Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Flowing with Situations

This is post 84 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.

Nobody’s life flows smoothly, without any road bumps and glitches. Mine sure doesn’t. People think of me as having a particularly blessed life. I do! But it’s not because it always go smoothly. I trust the process enough to go with the flow instead of lamenting over situations I don’t like or trying to control it too much. Trusting that you’ll get what you need at the right time keeps you relaxed and in a positive mindset for the Law of Attraction to work well with you. Holding on to your negative emotions about what happened, or didn’t happen, attracts more disappointing outcomes.

Stuff happens that feels out of your control. But it’s not if you control your thoughts about it and flow with what happens instead of creating negative thoughts about it.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis said, “I have been through a lot and I have suffered a great deal. But I have had lots of happy moments, as well. Every moment one lives is different from the other. The good, the bad, hardship, the joy, the tragedy, love and happiness are all interwoven into one single, indescribable whole that is called LIFE. You cannot separate the good from the bad. And perhaps there is no need to do so, either.”

Everyone’s life will have its ups and downs. That’s how it works.

I remember when I read Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch. I love this book! Someone who came to one of my workshops told me about it. I said I hadn’t read it and she sent it as a gift. “Coincidentally,” it arrived just after my dad passed away, when I was feeling down. Knowing that she sent it as an act of pure kindness perked up my spirits. I can’t say it balanced the feelings that went with my loss but it did bring some smiles to me. And I probably appreciated the book more than if it had arrived during a very happy period. The book is Walsch’s account of conversations he had with God. It both enlightened and delighted me, as this was the God I believe in!

In the book God explains that without negative occurrences, we wouldn’t appreciate the positive ones.

I agree wholeheartedly. If things always went well, we wouldn’t even recognize our blessings since there would be no contrast. Our blessings would just be life, which we’d soon take for granted. Viewing it that way has made me appreciate when things happen which I don’t like. Those times keep me grounded in appreciation of all the good stuff! It’s important to understand this. People tell me there’s no God if this or that happened to them, or, they think God hates them if something they wanted could go so wrong. These kind of thoughts don’t send a good message to the Universe and the Law of Attraction will pick up the negative vibes. You know what you’ll attract form that!

Recognizing the blessings in the down parts of life helps you move past them without getting too caught up in negativity and sends trust in getting a good outcome when the time is right.

For everything, I believe if It’s meant to be, it will be. And I can accept that now in complete faith. Relax and trust that if something goes wrong, it wasn’t meant to be. Don’t worry about whether you did something wrong or you’re being punished or that God doesn’t love you. If you did do something wrong, it was because it wasn’t right for you. Years ago I noticed a pattern in dating. With some guys I’d say things that put them off. I was aware I did it but couldn’t stop myself. Later I’d be angry at myself. Then I realized it was a sign that the guy wasn’t right for me. Now when I do it I accept that it’s to prevent not wasting more time than necessary. I didn’t do it with the good guy I ended up in a relationship with!

Learn to flow with what life brings you. Don’t put yourself on an emotional seesaw ride in either direction.

When I was a DoorMat, if something good happened I’d get over the top excited. Then if something fell through, it was a long drop down to my disappointment. A friend noticed this pattern and implored me to get off the seesaw. She was right. It was one of the first lessons I learned as I prepared to leave DoorMatville. Be kinder to yourself during stressful or disappointing times. And temper your response to goodies. Yes, I do try to enjoy the latter fully, but I don’t blow them out of proportion like I used to. When you live in the moment, take the initial joy and let situations unfold.

Send a clear message that you trust that the good you want is coming, with faith and a light heart. Be patient. When things don’t go well, look for all the things you can still be happy about and let that carry you through any negatives. Then watch for more joy you’ll attract with those thoughts!

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  • Micah

    Good one Daylle! I do go on those emotional seesaws but wasn't aware of it till just now. I thank you for helping me recognize it!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14718164757792067906 Kate DuBois

    Daylle, thanks for your honest perspective and suggestion to go easy on oneself when things are difficult. It's so easy to forget when my critical inner voice is yelling at me. Since you mentioned Conversations with God and the importance of not being a doormat, here's a quote from another book The Law of Attraction by Deborah Morrison & Arvind Singh that I think you'll like."Only through a connection with Spirit, can you realize your highest potential. This is the Source from where your wealth derives. In order to attract wealth or well-being, you need to start with “wealth consciousness,” a feeling that your birthright is to be rich in all ways – with abundance and joy in all aspects of life."Kate

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad it helped you Micah!My pleasure Kate! Thanks for sharing that lovely quote. : )

  • Tammy

    Thank you sooo much for this series! I subscribed at the link here, but it says the Doormat series. I want to make sure I get both series.

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