Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

“I love me” tip: Stop & Really Smell The Roses

Heart 2.jpgFlowers are known to cheer people up. People bring them to loved ones who are sick. Men give them to their romantic partner to show their love. Some women, me included, have brought flowers to a guy too. Flowers brighten up a room and can put a smile on your face each time you see them. Roses are considered the strongest flower symbol of love.

So, as a loving gesture to YOU, stop and really smell the roses by buying some, or another kind of flowers you like!


You don’t have to get a lot. I often buy myself one rose so I can see it and smell it and feel some self-love in the process. If roses aren’t your thing, buy whatever flowers make you happy. I buy myself flowers regularly, just because I love me. I love having fresh flowers at home. Most people do! Every time I walk by my vase of flowers I’m reminded of how much I love

You don’t need to wait for a special occasion. Loving yourself every day is special!

You can do that for yourself by getting flowers regularly for your home or your workspace–consciously as a loving gesture to YOU. Buy one lovely rose or a sweet bouquet of whatever you’d enjoy. I love daisies and buy them often. Sometimes I splurge on get sweet smelling lilies, which are more expensive but I love them! It all depends on my mood.


The most important thing is to get something that you see every day that shows you’re making an effort to be self-loving.

When something makes you smile, like seeing pretty flowers when you walk into your apartment or bedroom, the more it makes you feel good. The more you feel good from things you do for you, the more opportunity for self-love to grow. Go buy yourself a rose, or a whole bouquet of cheerful flowers. Think of it as a gift of love, to you, from you. The more you show yourself love, the more self-love you’ll feel.

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  • Breeze

    I frequently buy myself a fresh cut bouquet of flowers at the grocery
    market. One time a friend asked “who was my secret admirer that gives me flowers?” I hesitated and then I smiled with the response: “I guess I am my secret admirer! Who ever said that we couldn’t give ourself flowers?” That casual conversation was pretty heavy when you think about it……..

  • http://optimistique mimi

    I always bye myself flowers ,it remind me that life is always beautiful to sherish .it make me smile .

  • nancy

    what do u do if u have no money or any way 2 get these things if you cant drive????

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Good for you for being your own secret admirer Breeze! I am too for me. : )
    Glad the flowers make you smile. : )
    Nancy, you find some way to treat yourself kindly if you can’t afford even one flower.

  • magfire

    Look up at the moon or the clouds or just take a nice deep breath and give thanks for life as you exhale. . . or silly as it sounds, give yourself a hug!!

  • Breeze

    I just want to suggest to Nancy that store bought flowers are not the only gifts to ourselves. Am I just lucky? that walking (no car!) I always manage to see a flower, perhaps it’s a weed, but one little flower to yourself can make your entire day “blossom”!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Those are great suggestions magfire and Breeze! I give myself hugs regularly. And one little flower on the side of a road can definitely add joy to your day! : )

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