Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Learn to Trust Yourself

Photo on 2014-02-16 at 18.56 #3Trust is an important quality that we look for in others. It can be hard to trust if someone you trusted has betrayed you, or lied, or not done what they promised. But the one person you can count on is YOU! The more you build self-love, the more you’ll feel good about taking care of you. Of course you’ll make mistakes but that’s OK, if you tried your best. When you love yourself, you can trust that you’ll do what’s in your best interest.


When people ask me what I consider the most important necessity for succeeding, I always say faith. Spiritual faith is essential to getting over hurdles but it’s also important to have faith in yourself—in your abilities, knowledge, strength, etc. That means trusting yourself!

Trust can get built as you use it. Start by being prepared for what you need to do so you can trust that you’ve done your best to get it done. Avoid people who’ve let you down since they can make you scared of trusting anyone, even you. It’s harder to trust yourself when you keep trusting the wrong people!

Pump yourself up instead of having negative self-talk. Remind yourself how terrific and smart you are. That helps build confidence in you. It’s also important to follow through on your intentions. If you promise yourself you’ll be on time for work, make sure you are. Keep your word to you! If you drop ball, acknowledge that you’re sorry and will try harder next time. Then forgive yourself and let it go.


Learn to listen to your instincts. Usually that inner voice or feeling in your gut is spiritually guided. The more you trust those feelings, the more you’ll see it’s good to trust yourself. Often we fight our gut if it tells us to do something unpleasant or hat we don’t want to do—like cut off a friend or romantic partner who doesn’t treat us right but who seems to meet some need. Let self-love guide you! When you love yourself you want to avoid unhealthy situations and people.

The more you trust your spiritual guidance, the more you’ll be able to trust you. Knowing you have support from a higher power makes it easier. Building a loving relationship with yourself helps too. Learning to trust yourself—to say the right thin, to get a job done, to task care of a problem—gives you a burst of fuel for your self-empowerment. It’s worth the effort!


Join The Self-Love Movement™! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment“I commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days. and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE. Join the Self-Love Movement™! on Facebook. Watch the video made with Hoobastank’s song–The reason–that illustrates the power of self-love.

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