Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Do Unto Yourself as You Do for Others

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Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement™.

Most of us know the Golden Rule about how to treat others—Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It’s a reminder of not to do anything to someone else that you wouldn’t want them to do to you. But, the reverse is true too. When you don’t love yourself, you treat others better than you treat you. People pleasing and a lack of self-love tend to go hand-in-hand.


As Self Love Month comes to a close, make this your permanent mantra:

“I will do unto myself as good if not better than I do unto others.”

Being a people pleaser isn’t self-loving.  That’s when you make what others want more important than your own desires. If you need to keep reminding yourself to be kind to you, keep reminding yourself!  Every act of kindness that you give yourself is another brick in the foundation of your self-love. In the video below I share how it works. I hope that you’ve gotten some good out of Self Love Month to jumpstart your desire to love yourself

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Join The Self-Love Movement™! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment“I commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days. and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE. Join the Self-Love Movement™! on Facebook.

  • Adrian

    Thanks so much for the wonderful posts this month! I’ve enjoyed everything and it’s been a great daily reminder to take care of myself!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks Adrian!

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