known for being overly agreeable. […]

How Do You Handle Chaotic Times?

As spring slowly begins make an appearance as the winter tries to hang on, we’re getting out more. This can make life feel a bit chaotic as we try to catch up after a long winter. There are times of […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “I Have to Take the Good With the Bad.”

This is post 277 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Who Have You Made God?

A woman recently told me with pride how after reading my book, All Men Are Jerks until Proven Otherwise, she was able to leave Jack, her boyfriend who she had put up on a pedestal as imperative to be with. […]

Has the Economy Changed Your Work-Life Balance?

Do you feel like your life is changing with the changing economy? It can really throw off your work-life balance. Today my guest is Bob Epperly, author of Growing Up After Fifty: From Exxon Executive to Spiritual Seeker,. He worked […]

Do You Need Everyone to Like You?

I grew up believing it was important for everyone to like me. So did my friends. Did you? It’s a common belief, especially for girls. And wanting this is what turns us into DoorMats/people pleasers. When I was on Oprah, […]

A Message from Archangel Michael

I’m delighted to have my friend and Self-Love Ambassador,  Dr. Joy S. Pedersen, CEO and Founder of Express Success,, as my guest today. She’s a Licensed Spiritual Healer and Certified Spiritual Health Coach and Doctor of Divinity, who channels God, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Struggling

This is post 274 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

“Could” vs. “Should”

Recently I got free tickets to a show at the last minute and called a friend who I thought would enjoy it to invite her to join me.  At first she was excited but then she said she “should” stay […]

The Power of Silence

Do you feel uncomfortable  when you’re with someone and there’s silence? Many of us feel a need to fill the void that it seems like silence creates I used to be like that. When I was a DoorMat, before I […]

Doing Good vs. You

Sometimes you have to make a choice between what’s best for someone else and what’s best for you. You may want to do what you see as ”the right” thing for someone even if it goes against what you’d like. […]

Self-Love & Forgiveness

Self-Love Month is over but I’ll continue posting abot sel-love.you should still be working on nourishing yours. Carrying anger around with you hurts you, which isn’t loving. The antidote is forgiveness. Today my guest is Self-Love Ambassador Alice McCall  In […]

Do Unto Yourself as You Do for Others

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Most of us know the Golden Rule about how to treat others—Do unto […]

I Love Me” Tip: List “Why I Deserve the Best.”

Today is Day 25 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Do you think you deserve the best? It’s common to have some niggling […]

Start an Inner Revolution

Today is Day 24 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I say it often: In order to be happy, you have to work […]

Why It’s Fun to Be Perfectly Imperfect

Today is Day 20 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Perfection. So many of us are taught that we should strive for that […]

What Do You Say When You Look at Yourself in the Mirror?

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. When I met cancer survivor an Self-Love Ambassador Cathy Hamilton, I was struck […]

Why Self-Acceptance Is the Most Delicious Dish

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. When you don’t accept yourself, it’s hard to love yourself. Seeing yourself through […]

9 Ways to Jumpstart Your Life

People seem to think that New Year can automatically bring change. We make resolutions like wishes with hope that the New Year wish fairy will make it happen. But then the year progresses and you’re disappointed that nothing good has […]

Be Nice Without Being a Pushover

I’ve been a fan of Doreen Virtue’s books for a while. That’s why I’m thrilled to have an excerpt from her new book, Assertiveness for Earth Angels:  How To Be Loving Instead of “Too Nice”, ( Hay House), available at […]

Surviving Holiday Madness

Does the holiday season overwhelm you? On Monday I posted Calming Those Feeling of Being Overwhelmed. Now with the holiday season is in full swing, it can take busy to another level. So I’m happy to have Laura Vanderkam, author […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Pride

This is post 262 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

A Day for Giving Thanks

Today is Thanksgiving in the US—a day to give thanks for our blessings. Even if you don’t live here, it’s a great day to look for blessings wherever you go and say thanks for each. It may feel silly to […]

Spend a Day Focused on Positives

How often do you complain about something or get a negative thought or get annoyed at something. Those can be like poison to your soul. Most people experience this every day, without realizing it. Yet subconsciously they bring you down. […]

Start 2014 with a Commitment to YOU

Soon 2014 will be here. January can be a dreary month, depending on where you live. Yet most of us like the idea of starting the year on a positive note. That can be hard if your resolutions seem daunting […]

Do You Let People Know What They Mean to You?

As my parents got older, I made a point to let them know how much they meant to me. I rarely ended a phone call without saying, “I love you.” It meant a lot to them, and to me. When […]

Are You Putting a Dark Shadow Over Your Life?

Some people seem to thrive on worrying. It can seem as if they look for things to worry about. Are you one of those? Constant worrying is a happiness buster. It creates stress, which is detrimental to your health and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Seeing the Good in Others

This is post 258 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Watch the Attitude in Your Words

Do you want to have a positive persona and to feel positive? Listen to yourself. What attitude do you walk around with? It’s harder for people who often seem angry or who have a negative outlook to feel positive about […]

Why Pleasure Does Not Equal Happiness

Do you think that having lots experiences of pleasure will make you happy? That’s an erroneous belief that gets people into trouble. Often when I ask clients if they’re happy, and why, those who say they are tell me about […]

Appreciating Life After a Death

As we get older, it’s more likely that people we know will pass away. When my mom moved to a senior community, the downside was that people around her were older and she heard about too many people dying. It […]

“I Choose”

How many times have you said you wanted to do something but just didn’t do it. Maybe you really want to go to the gym a few times a week but never even get your sneakers out. Or you want […]

Have You Ever Watched the Sun Rise?

 Some people drink alcohol or take medication to calm down. Those may temporarily give you relief from symptoms, but when the effect wear off you can feel worse than before. That’s what contributes to people becoming alcoholics or hooked on […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Desire vs. Belief

This is post 252 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Losing Yourself in Diets

Dieting seems to be a national pastime. Even skinny people tend to explain the extra pound they must lose. Do you think that models who look beautiful and starve themselves to maintain standards set by an industry are happy? Seeing […]

Strengthening Your Spirit with Happiness After a Cancer Diagnosis

Most people know at least someone who has cancer or have had it. It can bring you down in spirit. When I met cancer survivor Cathy Hamilton, I was struck by her positive attitude about getting through a cancer diagnosis. […]

Birthday Joy

I recently overheard two women discussing the upcoming birthday of one of them. The tone was somber, commiserating, reigned, somewhat sad, somewhat fearful. In my opinion, that not how birthdays should make you feel! These women acted like a birthday […]

The Abundance of Being Open-Minded

I had a client I’ll call Sara who recently who complained about not being able to meet a good man, When I asked what she wanted in one she emphatically explained that he had to be a creative type. Being […]

Prayers for the 9/11 Victims

I got up and as usual went to the kitchen to get some water. I flipped on the radio to get a weather forecast and someone was shouting that he just saw a plane go into the World Trade Center.  […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “I Don’t Need Anything”

This is post 250 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Spiritual vs. People Pleaser

Were you brought up with strong religious/ or spiritual values or developed some in more recent years. If you believe that it’s spiritual to try to be kind to everyone you can get baffled about how to handle feeling used […]

Rev Up—It’s September!

Happy September! I love this month and always call it the month of new beginnings. I guess I love it partly because it’s the month I was born in, so I begin a new year of my life. I remember […]

Don’t Be a Life Tourist!

I’m an avid traveler, both in the U.S. and overseas. But, I hate being a tourist. When I travel, I like to just exist in the place. That doesn’t mean I don’t go see the sights. I do. But I […]

When Faith Doesn’t Seem to Work

I have strong faith and always encourage building it to get what you need in life. Yet there are times when things just don’t work out. When your prayers aren’t answered and you feel they should be you can lose […]

“Am I an Idiot for Making a Mistake?”

We use many negative phrases when we make a mistake. Do you relate to using any of these? •    “That was so stupid of me.” •    “I’m a moron/idiot.” •    “What’s wrong with me that I couldn’t get it right?” […]

Living with Regrets

Do memories of things you did or didn’t do lead to self-recrimination? Do you wish you’d done things differently? All those things that you did or didn’t do in the PAST can haunt you today. I emphasized PAST because they […]

Give Yourself a Confidence Boost

Confidence is a big issue for many of us, especially if we’re DoorMats. That’s why I’m happy to have Robyn Hatcher, founder of SpeakEtc.,  a presentation and communication skills training company which provides group and  one-on-one coaching to individuals, corporations […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Preparing for Emergencies

This is post 245 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Taming Your Inner Nasty

If you read my columns regularly, you know I encourage building self-love. Yet so many people who think they’re being loving to themselves still allow their inner critic to come out regularly. I still remember the days—painfully—when I found more […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Logic

This is post 243 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

I Do, Therefore I Am

Many times over the years I’ve heard, “You are what you eat.” It’s used in commercials for healthy eating and to discourage people from overeating fattening foods. And I often use Decartes quote, “I think, therefore I am” to encourage […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Looking for Open Doors

This is post 242 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Is the Grass Really Greener Where You’re Not?

Do you look at people with envy? Do you think that others have it better than you? I feel like I hear people say all the time that they’re sure other people have better lives, better relationships, better jobs, etc. […]

Sustainable Giving with Bobby Sager

I’m a big believer in giving back in ways that help people. So many people in the world need help. That’s why I was thrilled to have a conversation with Bobby Sager, a businessman who made a fortune by seeing […]

Why You Shouldn’t Be Discouraged

I encourage people to go after their dreams. The benefits can be life-altering. Yet taking risks can feel scary. Often we think of all the bad things that can happen if you go after what you want. If you get […]

Reprogram Your Brain for More Success

I’m thrilled to have Christine Comaford as my guest today. She’s a global thought leader who helps mid-sized and Fortune 1000 companies navigate growth and change, an expert in human behavior and applied neuroscience, and the bestselling author of Rules for […]

Replace Regret with Finding Blessings

Most of us have some regrets. Maybe you did something that you wish you didn’t do. Or you spent years involved with the wrong person. Or you didn’t go after a job you wish you had. And a million other […]

Are All People Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise?

I wrote the book, All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise, in 1998. Now it’s out in its 15th Anniversary edition because so many women found it helpful. Not surprisingly, I got questioned often over the last 15 years about […]

17 Ways to Empower Yourself

No one is born feeling self-empowered. Confidence is learned. EVERYONE has fears and insecurities. But, some create a confident façade. Attractive people at the top of their game share fears and self-loathing at my workshops or during counseling. Nobody feels […]

How Motivation Can Get You Far

Often we don’t realize how much we’re capable of doing. When I suggest to someone that they should make the effort to do what they want, I often hear, “I can’t.” Sometimes you need someone to motivate you to push […]

Is it time to Reinvent Yourself?

I recently attended SPARK, the National Association Of Professional Women’s Networking conference  There were fabulous speakers, including, Arianna Huffington, Martha Stewart and Star Jones. But one who really stood out to me was Danielle Miller, brand strategist/reinvention coach. After hearing […]

Who Is Your Body Image Role Model?

When I interviewed a woman who had been a model she said that the worst feeling was being a model, thinking she had a good body and then having her photos airbrushed to make her look slimmer and more perfect. […]

Staying Positive When Life Gets Negative

I always advocate keeping a positive attitude. It keeps you in a much better mood, and creates the alignment needed to manifest what you want. It feels more loving than wallowing in negative emotions. The Law of Attractions responds well […]

Keep Self-Love Going Through 2013

Today is Day 31 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today is the last day of Self-Love Month but it’s also the first […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Finding Fault with Others

Today is Day 29 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 221 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

The Illusion of Perfection

Today is Day 25 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Many of us strive to be perfect because we compare yourselves to others. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Creating a Personal Mantra to Empower You

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 219 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

Why You Should Love Being Imperfect

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It can be exhausting to be on a mission to be perfect and […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros 2013

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show […]

Carry the Peace of the Season

There’s been an energy of peace in the air for all who allow it in, even if you’re not religious. People are in good spirits, and seem to be kinder to others. My neighborhood dresses up beautifully for the holiday […]

Why Guilt Can Be the Best Revenge

Revenge is usually considered a negative quality. Getting even often hurts you because what goes around, comes back to you. Plus, it keeps you immersed in the negative energy of what the person did. Depending on the circumstances, the best […]

A Holiday Prayer for the People of Newtown, CT

Whether you celebrate Christmas, or Hanukkah or Kwanza, or another holiday or no holiday at this time of year, I wish you a Happy Holiday Season! I celebrate the spirit I feel more than anything else and am happy to […]

Start the New Year with Room for New Blessings

I write about this every year because I believe it’s so important. One of the best things you can do this week is clean your living space and whatever else you can. I learned the benefits years ago when I […]

Turn Confrontation into Communication

When you get angry enough, it’s common to consider having a confrontation with the person who annoys you. It’s natural to want to tell the other person off, or emotionally blurt out how they made you feel. Don’t! Often when […]

How My Self-Love Began at a Mary Kay Cosmetics Party

Often we need a catalyst to wake up to feeling at least a teeny bit worthy of loving ourselves. When I was a DoorMat, my first shred of self-worth began when my neighbor had a Mary Kay cosmetics party. I […]

The Only Thing That Matters

I’m thrilled to have Neale Donald Walsch, the author of 27 books on practical spirituality, as my guest today. Years ago, when I was still developing a relationship with God and building my spiritual core, someone gave me his Conversations […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Loneliness During the Holidays

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Commit to Yourself for 2013

The New Year is coming. It’s a time to rethink your life and how you want to change yours. It’s also a time that you tend to look for what you can do differently in the next year. You might […]

Being Nice vs. Being a Victim

People who consider themselves nice moan, “Why do people use me?” And groan, “Why me?” And whine, “I’ll never get what I want because_____.”  Fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” But this isn’t […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hesitation

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The 10 Commitments of Self-Love

With Self-Love Month (January) is approaching, I wanted to go into more details about The 10 Commitments of Self-Love that are posted on The Self-Love Movement™ site. These are principles you should begin to develop in yourself that will help […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Detailing Your Feelings

This is post 214in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to […]

Join The Self-Love Movement™!

I’d appreciate your doing something for me. Please read this and pass it to as many people as you can. The message below can make a meaningful difference in the world. I’m thrilled and excited to announce that my self-love […]

Looking Inside to Beat Fear & Anxiety

I’m delighted top have Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of Cellular Wisdom, back as my guest today. He works with people to help them improve their health using both inner tools and his medical background.  I’m also thrilled to […]

Stop Playing Defense with People

When I began to say “no” to people or changed my habits in my DoorMat days, I found myself having defend what I did. People were used to me one way—always agreeable—and some didn’t like the new more empowered Daylle. […]

Hope After Hurricane Sandy

I’m still reeling from hurricane Sandy. I live in NYC and could have never imagined something so catastrophic hitting my city and the areas around me. But it did! We don’t get hurricanes often in the NY area. And when […]

Understanding the Soul of Wellness

I’m delighted to have Rajiv Parti. M.D. (aka Dr. Raj), a world leading specialist in pain management with over 30 years practicing clinical experience. He was the Chief of Anesthesiology at Bakersfield Heart Hospital where he specialized in cardiac anesthesia. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hate

This is post 209 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Making Success Your Own

Most people want to be successful. I sure do! That’s why I’m delight to have Patrick Daniel as my guest today. He became independently wealthy by the young age of 30 and today is a successful chartered accountant and owner […]

Find the Fun in Your Work

Lately I’ve been hearing people talk about how they’re counting the days, or years, till they have enough time in at their jobs so they can quit and still get their pension. You can feel how much they hate going […]

Freeing Yourself

I’m always happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. as my guest. Her articles bring a great response as she has such a good take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “It Doesn’t Matter How Bad It Looks!”

This is post 206 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. I hear […]

Faith: Your Spiritual Tranquilizer

I used to walk around holding a lot of negative emotions in when I had no faith. It made me complain a lot and triggered more negative emotions that kept me in an unhappy place. When something went wrong I’d […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 2

Yesterday I had a post called Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 1. Today is part 2 of the interview with JD Messinger, a man who has had a remarkable journey into understanding life, and himself. He went deep inside […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger, Part 1

While I’ve met all kinds of people who adhere to a spiritual mindset, I’d never have expected someone who was appointed to the U.S. Naval Academy by the U.S. Secretary of the Navy and was one of 37 Distinguished Graduates, […]

Completely Accepting Life

I’m delighted to have John Tsilimparis, MFT, an authority on the dynamics of anxiety, as my guest today. His expertise was featured regularly on the TV documentary series Obsessed on the A&E Television Network and was on Collection Intervention on […]

It’s My Birthday!

Today is my birthday. I turn another year older. And, I’m happy about it! Getting older no longer scares me like it did when I was younger. I’m content with who I am. And I love me VERY much. Every […]

Getting Older vs. Getting Old

My birthday is this week and I’m excited. Yet I know many people, especially women, who dread each birthday like it’s a curse. I always find that a shame, especially since I’m older than many of them. But I become […]

Is God Real?

Many people still ask, “Is God Real?” I personally know that the answer is a resounding YES! But others want evidence, scientific proof that God is real. I’m happy to have Sanjay C. Patel, author of God Is Real – […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Being Right vs. Being Aligned

This is post 203 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Yes I Can!

Have you ever been asked if you can do something that you’d love to do, but, you don’t feel ready or aren’t sure how you’d accomplish it? Or it’s the last minute and you don’t feel you have enough time […]

Law of Attraction in Action: New Beginnings

This is post 202 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The Language of Energy

I’m happy to have author and energetics expert, Elaine Seiler, as my guest today. Elaine is at the forefront of explaining humanity’s “energetic evolution” and how we can cope and thrive in the face of rapid change. In 1992, after […]

As It Turns Out

Whenever someone is telling me about my health, or the results of a repair, or if I’m eligible for something, etc., they often have a tendency to begin with “Unfortunately.” When I hear that I know something bad is coming. […]

What Do You Want to Be When You REALLY Grow Up?

The title of this article might seem confusing since you may assume that since you’re an adult you’re already grown up. But age doesn’t necessarily make you a grown up. For me, grown up means grown into yourself, who you […]

The Boy Who Helped Save Batman Wasn’t Robin?

The Dark Knight Rises’ Exec Producer Offers Tips to Help Kids Realize Their Dream I’m delighted to have advice today from Michael Uslan, the Originator and Executive Producer of the “The Dark Knight Rises,” the third and newest in the […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “I Don’t Know If I Can Do It”

I’m thrilled and proud to announce that this is post number 200 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. I never thought this series would go so far! It’s a joy to show how you CAN use […]

Productive Envy

Envy is considered a negative quality. It can be accompanied by thoughts of wishing someone would fall down or make you not like the person, even if it’s a friend or family member. It can also trigger negative “compliments” such […]

The Healing Power of Forgiving

There’s a lot said about forgiving others when they do something you don’t like, or that hurts you or that’s downright wrong. Yet it’s still so hard for people to forgive someone who did them wrong. What’s hard to understand […]

Owning Your Greatness

I’m delighted to have Brad Yates as my guest today. I’ve posted several of his Tapping (EFT—Emotional Freedom Technique) videos that he has on YouTube. While we’ve never met, I feel like he’s my friend as I watch his videos […]

Lessons from the US Olympics Gymnastics Team

I love the Olympics and try to watch at least some of it every day. I confess that gymnastics is my favorite event and am proud of the US women’s team for winning the gold medal. Watching the team finals, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Give Yourself 68 Seconds

This is post 197 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Bring Good Sportsmanship into Your Life

Athletes are competitive. That’s what most thrive on. They play because they want to win. Most of us want to win the game of life. Many people turn into cutthroats to give themselves an advantage when they’re anxious to reach […]

The Struggle to Meditate

In last my post for my Law of Attraction in Action Series, Meditation, I recommended trying to meditate in order to clear your mind for positive manifesting. While I recommended it, I admitted that I’m not good at meditating. It’s […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Meditation

This is post 196 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Fear of Going Out After the Movie Shooting

I’m still reeling from the horrific shooting in the movie theater and still cry when I think about it. It’s scary to know how one person can ruin so many lives. Even more disturbing is why a seemingly normal person […]

“Do You Have Minute?”

I just got a call from someone at a charity I’ve donated to in the past. I was working. Busy. Not happy to be interrupted. Grrr…. She asked, “Do you have a minute.” I wanted to get sarcastic and say […]

Learn from Lady Gaga

I’m thrilled to have Margaret M. Lynch as my guest today. And I’m delighted to announce that I’m writing my next book with her, called Why Don’t I Have More Money? It will be published next year by Tarcher/Penguin Books. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Changing Your Vibration

This is post 195 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Thoughts on Ralph Waldo Emerson

I’m a big fan of Ralph Waldo Emerson. That’s why I’m happy to share an article today by Daniel Berkowitz about him. In addition to freelancing for websites and magazines, Daniel is a student at Columbia University’s Graduate School of […]

What Really Matters to You?

What makes you happy? Many people say lots of money or expensive things. Kids tend to reach for the biggest one of something, thinking bigger is better. Many of us still do that. We think more expensive or fancier is […]

Let Optimism Change Your World

The economy has been bad for a while. People and businesses are struggling. Yet there are many people and businesses that are rising above that with a mentality of optimism. I’m one of them. You can be too Jon Gordon, […]

Happy Independence Day!

Today is Independence Day in the US. Our country got it’s freedom and we celebrate that. Make this also a day for your own freedom–from what others want from you, from old beliefs, from limitations and all the other things […]

Connect to Your World

Many of us live with blinders on, walking down the street without actually noticing who’s there. It seems like life moves much faster these days, with more effort put into making ends meet and keeping up with technology. Texting, social […]

Showing Reverence For Your Body

I’m delighted to have Laura M. Turner, M.Sc., CNHP back as my guest today. She’s an author, journalist and wellness mentor specializing in natural anti-aging practices and nutritional medicine. Below Laura provides insight about accepting all aspects of your body […]

Stop Expecting the Worst

We all do it at least sometimes—going to a negative place while waiting for something you want to happen if you don’t get good news immediately. You may be waiting for a call from a friend who you just reconnected […]

Rewriting Trauma

Many of us have trauma in our history. It can be hard to overcome if whatever caused it went on for a long time. But it can be dealt with, and healed if your recognize it and choose to move […]

Let your Passions Take Gymnastics

How rigid are you? I have a friend who has what I call a cookie cutter life. Karen was raised to be a traditional sort of woman and became teacher because she was told it’s a good profession for women. […]

Learning About The Intuition Principle

I’m delighted to be a stop on my friend Angela Artemis’ virtual book tour today. Angela is an intuition coach  on a mission to teach readers around the world to “speak intuition” so that they can unlock all the brilliant […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Karma

This is post 189 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Lost & Found

This is post 188 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The Benefits of Being Happy

People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they’re often fleeting. Often we’re so busy trying find happiness we don’t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn’t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells […]

Controlling Negative Emotions

Often situations that trigger anger, disappointment, frustration, sadness, etc., make us stew. People pleasers tend to do it in silence, mulling it over and over as the feelings get more intense, or go the other way and complain to any […]

Have You Kept Your Resolutions?

It’s over four months since resolutions were made on New Years Eve. Have you kept yours? Most people haven’t. Do you think it’s too late to make good on them? Amnon Goldstein, M.D. says “no.” He’s a physician with more […]

10 Erroneous Beliefs About Being a Nice Person

A desire to be nice drives many of us to be people pleasers. It can be hard to know where true nice ends and being a DoorMat begins. Many people have great misconceptions of what nice behavior is or they […]

What’s Your Excuse?

Is there something you really want to do but…? Or something you know you should do but…? We make excuses that stop us. Maybe it’s not the right time or you think you’re not good enough or you don’t believe […]

Do You Have the Courage to Hope?

I’m happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. back as my guest. Her articles always bring a great response as she has such a great take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California […]

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Want vs. What Is

This is post 186 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Getting Past Negative Experiences

We all have setbacks and disappointments and even traumatic experiences—your promotion at work may be stalled or your job is eliminated, your relationship ends, someone close to you passes away, you have an accident, your child gets into trouble, etc. […]

Celebrate Other People

I often encourage you to celebrate yourself and all you do. But it’s also nice to celebrate the people in your life that you care about. Most people are insecure in some way, no matter how confident they come across. […]

Why Bliss Should Be Your Goal

I’m blissful to have Sean Meshorer as my guest today. Sean is an inspirational twenty-first century speaker, teacher, and spiritual coach based in Los Angeles. He graduated from Stanford in 1993 with a degree in Philosophy and Religious Studies and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Accepting the Bad with the Good

This is post 185 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

My Idol: The Dalai Lama

If someone asks me if I have a choice to meet anyone, my answer is always the same—his holiness, the Dalai Lama. His goodness leaves me in awe. His bubbly personality with a happy laugh is contagious. And he taught […]

What Brings You Down?

Stuff happens. Life can be going well and then boof! A glitch appears. It could be something simple like getting a run in your stocking at work or hearing a weird noise from your car. It’s common to go to […]

Don’t Give Up Your Power for Anger

I was in a good mood when my friend called to tell me she couldn’t make it to a concert we were supposed to attend that night. Her excuse wasn’t good in my book—a guy she liked asked her to […]

Strategies for Negotiating with More Confidence

With all the strides made, it’s still be proven that many women aren’t paid on par with the salaries of men—for doing the same job! Since a majority of women have at least a little bit of people pleaser in […]

May the Best Person Do It

People often have a hard time receiving help for several possible reasons. When I was a DoorMat I only wanted to help others. Receiving was tough, as it is for most people pleasers. I’d rather plod through something in a […]

Stop Living in the Future

Many people  live in the future—postponing the enjoyment of life until something you’d like happens. It gives your daydreams control over happiness right now. We think about how nice it will be when we meet the romantic partner of our […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Economy Limits

This is post 182 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Minimizing Actions of Unimportant People

Have you ever had a waiter who was impossible to deal with, but you had to? Maybe he got your order wrong and had a snotty attitude. Someone like that can trigger you to leave the restaurant in a bad […]

You Can’t Do What?

I hear “I can’t…” way too often. You may see something you want to do or someone wants you to do and it looks hard or intimidating or your confidence isn’t high enough to tackle it so you write it […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Start Your Day with Positive Intentions

This is post 181 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

What’s Going On For You Right Now?

Many of us dwell in the past, letting old memories affect our present life. Or we look to the future with expectations that can be positive or negative. Doing so is usually reflected in to your level of happiness. If […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Being in the Vortex

This is post 180 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Stop Living on the Defensive

Do you fight urges to snack or overeat? Do you get crazy when things go wrong that you weren’t expecting? Then you’re on the defensive, trying to fight urges or shore up problems. I’ve found that the best way to […]

Staying Grounded in Your Awesomeness

I’m happy to have Beauty Activist and Celebrity Red Carpet Makeup Artist Kenetia Lee as my guest today She is a leading authority on beauty empowerment. Her goal is to inspire women everywhere to express themselves authentically without fear. Are […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Negative Entertainment

This is post 179 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

How Your Intuition Grows as You Do

I’m delighted to have Angela Artemis, freelance journalist, blogger, clairvoyant medium and intuitive consultant back as my guest today. She’s also a financial salesperson experienced in financial planning, private banking and real estate finance. Her ability to navigate a demanding finance career while developing spiritually and psychically have […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Physical Ailments

This is post 178 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Yoga Lessons for Everyday Life

I’m delighted to have Diana Fletcher, a Certified Life coach, speaker and stress reducing expert as my guest today. Diana is the author of several books, including Happy on Purpose Daily Messages of Empowerment and publishes a bi-monthly ezine entitled […]

How Do I Love Me? More Suggestions from Pros 2012

Today is Day 23 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I recently asked some experts how they show themselves love and included some in a post, to give […]

Healing with Self-Love

  Today is Day 22 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m delighted to have Alice McCall as my guest today. Alice is a Cellular Level Healing Consultant, […]

Try Some Self-Compassion

Today is Day 19 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I’m happy to have Jean Fain, L.I.C.S.W., M.S.W., a Harvard Medical School-affiliated psychotherapist specializing in eating issues, and […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show themselves love, to give you […]

The Joy of Being Imperfect

Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Many of us were brought up with very high standards. Your parents might have pushed you to get […]

Reach Higher

What are your goals? Are they big or just a little? I see many people with great potential who don’t live up to it because they get in their own way by not recognizing and accepting that they could have […]

Blessings for the Holiday and Beyond

Whether you celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or don’t have a specific religion, it’s lovely to enjoy the spirit of this holiday season. People seem friendlier. I love walking through the streets of Manhattan and always express amazement about how […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Throwing Stuff Out

This is post 167 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Why Life Can Be Like Fruitcake

Life doesn’t always go smoothly, despite your best efforts. While I often recommend that you try to set boundaries on things you don’t want to do, there are times when doing something unpleasant is the right things to do, even […]

Why I Don’t Like E-Cards

I used to send out lots of cards over the holiday season. Yes, it costs a bit for postage and also takes time to address each card and write a message. But it was also nice to send people good […]

Becoming More Innovative

I’m delighted to have innovation expert Jeff DeGraff as my guest today. Jeff is an innovation professor at the Ross School of Business, the founder of Innovatrium Institute of Innovation, and co-creator of Competing Values Framework. In his new book, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Who Is Right?

This is post 165 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Changing a Negative Vibration

This is post 163 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Healthy Arguments

I hear people brag that they never fight with loved ones. There seems to be a special pride about never fighting with a romantic partner. Unfortunately, that’s nothing to be proud of. Just because you keep things on an even […]

Give Yourself Permission to Be Down—Sometimes

I’ve always been an upbeat person and known for my smile. As a child, people liked me more because of it so even when I had nothing to smile about, my mouth automatically curved up. Even when I grew up […]

Finding Your Purpose with Dr. Mark Chironna

I’m delighted to have Dr. Mark Chironna, certified life coach, author, and spiritual director as my guest today. Dr. Chironna’s authentic and compassionate approach to purposeful, destiny-infused living has transformed lives everywhere through one-on-one mentoring, speaking engagements, print and electronic […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Louise Hay and Manifesting

This is post 162 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Other People’s Anger

I’ve talked a lot about calming your anger, but what about fielding the wrath of others? Today I heard from someone asking me about a situation that is sadly all too common—the wrath of someone else that seems irrational, which […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 2

Yesterday I had Part 1 of my interview with the amazing Richard Simmons where he told how he went from a very overweight kid to being at the top of his game and leading so many people down a healthy […]

Richard Simmons & the Power of Self-Love—Part 1

Recently I saw Richard Simmons on several TV talk shows. I’ve always thought of him as a fun guy with lots of hair in little shorts and HUGE enthusiasm about leading and encouraging people to exercise and live a healthy […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Children

This is post 159 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

Stop Lamenting Problems!

Everyone has problems. Everyone! You may think it’s just you but we all have stuff go wrong or in ways we don’t like. I do. Recently I had to move my websites to a different server and it messed on […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Aligning with Your Desires

This is post 158 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in […]

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Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank ...

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks ...

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Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to ...

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when ...

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