Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


January Is Self-Love Month!

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In my Law of Attraction: Holding Onto Faith post, I mentioned a big project I’m doing. I’m excited to announce that I’ve registered January as Self-Love Month in the National Special Events Registry. It’s time–actually way overtime–that this essential catalyst for happiness gets it’s own month. I admit I’m gonna need some help but I’m committed to making this happen. I’ve been using my passion to set the Law of Attraction into motion to bring me anything and anyone I need to accomplish it.

And anyone who volunteers to help will be MUCH appreciated.

Every self-help book pushes building self-love but most people are still in short supply of it. It’s easy to encourage people to “love yourself” more. It sounds good, except to those who don’t love themselves or know how to do it. You can’t just magically wake up and decide to love yourself. After hating myself for many years, I learned that every little loving thing you do for you is another little brick in the foundation of building self-love.

To this end, I’m issuing a 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge.

I’m in the process of building a website: www.HowDoILoveMe.com. I mentioned Carlos Castañeda in my other post. He has become my Self-Love angel, helping me with the technical end of this project. There will be a pledge on the site that you can sign up to take, promising to do your best to do something loving for yourself for every day of January. It’s free! Then you can post what you do to show yourself love every day.

My goal is to raise consciousness about the importance of being loving to yourself.

When the site goes live, it will have my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways, available for free. My book has MANY suggestions for ways to do loving things for you. It doesn’t have to be big. Small things that bring a smile to your face add up to deeper self-love. If you do 31 teensy loving things, I know you’ll end January feeling better.

I’m currently talking to sponsors and organizations that will support me. If you know of any potential people or companies, please send them my way. I do need more help. Carlos will do my website and e-book. I’m using all my “spare” time and more to get this launched. I’ll also need volunteers to help let THE WORLD know! Yes, I’m making this an international endeavor.

When we spread the word globally, and motivate millions (hear me Law of Attraction!) of people to be more loving to themselves, as the song said, WHAT A WONDERFUL WORLD IT WILL BE!

Self-Love is key for good self-esteem and happiness. It’s hard to have either of those without it. And I want you to have it. After so many years of hating myself, it’s hard to put into words, even for an eloquent writer like myself,  what a profoundly wonderful, joyous and miraculous blessing it is to love myself so much.

Trust me, if I can learn to love myself, step by step, small loving act by small loving act, so can YOU!

So, that’s my big announcement. All suggestions, support, and anything else is more than welcome. DoorMats do everything themselves. Since I’m not one anymore, I’m reaching out for any help offered. I have never been so excited about anything in my life. I want you to be as happy as I am. Considering I couldn’t even look myself in the eye in a mirror for many years, now I throw kisses.  We’re gonna do this–spread the word about developing Self-Love around the world.

How ’bout beginning now?! Go do something loving for you RIGHT NOW. You don’t have to wait until January. Call a friend who makes you feel good. Buy that lotion you always wanted but thought would waste money if you could buy a generic brand. You’re worth the extra few dollars! Get up and take a short walk–right now! Eat a little healthier at your next meal. Do some relaxation breathing. Give yourself a hug. Say “I love you” in the mirror, even if you don’t mean it–yet!

Self-love is built, brick by brick, small loving act by small loving act.

I forced it for a few years when I hated myself but kept trying. Each little thing I did for myself made me feel a tad better. Each bit of love I gave my reluctant self eventually created a solid foundation. Self-love doesn’t just happen. YOU build it. Now if you’d rather not love yourself and prefer to have low self-esteem and not be happy, okay, do nothing. But I can tell you from experience, as the little loving things you for you bring more smiles to your face, you’ll feel a little better and want to do more loving things.

If you’re on Facebook, you can begin by clicking the LIKE button on my Self-Love Month page and spread the word.

This synergy can blossom into the kind of self-love that I finally have, and enrich your life in MANY ways. YOU deserve it. Start now and I’ll keep you posted on when my 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge launches. Please let me know what you think in a comment!

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.



  • Brenda

    I always refer your Doormat articles to friends in conversations and hope they become as enlightened as I have from your articles/newsletters. I LOVE the idea for January’s Self-Love Month and intend to pass it on and promote continuously!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks as always for your very kind words Brenda!

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