Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Pride vs. Being Full of Yourself

blowing bubbleSelf-appreciation is a good quality.  It helps you build pride in yourself. I often recommend writing a list of all your good qualities and owning them to help build self-love. But self-appreciation and having strong pride doesn’t mean being full of yourself. When you truly own who you are as a self-empowered person you don’t need to prove your worth to others. In my Law of  Attraction: Pride post, I talked about how having real pride can attract more things to be proud of. Being a braggart doesn’t do that.

I’ve found that excessive bragging is a sign of insecurity. When you’ve been a DoorMat and begin your journey to feel better, you don’t automatically start with good self-esteem. At first, you may tout your accomplishments and demand attention to the point of nausea, to compensate for the real deal. This isn’t good self-esteem and reinforces that you still need outside validation. Just impress yourself. Others will notice without your bragging.

People get turned off by excessive bragging. That can attract sarcastic or negative comments that hurt your feelings. If you find yourself talking about your accomplishments a lot, try to catch yourself. Think about why you do it. What are you trying to prove? When I began my trip of DoorMatville, I had some major accomplishments, which felt fabulous after years of feeling bad about myself and believing I’d never achieve anything special. It felt so good that I couldn’t stop bragging. It was still hard to believe anyone would like me for me so I tried to earn approval with my accomplishments. When you own yourself, you don’t need to do that!

People with good self-esteem don’t need to flaunt themselves or stop helping others. As your sense of self grows stronger, control your ego. Once you recognize your strong points, the world won’t need a press release. Theye’ll see it in your demeanor as you live it.
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