Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


How Gratitude Can Be a Power Tool for a Better Life

Doug VermeerenI wwrite a lot about rhe impotance of having gratitude in your life. I even run a Conscious Gratitude group on Yahoo, where people can post what they’re grateful for every day and read what others are grateful for. Regularly feeling gratitude can truly be a power tool for manifesting more of what you want.  The more you understand its benefits, the more you’ll want to practice it.

That’s why I’m thrilled to have Doug Vermeeren, an internationally renowned movie producer, director and author as my guest today. His award-winning film, The Opus, received critical acclaim and has been translated to more than 23 languages. Random House published the book version in more than 23 countries. His new film, The Gratitude Experiment (www.thegratitudeexperiment.com), is now premiering in many of the world’s biggest cities. The documentary focuses on how awareness and acts of gratitude can positively transform any situation and improve one’s life experiences, both professionally and personally.

Can Gratitude Change Your Life?
by Doug Vermeeren

The truth knocks on the door and you say, ‘Go away, I’m looking for the truth,’
and so it goes away. Puzzling.”
– author Robert M. Pirsig

Positive psychology entails a call for science and psychological practice to be as concerned with strength as with weakness; as interested in building the best things in life as in repairing the worst; and as concerned with making the lives of normal people fulfilling as with healing pathology.

People can become suspicious when you tell them that they can change their lives with a simple shift in perspective; it can seem too good to be true because it’s an uncomplicated answer to many of life’s challenges. But I’m just one of many who have experienced a measurable life change with gratitude.

I feel that everyone deserves that opportunity. Three areas in life that can be positively transformed with the power of gratitude:

•    Attitude: Gratitude can help us overcome any problem or hardship. It gives us perspective on what’s important, what we truly value and what we have right in front of us. In our small corner of this vast universe, we find the most miraculous thing of all: life. No matter what situation we are in or worries we face, we can always be grateful that we are alive on this beautiful planet. There is a world of possibilities open to whatever attitude we bring to it. Today we can appreciate this opportunity, giving thanks for everything we have and sharing with one another what we are grateful for.

•    Health: The positive thinking triggered by our gratitude has proven health benefits, including strengthening the immune system, reducing stress and depression, reducing risk of cardiovascular disease, better coping skills during hardship and overall increased sense of well-being, according to the Mayo Clinic. This isn’t empty, New Age-y fluff. This is testable criteria and measurable health benefits.

•    Relationships: One of the most defining characteristics of the human race is our social nature. We are hardwired to work, communicate and interact with each other. Most of us understand the value of being there for each other, especially during hard times. However, research from the University of California-Santa Barbara shows that it’s also crucial to be proactively positive during normal or good times, as well. Positive reinforcement during good times reinforces bonds and assures a friend, family member or spouse that you’ll be there during hard times. A neutral response to good news from a spouse, for example, implies apathy and that the responder is less involved in the other’s life. Embrace the good stuff not only in your life, but also in the lives of others.
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