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Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

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Daylle Deanna Schwartz is a speaker, self-empowerment counselor, best-selling author of 15 books, including Nice Girls Can Finish First (McGraw-Hill), All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise and founder of The Self-Love Movement™ where she's giving away her 13th book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways, a She's appeared on hundreds of TV and radio shows, including Oprah, Howard Stern, and Good Morning America and has been quoted in dozens of publications, including the New York Times, Chicago Sun-Times, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Marie Claire, and Men¹s Health.

After being a consummate People Pleaser who felt unworthy of getting her own needs met for many years, Daylle found a path of self-love that enabled her to build her self-esteem and reinvent herself into a dual career. She learned to get taken seriously without being overtly assertive when she became one of the first women to start an independent record label (on a dare!) and learned to play ball nicely and successfully in an industry dominated by men. To help independent musicians empower themselves, Daylle writes music business books for Billboard/Random House, including the very popular Start & Run Your Own Record Labe and I Don't Need a Record Deal!

Daylle's books have been translated into over 10 languages and are popular around the world. She speaks for colleges, organizations and corporations. Through her company, Project Self-Empowerment, Daylle creates programs and materials to help people empower themselves. One goal is to raise the money to self-publish her book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways and give it away for free in colleges and through organizations, to give thanks for all her blessings. Daylle uses her writing and speaking to help others find the kind of contentment and empowerment that she has.

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Today is Day 16 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I admit, I don’t own a Smart phone or any of the tech […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Creating a Personal Mantra to Empower You

Today is Day 15 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 219 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

Why You Should Love Being Imperfect

Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. It can be exhausting to be on a mission to be perfect and […]

Why Self-Love Rules!

Today is Day 13 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m happy to have self-love ambassador Dina L Wilcox as my guest today. […]

“I Love Me!” Tip: Call a Friend Who Makes You Feel Good

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Some people can increase our angst. Others can soothe it. In this world […]

Putting Yourself into Your Schedule

Today is Day 12 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m happy to have self-love ambassador Caren Schmidt, a Holistic Health Coach, New […]

Give Yourself Permission to Do What’s Best for YOU

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Often habits keep you stuck with behavior and responses that you don’t find […]

Self-Love in Action

Today is Day 10 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Today I have a special guest. Self-love ambassador Brenda Lidwell wrote to me […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Take Good Care of Your Heart

Today is Day 9 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I just read an article about how more younger adults than ever are […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Taking Life for Granted

Today is Day 8 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. This is post 218 in my series on the Law of Attraction in […]

“I Can’t Do It”

Today is Day 7 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. A great way to show yourself love is to get comfortable saying those […]

What If the World is Better Because of YOU?

Today is Day 6 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. Since it’s Self-Love Month, it’s very fitting to have Self-Love ambassador, my fabulicious […]

“I Love Me” Tip: Compliment Yourself

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. How often do you look in the mirror and give yourself a compliment […]

Building Self-Appreciation

Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I’m delighted top have self-love ambassador Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of […]

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Love

Today is Day 4 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. People often think that self-love and self-esteem are one and the same. But […]

How Do I Love Me? Suggestions from Pros 2013

Today is Day 3 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I thought it would be helpful to ask some experts how they show […]

Self-Acceptance: The Freedom to Be YOU

        Today is Day 2 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™. I remember the days when I couldn’t accept me […]

Happy 2013 Filled with Self-Love

  Happy New Year! I hope that you entered 2013 smiling and feeling love. I’m excited that today is day 1 of Self-Love Month. What better way to start a new year than to find ways to say, “I love […]

Carry the Peace of the Season

There’s been an energy of peace in the air for all who allow it in, even if you’re not religious. People are in good spirits, and seem to be kinder to others. My neighborhood dresses up beautifully for the holiday […]

Why Guilt Can Be the Best Revenge

Revenge is usually considered a negative quality. Getting even often hurts you because what goes around, comes back to you. Plus, it keeps you immersed in the negative energy of what the person did. Depending on the circumstances, the best […]

How Kind and Loving Are You To You?

Often we don’t pay attention to how we treat ourselves. Yet doing so can help you see where you need work in building self-love. With Self-Love Month almost here, I’m happy to have Jean Fain, L.I.C.S.W., M.S.W., a Harvard Medical School-affiliated […]

A Holiday Prayer for the People of Newtown, CT

Whether you celebrate Christmas, or Hanukkah or Kwanza, or another holiday or no holiday at this time of year, I wish you a Happy Holiday Season! I celebrate the spirit I feel more than anything else and am happy to […]

Start the New Year with Room for New Blessings

I write about this every year because I believe it’s so important. One of the best things you can do this week is clean your living space and whatever else you can. I learned the benefits years ago when I […]

Turn Confrontation into Communication

When you get angry enough, it’s common to consider having a confrontation with the person who annoys you. It’s natural to want to tell the other person off, or emotionally blurt out how they made you feel. Don’t! Often when […]

Principles for Success

The New Year is coming. Are you hoping to be more successful in 2013? I sure do! That’s why I’m delighted to have Matthew B. James, MA, Ph.D.back as my guest today. Dr. Matt is President of The Empowerment Partnership, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: New Years Eve

This is post 217 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Could You Survive with One Leg?

What holds you back from accomplishing what you want? It’s too hard? You don’t have the right contacts to help you? How would you feel about following your dreams if you had a real handicap, like having only one leg? […]

How My Self-Love Began at a Mary Kay Cosmetics Party

Often we need a catalyst to wake up to feeling at least a teeny bit worthy of loving ourselves. When I was a DoorMat, my first shred of self-worth began when my neighbor had a Mary Kay cosmetics party. I […]

The Only Thing That Matters

I’m thrilled to have Neale Donald Walsch, the author of 27 books on practical spirituality, as my guest today. Years ago, when I was still developing a relationship with God and building my spiritual core, someone gave me his Conversations […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Loneliness During the Holidays

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Commit to Yourself for 2013

The New Year is coming. It’s a time to rethink your life and how you want to change yours. It’s also a time that you tend to look for what you can do differently in the next year. You might […]

Being Nice vs. Being a Victim

People who consider themselves nice moan, “Why do people use me?” And groan, “Why me?” And whine, “I’ll never get what I want because_____.”  Fill in that blank with, “because I allow myself to be a victim.” But this isn’t […]

Can You Master Your Life?

I’m delighted to have award-winning author and Harvard-trained adaptive leadership consultant Kathy Andersen as my guest today. She teaches people to master change in their lives, businesses and organizations. Kathy’s new book, Change Your Shoes, Live Your Greatest Life, shows […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hesitation

This is post 216 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

The 10 Commitments of Self-Love

With Self-Love Month (January) is approaching, I wanted to go into more details about The 10 Commitments of Self-Love that are posted on The Self-Love Movement™ site. These are principles you should begin to develop in yourself that will help […]

Question: How Do I Handle My Boss’s Jealousy?

Jenna wrote: My boss recently got burned by her boyfriend and is very bitter toward men. I’m married to a wonderful guy and she knows it. She constantly snipes at me with comments that include a reference to my “perfect […]

Why It’s Good to Be Self-Conscious

Your perception of what you see can affect your attitude and happiness. That’s why I’m happy to have Carl Studna, a world renowned photographer, inspirational speaker and author as my guest today. He’s the author of, CLICK! Choosing Love…One Frame […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Detailing Your Feelings

This is post 214in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to […]

Join The Self-Love Movement™!

I’d appreciate your doing something for me. Please read this and pass it to as many people as you can. The message below can make a meaningful difference in the world. I’m thrilled and excited to announce that my self-love […]

Guidance vs. Trying to Control

Many people like to consider themselves helpful, and that can be a good thing. It feels good to help others when you can. But sometimes people mistake trying to control what someone else does as guidance, which it’s not. It’s […]

Happy Thanksgiving!

If you live in the U.S., you know that today is Thanksgiving, a day to give thanks for your blessings. Truthfully, I think we should do that every day, and I try to do that. This is a day when […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Detailing Your Desires

This is post 213 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

One–way Takers

Some folks have a distorted sense of entitlement. They might expect help to get a job in your company or your field and push you for contacts. Or they might feel entitled to get free services from your professional skills. […]

Are You Considered a Pollyanna?

Since I’ve been posting about happiness all week, I thought this topic was appropriate to end the week—seeing the world through the eyes of the kind of optimism that being happy can give you. Sometimes when I try to be […]

Why the American Happiness Formula Is Making our Kids Depressed

I’ve been talking about happiness all week. It’s important to understand how our adult concept of happiness affects our kid. That’s why I’m happy to have Jonathan Hewitt, author of Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Happiness

This is post 212 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Stoke Your Happiness Mojo!

While it’s not officially happiness week, I’m calling it that and my posts this week will all relate to happiness. Why? BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY!! I endured many years of unhappiness when I was a DoorMat. Even […]

Denial to Your Reality

Years ago I wrote a song called Denial after a discussion with a friend about a guy I’d been seeing who lived with blinders on. He ignored obvious things he did that caused him trouble and acted like everything was […]

Looking Inside to Beat Fear & Anxiety

I’m delighted top have Friedemann Schaub MD., Ph.D., the founder of Cellular Wisdom, back as my guest today. He works with people to help them improve their health using both inner tools and his medical background.  I’m also thrilled to […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Feeling Like a Phony

This is post 211 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Stop Playing Defense with People

When I began to say “no” to people or changed my habits in my DoorMat days, I found myself having defend what I did. People were used to me one way—always agreeable—and some didn’t like the new more empowered Daylle. […]

Hope After Hurricane Sandy

I’m still reeling from hurricane Sandy. I live in NYC and could have never imagined something so catastrophic hitting my city and the areas around me. But it did! We don’t get hurricanes often in the NY area. And when […]

Ending Violence Against Women

Today I’ll be talking about something very serious and also very important. I ask that you read this and pass it on!. Close to 15 years ago I attended the first big V-Day event at Madison Square Garden. V-Day falls on […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Resistance to Obstacles

This is post 210 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Find Your Own Voice

I encounter many people in a relationship who when asked, “What do you think about…?” use “we” instead of “I” in their answer. “We like this politician.” “We agree that taxes should be raised.” Often the “we” opinion belongs to […]

“Is That the Best You Can Do?”

I regularly find myself negotiating a money issue. As a freelancer, I negotiate what I’ll be paid to write an article or book. People have said they never have anything to negotiate, since they have a job with a fixed […]

Understanding the Soul of Wellness

I’m delighted to have Rajiv Parti. M.D. (aka Dr. Raj), a world leading specialist in pain management with over 30 years practicing clinical experience. He was the Chief of Anesthesiology at Bakersfield Heart Hospital where he specialized in cardiac anesthesia. […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hate

This is post 209 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Question: How Can I Stop My Manager’s Nastiness?

A reader I’ll call Rose wrote that her office manager, Ms. Nasty, doesn’t treat her with respect and sometimes gets downright nasty, making sarcastic personal comments about her appearance, calling her nicknames that are disrespectful and withholding info that she […]

Fixing Other People

Years ago I was teaching a workshop on building self-esteem and a woman kept interrupting me to ask about how to help her husband build his. I explained that since that’s an inside job, he’d have to do it himself. […]

Making Success Your Own

Most people want to be successful. I sure do! That’s why I’m delight to have Patrick Daniel as my guest today. He became independently wealthy by the young age of 30 and today is a successful chartered accountant and owner […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Hard Work

This is post 208 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Become More Bouncy

There have been several recent studies showing that people who develop resilience live longer and healthier lives. But what does resilience mean? I see it as the ability to bounce back from adversity. This doesn’t mean ignoring bad things that […]

Find the Fun in Your Work

Lately I’ve been hearing people talk about how they’re counting the days, or years, till they have enough time in at their jobs so they can quit and still get their pension. You can feel how much they hate going […]

Freeing Yourself

I’m always happy to have Tina Tessina, Ph.D. as my guest. Her articles bring a great response as she has such a good take on life’s ups and downs. Tina is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in California and […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Lucky Charms

This is post 207 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Making a Commitment to Grow

When I was a DoorMat, I went in circles around what I wanted to do. Of course I wanted to leave DoorMatville, and vowed often to do it, but I stayed for years after. Every time someone pushed me too […]

Take Down Your Barriers

I often hear from people who come to me for counseling, and also from people in my travels, who are frustrated at not being able to do something they want. They usually have what they consider good reasons for why […]

Why Opportunity Never Knocks On Your Door

You feel like you do everything right but never seem to get ahead and it’s frustrating! That’s why I’m delighted to have Vickie Milazzo, RN, MSN, JD, author of the New York Times bestseller, Wicked Success (Wiley), and founder of […]

Law of Attraction in Action: “It Doesn’t Matter How Bad It Looks!”

This is post 206 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. I hear […]

Faith: Your Spiritual Tranquilizer

I used to walk around holding a lot of negative emotions in when I had no faith. It made me complain a lot and triggered more negative emotions that kept me in an unhappy place. When something went wrong I’d […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 2

Yesterday I had a post called Life Lessons from JD Messinger Part 1. Today is part 2 of the interview with JD Messinger, a man who has had a remarkable journey into understanding life, and himself. He went deep inside […]

Life Lessons from JD Messinger, Part 1

While I’ve met all kinds of people who adhere to a spiritual mindset, I’d never have expected someone who was appointed to the U.S. Naval Academy by the U.S. Secretary of the Navy and was one of 37 Distinguished Graduates, […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Habits

This is post 205 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Empower Yourself with Don’t or Won’t

There are many things we know aren’t good for us but it’s hard to resist. From food to romantic partners, to your job, we often have to use strength to hold fast to a healthier choice or one that in […]

What You Think You Can Achieve vs. What’s Possible

We’re all affected to some degree by things said about us in the past. My kindergarten teacher made fun of my artwork and told me I’d never be able to do art. It stayed with me well into adulthood as […]

Completely Accepting Life

I’m delighted to have John Tsilimparis, MFT, an authority on the dynamics of anxiety, as my guest today. His expertise was featured regularly on the TV documentary series Obsessed on the A&E Television Network and was on Collection Intervention on […]

It’s My Birthday!

Today is my birthday. I turn another year older. And, I’m happy about it! Getting older no longer scares me like it did when I was younger. I’m content with who I am. And I love me VERY much. Every […]

Law of Attraction in Action: Acting Your Age

This is post 204 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series […]

Getting Older vs. Getting Old

My birthday is this week and I’m excited. Yet I know many people, especially women, who dread each birthday like it’s a curse. I always find that a shame, especially since I’m older than many of them. But I become […]

QUESTION: How Do I Stop Unwanted Advice?

Leila asked: “My cousin is always giving me advice that I disagree with, which feels more like telling me what I should do. It feels condescending in that she says it, like I’m doing something wrong and she needs to […]

Is God Real?

Many people still ask, “Is God Real?” I personally know that the answer is a resounding YES! But others want evidence, scientific proof that God is real. I’m happy to have Sanjay C. Patel, author of God Is Real – […]

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Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank ...

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks ...

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to ...

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Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when ...

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