Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: Self-Belief

Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for Thumbnail image for * LOA logo2.jpgThis is post 128 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how.


You might want something really bad: a promotion at work, marriage, a move to a new city, etc. Really bad! But, no matter what you do it doesn’t come. You pray, affirm and try to get the emotion needed to manifest, but still, nothing. At that point, it’s good to look inside and see if you believe in yourself enough to make it happen. Most people say they want big success, yet many never get it. It can get frustrating!

The factor missing in many people is a strong belief that they deserve or can handle getting what they say they want.

If you feel bad about yourself, it’s hard to succeed. If you question your ability to do a job because you’ve had failures in the past, or make a relationship work because all of yours have tanked so far, or other people question whether you can handle moving or other responsibilities, belief in yourself waivers. And that’s what the law of Attraction picks up on. So manifesting is not just about wanting something. You also need to believe you deserve it or can handle the results you get.


Dreaming and wishing and wanting feels good. But even if you’re not aware of it, deep down you might be worried about actually getting what you say you want. It’s important to make sure you’re ready for it before you put it out to the Universe, or the message might be tainted by the doubts you feel. The actual doing of something can be scary. You may question yourself:

•    Can I handle a lot more responsibility at work?
•    Am I ready for a romantic relationship?
•    Can I manage lots of big changes?
•    Am I smart enough to do the job?

All of those concerns tell the Law of Attraction to hold off on supporting you in getting it. When I was a DoorMat, I felt worthless and questioned my ability to do everything beyond my little world. I was sure no man would want me if I left my marriage and doubtful of my capability to develop a career I loved. After all, worthless people weren’t good for much! So I put out what I wanted and blocked it all from coming by my lack of belief in me and my capacity to be good at anything.


William James said, “Believe and your belief will create the fact.”

As I did small things well and took baby steps forward, my belief in me increased. Developing faith escalated my belief. Now I know that I can do anything I choose because I have the spiritual support I need. In my DoorMat days I didn’t understand how the Law of Attraction worked. I just knew I never got what I wanted, and probably never would, and believed that people like me got nothing. But eventually I learned that I had the power to change my thoughts and manifest my desires.

Today my belief in me is solid! I truly know that what I seek I shall find. Faith allows me to relax about when it all comes together, but I do know it will come. The more I believe in me the more I manifest. It fuels the emotions needed to create the vibration. If you’re not manifesting, ask yourself these questions:


•    Do I think I deserve to get it?
•    Do I feel like I can step comfortably into the job?
•    Am I worried that I’ll mess up like my dad predicted?
•    Do I feel like an imposter: someone who really isn’t as good as my façade makes me out to be?

Work on changing those thoughts if your answers are negative! Write down why you’re worthy. If necessary, take a class to boost your skills and make you feel more capable. Find a mentor to go over things with. It can take time but you can begin to believe in yourself more by overcoming those messages. Affirm as often as you can, “I believe in me!” Even if It’s not true at first, force some emotion as you say it. Repeating it over and over can help it sink in. And the more emotion you feel, the more it tells the Law of Attraction that you’re ready.


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  • Richard Lee McKim Jr

    How Does Your God Power Work?
    Your Reality is based on “Meanings,” Your Meanings. Whatever something “Means” to You, creates the Reality of it. It is a change in “Meaning.” that creates a Change in Reality.
    For Example. When a Patient takes a sugar pill, and he Knows that it is a sugar pill, what does that Mean to him? It means that he will gain a few calories from the sugar that he has just taken. However, if he thinks and Believes that the pill is some special Miracle Drug, that will cure him, what does that Mean? It means, that if he swallows that pill, he will be cured, and so, the sugar, becomes able to actually cure a terminal illness. The “Facts,” were not changed. He still took a pill made of sugar, but, its Meaning was changed, which changed his Reality.
    When someone is engulfed in a dreadful situation, that is expected to have dire consequences, what does that Mean? It Means, that there will be an unfortunate outcome. However, if the person prays to God, for a Miracle, what does that Mean? That Means, that God will now intervene in this situation, and create a favorable outcome. Praying to God, Means a favorable outcome is eminent. The Meaning has changed, and therefore, the Reality has changed. Impossible situations, suddenly “Become” resolved. That is how Your God Power works.
    Is This The Same As The
    “Law of Attraction?”
    The “Law of Attraction” is generally thought of as “Like Attracts Like.” Technically, “The Results are Elicited by the Resonant Attraction of the Meaning.” In other words, when taking a Pill Means that You will get well; the Meaning of Getting Well elicits, or attracts, the “Like Result” of Good Health. That is “Like Attracts Like.”
    The “Attraction” is always based on the Meaning of the situation, and NOT the facts. It is the Meaning of taking a miracle drug that heals the patient, not, the sugar in the pill. It is the Meaning of Feeling Lucky, and not the actual Lucky item, that attracts (Elicits) the fortuitous circumstances.
    Aren’t “Feelings”
    The Basis of Attraction?
    “Feelings” are NOT the basis of Attraction. Feelings are the “Indicator” of what You are attracting. It is ALWAYS the “Meaning” that is the Basis of what you are attracting into your experience.
    In example. If the Doctor tells you that You have a terminal Disease and there is no chance that you will survive, that “Means” that you will Die Soon. That “Meaning” makes you FEEL bad, and you “Elicit” Death as a Result. Not form the Feeling, but from the Meaning, that resulted in Your Bad Feeling. However, if the Doctor tells you that he has a “Miracle Drug” that will cure you, that “Means” that You will survive and Live. That results in a GOOD Feeling. You will then “Elicit” Healing and good Health from the “Meaning” that You will survive. Note: It doesn’t matter whether the Drug is Real or not. If what the Doctor gives You “Means” that you will now Survive, you will. It is ALWAYS the “Meaning” First, then the Resulting Feeling and Elicited Results, come after that.
    Richard Lee McKim Jr.

  • Richard Lee McKim Jr

    Isn’t It Just “Fate?”
    Yes it is, but, not in the way that You think of “Fate.” We all have certain Beliefs, Meanings and Expectations in our Lives. These Meanings are “Eliciting” and Manifesting certain Results into our Experience. That might be thought of as our “Fate.” Fate is the cascading results of our Meanings and Beliefs, whether they Manifest in the next 5 Minutes or the next 50 Years. We can control our Fate, by deciding on, and controlling our Beliefs and Meanings.
    “While We Are Destined To
    Experience the Results of Fate,
    We Have the Free Will to
    Decide What Our Fates Will Be.”
    Richard Lee McKim Jr.
    How To Use Your God Power – The Master’s Course

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