Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Do You Know If You’re Healthy?

I’ve been posting articles lately relate to good health, since in my opinion, being healthy is a cornerstone for a happy life and a great act of self-love. Today my guest is Matt Mumber, MD who is an oncologist who along with yoga therapist Heather Reed wrote Sustainable Wellness: An Integrative Approach to Transform Your Mind, Body, and Spirit. Here’s what he has to say:

Think You’re Healthy? Would You Know if You Weren’t?
7 Tips for Increasing Awareness
by Matt Mumber, MD

Not too long ago – just after World War II – few people in the United States brushed their teeth with any regularity. Now, the mere thought of going an entire day or night without brushing one’s teeth is simply out of the question for most. Hopefully, someday in the near future, a similar attitude will prevail regarding mental well-being.

Human happiness and well-being are rudderless without awareness, which I define as the quality of paying attention to what’s going on in the present moment from an inquisitive, nonjudgmental and focused perspective.

“An easy way to think of optimal wellbeing might be to envision a three-legged stool,” says my co-author, yoga therapist Heather Reed. “The three legs include physical activity, nutrition and that underappreciated component missing from too many Americans’ lives – stress management, or a healthy mental state.”

After checking off a healthy diet and exercise from the list, how does one go about ensuring a healthy mind? The key is mindfulness – paying attention on purpose, non-judgmentally and as though your life depended on it. Framed another way, mindfulness means focusing on something without trying to change it, like the sky holding passing clouds without clinging to them.

The states necessary for attaining mindfulness:

•    Beginner’s mind is the ability to see things with new eyes. The Bible warns against putting new wine in old wine skins – doing so risks tainting the new stock. A beginner’s mind opens people to the world of possibilities that exist in the present moment. That does not mean throwing away good ideas from the past; rather, it means to entertain new ideas with a truly open sensibility.

•    Trust: Believe in your authority to know your own body, thoughts and feelings. We need to have the confidence necessary to trust that our thoughts and feelings at any given moment have value.

•    Non-judging is the ability to see things for what they are, to hold an open and neutral place for whatever comes up within and around you, without thinking of anything as categorically better or worse than anything else.

•    Patience is a willingness to continue with the process of paying attention on purpose even when it appears that no progress is being made. Learning and growing through mindful practice happens with time, and we can’t force the outcome.

•    Acceptance refers to allowing whatever comes up in the moment to be held in our field of awareness. This is not the same as giving up or being passive; acceptance is merely acknowledgement.

•    Letting go is refusing to attach to specific thoughts, feelings or behaviors. This can feel like losing something, but every time we let go, we open ourselves to something new and, potentially, deeper.

•    Non-striving: In our goal-oriented society, this may seem counterintuitive. However, non-striving refers only to practicing mindfulness without expectation of some future goal or dream, which helps us better live in the now.

By having our three-legged stool firmly planted in awareness, we can drop into what we typically call a sense of spiritual wellbeing.
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Check out Dr. Matt Mumber‘ and Heather Reed’s new book, Sustainable Wellness: An Integrative Approach to Transform Your Mind, Body, and Spirit.
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