Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Make Each Day a Good One

sun.JPGI recently heard people being interviewed on the radio about the bad weather we were having. They were asked how they felt from all the the heat and humidity. One after another, people complained about it. I agreed with what everyone said. Then they found a guy with a fresh perspective. He said the weather didn’t bother him. He had one life and wouldn’t let the weather, or any other circumstances, hurt his day. He emphasized his view was a very spiritual, that transcended discomfort with heat and humidity.

Why let stuff you can’t control interfere with having a good day?

The man felt blessed to be alive, with his own good health and a healthy family. While the work he did at his job wasn’t stimulating, he was blessed to have a job that paid his bills in a bad economy. As I listened, it really made an impact. Even the guy who interviewed him was touched. I write about this kind of stuff yet I’ve been letting the weather affect me. New York had some exceptionally hot and humid days this year that Influenced my mood very badly.

I don’t like excess heat, especially when it’s also humid. New York has broken records this summer! The man on the radio reminded me that it’s my choice to let the weather, or anything else, hurt how I feel. Right after I was very clear to myself that despite the weather and some minor health issues, I chose to feel great and have a good day. Since then I’ve been saying that every morning and it’s made a big difference for me! The heat and humidity doesn’t last forever but still I shouldn’t wait for it to go away to feel happier.

No matter what you feel or what the weather is like, choose to make each day a very good one!

Since doing that every day I was able to tolerate the heat much better and also felt better, just from reminding myself that I want to feel good. It’s YOUR life. People can try to mess with you but it’s YOUR choice to let it hurt your positive outlook. The weather still made me hot but didn’t cool my jets anymore. I continued to keep my determination to feel good and make each day as good as possible, and it works! I know that given the choice, I’d rather be happy than unhappy.

Ask yourself, “Would I rather be happy or unhappy?” I hope you choose happy!

If you do, find ways to get past things that happen which you don’t like, such as rain when you need to be outdoors a lot, allergies when you have work to do, a fight with a friend, breaking up with someone, etc. I am so grateful to not live in DoorMatville anymore that I can live with everything else. I know that weather will change and I’ll meet new people or make up with old ones. Remember to choose happiness over being brought down. It’s a much better way to have a satisfied life.

Find the sunshine in every day, even if it’s cloudy outside!

You can make your own sunshine by counting your blessings and focusing on the good in your life. Weather changes but you don’t want to lose even one precious day to negatives. Every day enjoyed adds to the beauty of your life.

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  • skilledhelper

    Thanks so much. That is a really good way to put it, “Every day enjoyed adds to the beauty of your life.”
    I have been so blessed this year to have provision even in a bad economy. Lately, it has been a little tight financially though and I have found myself thinking about it too much and “worrying” about it too much. I have to trust that God “works all things together for my good.” So I am expecting to see continued provision as I do what is in my heart to do. I am determined to live the Good Life that He has planned for each one of us. (Jer. 29:11). And in that Good life are humid days and hot days, cloudy days and rainy days. Through it all keeping a positive attitude does add to the beauty of our lives because everyone has “those days.” It is just what we determine to do with those days and how we decide to view those days that makes our life beautiful, great, inspired or negative. It’s all in our perspective and what we CHOOSE to look at. I choose to be grateful.

  • Barbara Fifield

    http://www.fifieldauthor.com Check out my web site. It has videos and audios of my new books. I agree with your comments about having a great day despite the weather! Make the most of it. Barbara Fifield

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Sounds like you’re on a very positive track Skilled! Good for you!
    Thanks for sharing Barbara!

  • http://www.whydidichoosehim.com Crystal | Why Did I Choose Him

    This is such an important message. To find sunshine in every day, even if it’s cloudy. To enjoy each day, no matter what is going on around you that you can not control. We all get caught up in the weather and things we can’t control becoming angry and irritated. It’s such a blessing when others find joy in living, regardless of the circumstances that surround them.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Yes Crystal, our sunshine comes from within!

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