Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

The Happiness “Drug”

I always encourage people to do what they can to find real happiness. I don’t mean the kind that comes from making a purchase and feels good until you find the next item that will make you happy. I’m talking about the inner kind, that keeps you content even when life isn’t going the way you’d like. Happiness doesn’t just make you smile as you get things you like or have lots of fun. The true kind creates an inner peace with many benefits.

A big result of being happy is it can greatly improve your health!

Studies show that happiness is good for your physical well-being. Researchers at the University College in London studied almost 3,000 adults who were considered healthy. They found a correlation between the people who had more good moods and lower levels of cortisol, one of the stress hormones. High cortisol levels have been shown to raise blood pressure, create other physical side effects of stress, and lower your immune system so you’re more likely to get sick. So being in a good mood because you’re happy doesn’t just feel nice in itself. It can help you avoid getting sick.


The science of happiness keeps getting more convincing about the strong link between positive emotions and the body.

The mind/body connection keeps proving how powerful it can be. In a study with 10,000 Australians, participants answered questions to determine their level of happiness. After three years, almost everyone who considered themselves happy and satisfied with their lives reported good health. This study strengthens the link between happiness, fulfillment with life and long term health. Lead author of this study, Mohammad Siahpush, Ph.D., said, “Everything else being equal, if you are happy and satisfied with your life now, you are more likely to be healthy in the future.”

Have I convinced you yet to make yourself happy?? When I was as DoorMat I put my energy into make other people happy. I thought that made me happy too but it really didn’t. I got sick more in those days but never thought about why. As I got more positive about my life, I noticed I also felt better physically and thought it was a coincidence. Now I know better.


The more positive emotions you create within yourself, the happier you’ll be and you have a good chance of seeing your health improve.

The more negative emotions you allow to rule you, such as anger, resentment, jealousy, fear, bitterness, etc., the more you’ll be prone to get sick. Happy people also tend to live longer. Since I became one, my stress level is way down. Those negative emotions can really hurt you. So the next time you’re faced with someone’s request that makes you unhappy, remember what I’ve told you and do your best to make choices that will increase your positive emotions instead of bringing you down. Happiness is truly good for the health, so do your best to build it in you!


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