Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Plan for Success!

This is post 85 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

I recently heard Peter Shankman speak. He’s an entrepreneur, author, speaker, and founder of HARO (Help a Reporter Out), a service that connects journalists with expert sources. Peter is known for taking big risks in his entrepreneurial endeavors. I plan to have an interview with him shortly. He has accomplished a lot of amazing endeavors. And he pointed out something about reaching success that most people don’t think about.

Peter said, “Have a plan for when you succeed.”

Hmm… That sounds logical, doesn’t it? The more you plan for success, the stronger the message you put out that you plan to succeed. Yet what do most of us do? We plan for failure. You may not see it as that. While it’s practical to have contingency plans in case something doesn’t work, it tells the Universe you don’t think you’ll succeed. Hello! That’s what the Law of Attraction will more likely return to you.

People tend to put much more into plans for something not succeeding than they do for reaching success. Can you see why this is counterproductive????

When I moved into Manhattan, I burned my teacher’s license since I didn’t want to teach anymore. I figured that living in the city would make it much easier to get a job that I’d enjoy. Unfortunately, it was a down economy and jobs were scarce. I sent out resumes but got no callbacks. I had an apartment I loved but no job—or backup plan. My work experience didn’t really suit me for much. I’d been a teacher and started my own record label. Friends consoled me, thinking I must be terrified about supporting myself. But I wasn’t.

My backup plan and plan for when I succeeded were the same—belief in myself and faith that I’d find the right direction.

I asked for guidance about how to go forward and began teaching workshops to earn money. They evolved into writing books. My whole career evolved because I looked forward and planned to be successful. I never considered what I could do that was out of my passion zone to just earn money for survival. I never survive. I thrive, even if the money isn’t big, because I’m stimulated by doing what I love. The Law of Attraction has blessed me with opportunities and paths to what I want since my plan was always to succeed. At times I just followed where I was led—with complete trust.

When you look forward in faith, your faith can take you forward to success.

I don’t advise blowing off a job if you have a family to support or your faith isn’t strong enough yet. You can try new things without putting everything at risk. The important thing is that you expect your endeavor to succeed. Plan for that success. Envision it! Feel good about it! And if things don’t work out as you’d ideally like, accept there’s a reason and something better is coming. That sends the best message for the Law of Attraction to support. Plus, you’ll be ready to make the most of success when it come.

Never forget Peter’s wise words: “Have a plan for when you succeed.

Every time you work on a backup plan, you tell the Universe you aren’t confident about succeeding. Every time you review your plan to succeed, you affirm your intention to need that plan since you expect to be successful. Free yourself from thinking that gets you negative results from the Law of Attraction by letting go of the need to plan for things not working. Plan for success and you’ll have the best shot of attract support in reaching it.

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  • MAxx

    What a simple but profound perspective! I'm glad you heard Peter Shankman speak and shared this wisdom with us.

  • http://www.acmastering.com adrian@acmastering.com

    As you've mentioned in many previous posts – have the plan to succeed and feel it, expect it. I recently have experienced that my will or desire is more powerful that I ever thought – I just focused on a point in my life when I had the thing I want now…….how easy is that – since I already had known it once! But I am raising the bar a little because now I am focusing on multiplying that abundance and more skillful means to use it. – I'll let you know what happens.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks Maxx!Good for you Adrian! I'm so glad you're seeing the fruits of your expectation power!

  • VickiLA

    I was brought up by parents who always worried and made many contingency plans for when things didn't work out. This post made me understand why they kept attracting failure. They were planning for it! I don't want to do this but know I learned well from them. I intend to try to learn more from your writing Daylle. Keep up the good work!

  • skilledhelper

    That is amazing. My mother always had a back-up plan A, B, C, D…. and she has had very little stability in her life. It just brought nothing but failure. My husband and I lauched out in what was a different direction for us, on the other hand, without a net. We felt strongly that is what we were to do… we have had nothing but better provision ever since. We are living better now than we were with a corporate income for 15 years! Although my beliefs are based on Deuteronomy 28 and expecting the best.

  • maya

    Thank you for that information…including skilled helper

  • http://blog.abugfreemind.com/ karl@self growth

    LAw of attraction is true. Thanks for the nice post!

  • http://blog.abugfreemind.com/ Carrie

    how to change your life This could change your life.

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