Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Finding the Empowered Person in YOU

I was unhappy for many years as I struggled to come up for air in the midst of people pleasing. I felt like I was lost, even though I knew how to get to the place I lived. But I couldn’t find me—the real me who had talent and deserved to be happy. I wanted be happy but didn’t know how to change my patterns. It felt like I was wandering around in unfamiliar territory as I tried to find my way.

And I eventually did find my way! As I felt much stronger, I looked back on how my life used to be and realized I’d been lost, but I found myself, embraced the me I always wanted to be and was living happily with that newfound self-love and feeling that life is wonderful. I wrote a poem about how I felt and want to share it here. It’s called Lost & Found, because I was lost in my DoorMat days and am grateful that I found me and the enlightenment I have today. Learning to love me was my key to leaving that hazy place of putting everyone else’s needs in front of my own, and going to a place where I was clear about the joy of loving myself enough to make me happy! Here’s the poem.

Lost & Found

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
the promise
of the little girl,
who used to be scared.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
that dreams,
even the highest,
can be realized.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
the daughter, wife, mother
is now a woman,
in her own right

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
that peacefulness
begins with peace,
within yourself.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
that joy
comes to those,
who follow their dreams.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
that the love
I used to give for free,
I now give to me.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I’m finding
the heart
that used to be broken,
now is the guide.

Yesterday I was lost.
Today I know
the greatest gift
to yourself,
is yourself.
© Daylle Deanna Schwartz

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Linda Linda

    Thank you, Daylle! You are so inspiring and empowering!
    Your posts helped me tremendously during the past few weeks!( especially the one on “upgrading your relationship”).

    Please keep being you, keep shining!
    LOVE

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I’m thrilled to know that my posts help you Linda! Thanks for your generous words!

  • http://ThanksDaylie Adrian Carr

    As always, thanks for sharing. And I’ve enjoyed and look forward to all you empowerment posts.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sue Wolheim

    I try to read all the posts and blogs. It’s helping, but I’m still stuck in doormatville. More like one foot in the door and the other is out.
    I’m a 58 year old woman with such mixed feelings about relationships. Yet I look forward to reading empowerment articles.
    Keep up the good work, I really appreciate it.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for that Adrian!

    Sue, it took me years to get over being a DoorMat. If you keep going and make every effort to do loving things for yourself, eventually your other foot will begin to leave. You might want to read my book, Nice Girls Can Finish First. It gives many suggestions for becoming empowered.

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