Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: Life’s Potholes

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is post 88 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your
power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the
posts in this series
to see how.



you get angry if things don’t go your way? That’s a normal reaction. But, it
doesn’t have to be yours. When you can accept that everything happens has a reason, you
can roll in and out of life’s potholes without letting yourself get hurt on impact.
When I was a DoorMat, potholes sent me into “Why me?” mode. I thought I was
cursed, or if there was a God, He didn’t love me. Or, I was so unworthy that I was getting what I deserved.



can be seem very negative on the surface but, if you accept that everything has
a reason, you can relax in knowing it will be okay.


things that get in the way of what you think you want or that interrupt your
flow attracts more potholes, since your focus is on what you don’t like. The more you
complain about it, the more energy you give it to attract more negatives. Accept that every person encounters potholes. Unless you cocoon yourself and never go out except to go around the corner on a road you know is smooth to avoid them, the roads you follow will have them.


you can accept what happens, good or bad, and move on, you can stay more
positive and attract better situations.


the fall I was trying to find a tech student to help me with my blog. I
wanted to redesign it and would have paid to get it done. I asked a college
professor whose students do what I need to help me find someone and he said no
problem. But it was a problem. Every time someone was supposed to come it fell
through. Every person fell into a pothole. Though it was frustrating, I accepted it as meant to be and truly knew
that it would all work out. And it did in a wonderful way!



I’d found someone to hire, I’d have paid money to fix up the blog site I’m not
on anymore. I believe that I couldn’t find someone to help me since I was going
to be asked to move my blog to Beliefnet, so I didn’t need to fix up the other
site! I had enough faith to
wait. I could have called the professor again and again to get more names, but
I didn’t. I felt that there was a reason and I let it play out. And now I don’t
need site changes! Had I pushed to find someone I’d have wasted my money.



you accept the roadblocks or glitches or changes in plans, etc., knowing it
will all work out, you attract a good outcome down the road.


you whine or moan or complain about how awful your luck is, you’ll attract more
things to attribute to bad luck. It’s hard to accept it’s okay when things go
wrong. I know. I used to be the queen of complaining. Accepting feels so much
better! Some good examples of how glitches can be positive happened on
9/11. Being from
NYC, I heard many stories about people who had things happen that kept them
from being in the World Trade Center when the planes hit. I bet at the time
there was complaining from the:



·      Person who got
stuck in traffic behind an accident

Woman whose alarm clock didn’t wake her so she
was late

Guy who missed his bus


The man who got a bad blister from his new shoes
and stopped to buy a Band-Aid


There are more people who had “bad luck”
that 9/11 morning and got to the towers after they were hit. So their bad luck
turned into blessings to be alive and unharmed. Everything happens for a
reason. Next time you can’t get a cab, someone you need to talk to doesn’t answer
his phone, the contract is late, you can’t find something you think you need,
etc., remind yourself that everything happens for a reason and relax.



The more you accept what happens and KNOW
it will all work out, the more it will work out in your favor.


Please leave comments under
my posts so we can stay connected.

  • Barbara Fifield
    Thirty years, ago, I was living with an abusive husband. When he wrecked our VW on a dark road at 2 am and almost killed us, I decided, then and there, to return to college (although my youngest was still in grade school), finish my degree in journalism. I attended school locally at the State University of New York at New Paltz and received my degree after only two years, as I also attended full time in the summers, and volunteered as a Brownee leader and 4-H Club leader, too. After working for two years, I left with my youngest, who was now in high school. I lived in a one-bedroom apartment, got a divorce, sued him for half the money and won. Then I bought a house with the monies I won, met a wonderful man who became my second husband, and returned for my MSW Degree. He supported me while I did so. Leaving my first husband was the best decision I ever made. He’s now on his third wife and making her miserable! Barbara Fifield

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I’m so glad you were able to get out Barbara and that you found someone worthy of you. Thanks for sharing and good luck with this wonderful path you’re on!

  • Rafael

    Your blog is helping me change my life in ways I can’t put into words! Thank you Daylle Deanna Schwartz!

  • michelle

    Great reminder for me. I recently started dating again. I had a bad experience and found myself thinking about what if I had done this or this. Would things have gone better? I need to trust the universe and be open because things do happen for a reason. Today two new men are wanting to get to know me. I have put my order out to the universe and he will come to me. I just need to be patient.

  • cheryl

    As always, Daylle, your blog was spot on. One of my favorite country music songs is “(Some of God’s Greatest Gifts are)Unanswered Prayers” and as you emphasize, keeping the faith and trusting that everything happens for a reason is key to success.

  • Susan B.

    Such great words of advice! Just last year I started on a new (and sometimes frightening but very rewarding) path in my life and I am trying so hard to open myself up to all that the universe has in store for me by being grateful for everything good and what I perceive to be bad that happens to me. If I hadn’t experienced the bad things I went through, I’d never be in the glorious spot that I am in today so I do try to realize that everything does happen for a reason … even if that reason takes years to make itself apparent. Thank you for a wonderful blog! Your advice is of great help and inspiration to me (any many others I am sure).

  • Jeff

    Nice analogy, simple but effective because it is familiar. I know when I am in a moment of resistance being blind to a deeper meaning is easy or if we don’t have to believe there’s a meaning behind every little thing in our lives-then we accept we are part of a random universe, one in which although there is order-there is also chaos…

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I feel blessed knowing that rafael!
    Patience will get you what you want Michelle if you also stay focused on what you want.
    Thanks as always for your kind words Cheryl!
    I’m delighted to share with you and others Susan!
    Thanks Jeff. A positive path can be very simple if it’s faithful.

  • Joanne

    Thanks Dayelle, your article has given me hope and increase faith in myself.

  • chris

    Yes, everything happens for a reason. Sometimes when I’m out doing errands and in a hurry someone will stop and want to talk and I have learned that I am exactly where I am SUPPOSED to be at that moment and that it is not a DELAY but was meant to be.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Keep the faith Joanne! You can get what you want!
    Thanks for sharing Chris!

  • Bola

    A message just in time for me..
    Im at the crossroad and i feel stuck. And i wondering why everything seems to be going wrong.
    But every sure is working for my good.
    Thank you

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment mike

    thank you:)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    You’re very welcome! : )

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Holly Turek

    Thanks I needed to hear that!

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