Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: “Things Always Go Wrong”

This is post 146 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.

Do you ever feel like just when you’re happy and things are going well, something happens to ruin it? I used to ask why every time I felt happy, a happiness buster stomped it out. It felt like God was out to get me, that He didn’t want me to be happy. My refrain was often, “Things always go wrong.” Back then I didn’t understand how the Law of Attraction works. Yet without me realizing it, my words were picked up—“Things always go wrong.”—and made it them true. I blamed God but my words were responsible.


This refrain is common. Someone often tells me that it feels like every time he or she is happy and life feels like it’s going well, the happy stuff falls apart or turns out rotten. I remember when I got to the point that I was almost afraid of being happy and hear that from others too. We often don’t recognize that saying “Things always go wrong.” makes things go wrong. The Law of Attractions doesn’t distinguish between what you really want and what you’re thinking. It just takes you literally.

When you’re immersed in frustration and anger and other negative emotions, it’s hard to see how your words and thoughts bring you what you don’t want.

Even being very spiritual I can still get caught up in old patterns when I get several things go wrong. Those negative emotions can take over your thoughts if they did earlier in your life. It happened to me when memories of things that meant a lot to me which had fallen apart unexpectedly reminded me that whenever something really special was about to happen for me, it felt as though things always went wrong.


I remember when I had my record label, I had some exciting deals offered and each time something tanked them in ways that shouldn’t have happened. My lawyer at the time, who was also a friend, told me several times that she’s never seen anyone have so much bad luck. She joked that I must be jinxed. I couldn’t laugh and that thought became my belief. I had at least 4 huge opportunities that were definite, with contracts about to be signed, fall through. Back then I didn’t understand how the Law of Attraction works.

Expecting things to go wrong makes them go wrong!

Even though now I know those thoughts create my reality, I sometimes still can’t help thinking them and expecting my wonderful opportunities to fall through. But now I know I must counter them with faith. To this day, when a huge opportunity presents itself, I initially still remember how everything has gone wrong in the past when I had similar opportunities and wait for it to fall through or screw up. But now I fight back and ask God for help changing this mindset. I get it!


The other day something very big for my career was going on and I was very excited about it. Then a HUGE glitch happened. I was very upset about it not working out, which would have been bad for me. I released the situation to God and tried to stay positive about it working out. Suddenly I got an email with a subject header God Is With You and video with that title. I watched and it was a reminder of God on my side. It came out of nowhere from a mailing list I’m not on. I knew it was sent as a sign!

When we ask for spiritual support it usually comes through an experience. It’s important to recognize it.

I felt better and went for a run to clear my head but the old tape began to play as I thought about the very bad consequence my situation could have. I knew I shouldn’t dwell on that as it’s what I’d attract. Then I reminded myself that my strong faith would carry me through if I let it. As I ran I affirmed, “My faith is stronger than those negative old messages!” I said it over and over and over until it overpowered thoughts that “things always go wrong.” By the time I finished the run the thought was gone and I felt very positive.


Next time you find yourself going to a dark place of ” things always go wrong,” try to catch yourself. Tell God that you hate feeling that way and would appreciate support in getting past it. Make your faith stronger than your doubts. You can by releasing your problems to the Universe to work out fine.  I felt so good when I returned from my run and knew I’d conquered my biggest block to manifesting—me! Two days later I got word that all was well with my big opportunity.

It’s your choice to allow or to stop those “things always go wrong” refrains that keep things going wrong. Stop them with positive affirmations. Then you’re working for your good instead of against it, and the Law of Attraction can also work for your highest good.


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  • ayah corda

    LOA has my secret in achieving the thing that I desired. I am now earning money in an effortless way.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Dc

    Excellent post. Lately I’ve been feeling the same way like something is always holding me down from moving forward. I would catch myself saying “something always happens to screw me over” and I’ve been working on it. This is what I was looking for. God bless.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Terrific Ayah!

    Your response is normal DC. But you can change it!

  • Rosewitta

    This has been so helpful. Thanks

  • James Dabbagian

    So uhh….what happens when you think something will go wrong and it actually doesn’t? Did the universe just have an ADHD moment?

    OR…what if you totally believe something is a surefire thing, and it all blows up in your face? Don’t tell me that if I even have a the slightest doubt in something it will automatically go wrong!

    Naturally, the “Law” of Attraction doesn’t take its thinking that far. I laugh.

  • Matt Nunya

    What goes on in the minds of crazy people who think by ignoring all the bad in the world that life will somehow end up good. I wasn’t thinking “ much good in my life, when’s the reality check coming?” when I suffered nerve damage last month. I didn’t ask to be raped as a kid.. I didn’t ask for this bum shoulder I’ve been living with for the past 10 years. You, lady, can get fucked.

  • Michael Borg

    this has been happening to me for years, its not that i feel it or think it even when im not thinking about it it happens. No matter what i do if im eve happy something bad happens. I mean i dont let it control me or define me, i grew up in with pain and in agony from a small age, pretty much the world could walk all over me and cause me infinite amount of pain and like a robot i will just get up and continue walking. I got numb to the negative things in life, sure i enjoy the happiness that comes and even though i do a good job at ignoring the pain and bad luck that comes after feeling and experiencing joy and happiness it still gets me upset once in a while.

    Im stubborn like a rock i swore to myself as a kid that i would make my life the way i wanted it to be and if i have to walk through hell to get it i will get it even if i die the same day i get it. I use to believe it was just coincidence but i dont think it is anymore, i take it as a challenge, whatever this is im not going to lose to it, it still pisses me off though. Well I just wanted to vent some frustration. I finished paying off my car and all my debts and got accepted into college and then 2 hours later my car broke down and when i got home i checked the mail my land lord raised my rent, thats no coincidence, and this happens ALL the time as soon as im happy i can bet my soul on it that a few hours later something will happen, just like the day i got approved for the same car loan that same day i got a bill of 200 dollars.

    I know this isnt in my head and its not laws of attraction or karma it has to be something more tangible coincidence doesnt happen again and again and again every time im happy, coincidence happens once in a blue moon. I wish i knew what it was. If i wasnt an atheist i would say it was something spiritual but its not.
    I just want to know what it is thats causing this so i can destroy it and get with my life i may be numb but i still get upset when it happens, and im afraid im going to just blow up in a lunatic rage.

    • Mi Styles

      You just..explained everything I’m

      • DNA(splicer)

        Well at least I know I’m not alone. Either way if ur going through this don’t let it define u just keep in going until u get it. If u spend ur life searching for happiness that’s all that matters is that u never give in to the negativity around u.

        • Mi Styles

          I know, but unfortunately my issue is the same as yours. And I don’t know if it’s God or whatever that’s doing this, but it feels like it doesn’t want me to be happy. I actually feel like if i come to God and tell him to stop that he’ll just punish me even more, because that’s what always happens when I try to improve my life. I kind of just wish that I was born with a pamphlet that says: “Warning, God may try to fuck with you during your lifespan. He gets bored up there”

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