Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Giving Thanks on Thanksgiving!

I used to love Thanksgiving Day for the food. For those of you living in other countries, we celebrate Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November. Families get together to have a big decadent meal, commonly featuring a turkey, sweet potato pie, stuffing, and pumpkin pie. Then there are all the other goodies that are unique to each family. Yum! I get hungry just thinking about it. But, the real purpose of Thanksgiving is to live up to the name–a day for giving thanks–and I do my best to honor that tradition.

We all have so many things to be thankful for. Recognizing your blessings is one of the best things you can do to attract more.

When I think about all that I have to be thankful I smile. When I think about things that aren’t right, I feel bad. Therefore, I do my best to focus on my blessings since I prefer to feel good. Positive thoughts create positive emotions. Negative thoughts create negative emotions. And negative emotions make you feel bad and can even create illness. A good tonic for this is creating positive emotions by feeling deep appreciation for all that you have.

How do you prefer to feel?

I’ve mentioned before that I have a Conscious Gratitude group on Yahoo, where people can post their blessings. There are over 50 members, yet only 3 of us post almost every day. Others post occasionally but the majority never do. It sounds so good to be able to post blessings but life gets in the way for most people. Yet it shouldn’t. Sometimes at night I’m exhausted and just want to close my computer and get to sleep. But most of the time I push myself to give thanks for a few things. I’m always glad that I do!

The practice of gratitude is something that can be reinforced on Thanksgiving, though it should be kept active every day. There are always blessings if you choose to look for them. Today is an unusual Thanksgiving for me. I’m home on my own. I have a teensy family and they’re all out of town. People who know this feel sorry for me but I’m fine. I could have gone to relatives who are out of town but didn’t feel like traveling.

I love being in the city over this weekend. The holiday lights go up and cheer is in the air–many blessings! So I’ll still enjoy my day. It’s quiet and I can get some good writing done, which I always appreciate. And a good time to go within and do some spiritual work. I feel blessed to be able to enjoy this traditional day in an untraditional way. And, I’ll say a gazillion calories as I usually pig out at family dinners. So m focus is on my blessings instead of on the food.

Think about your blessings. Write them down. Read them aloud. Keep adding to your list.

The more you get into a habit of acknowledging your blessings, the better you’ll feel. The better you feel, the more blessings you’ll get. It’s a synergy that you’ll love as you feel better and better. What I’m saying isn’t new. I’ve said it many times before. But I will keep saying it, hoping each time that I get through to more folks!

Whether you celebrate it or not, I wish you all a blessed Thanksgiving Day, full of things to be grateful for.

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  • willeke van ke3mpen

    we dont celebrate thanksgiving in the netherlands but i think it is good to have a day to remember the good things in live of to do that everyday
    thank you for the post you send me and that i can learn a lot of you

  • Cheryl

    God bless you and all your followers and I’d like to wish every one, every where, a HAPPY DAY!

  • Ariel

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and your blog readership.
    I realize this sounds very contradictory, but it’s true. I count my blessings all the time; in my mind I am aware of the good things in my life. But I feel very sad, just downright lonely, at the holidays when I find myself having to spend them alone. I have volunteered. It certainly puts things in perspective and gives a chance to give of yourself to someone else. It is a wonderful thing. But it does not abate the heavy heart I have. It’s like I have two feelings going on at the same time: acknowledging how much I have to be grateful for, but still lonely at spending the holidays alone. I feel I am criticized for “not being positive” when I admit to feeling sad. So then I feel guilty for having sad feelings. But all along I am honestly, truly aware of the goods I have. It’s hard to balance the two contrasting feelings.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I’m glad the post motivated you Willeke!
    Thanks for the blessings Cheryl. You are one! : )
    Ariel, this isn’t contradictory. Blessings don’t necessarily counter feelings like loneliness. And, you’re entitled to feel sad for being alone. That’s normal! Forcing a positive attitude when you feel negative is unfair to you. I used to feel sad when I was home alone on holidays. Now I enjoy the solitude. I’m going to write a full post with this question shortly. Stay tuned!

  • Ariel

    Thanks, and I look forward to your post about this topic. I enjoy your blog very much.
    I do love & appreciate my solitude, too. I’ve gotten pretty good at living the credo “I’d rather be alone than be with toxic people.” However, in my case I’ve had more solitude than companionship. And I think I have tended to embrace solitude rather than risk rejection. So I’m trying to break out of it and be with people more. I think otherwise I am depriving myself of the benefits of positive relationships.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I do that too Ariel, but discovered when I reach out, people often reach back. Some dont but oh well! : )

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