Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Law of Attraction in Action: Being Flexible

This is post 58 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series to see how.


It’s important to put out what you want to the Universe, and be clear about it. I’ve emphasized that in previous posts. But it’s also important to flexible about what you receive. If you’re focused on one very specific objective, you can miss out on some wonderful opportunities or situations that you couldn’t have imagined by thinking just one-way.

Being locked into something rigid leaves no room for the Universe to send you what’s for your highest good.


For example, if you decide that you want to work for a specific kind of company or only work in one area or for only a certain amount of money, the career opportunity of a lifetime may miss the Law of Attraction’s radar screen based on what message you send out. While it’s important to know what you want, it’s just as important to leave wiggle room for options you may not see when you try to manifest.

Leaving yourself open to what’s best for your highest good leads you to the best manifestations.


I lived in the suburbs before moving into Manhattan. When I decided to get an apartment here, I was sure I wanted to live on the upper Westside. It’s a cool neighborhood and I love going up there. I had over 2 months to find a place and went from one to another but nothing worked out. Apartments I wanted fell through. Mostly I found something wrong with every one I looked at. But I was fixated on a specific part of the upper Westside.


A guy at a service I was registered at suggested I open myself up to other areas. I refused and continued looking in my chosen neighborhood, wondering why no apartment felt right. But I kept trying. It got discouraging. And frustrating as the day I HAD TO move got closer. Then I realized that maybe I wasn’t meant to live where I was determined to and asked to be guided to the place that would be perfect for me. I got a call from a guy about an apartment in a neighborhood I’d never spent any time in and knew little about.

To show I was open to the best apartment for me, I went to look at it.


It was perfect! I never thought I could be so happy living in a big city since I’m really a country girl. But my spacious, bright apartment has made me happy I was flexible for many years! I’m in the heart of midtown, right by the subway that goes both to the east side and the west. Everyone is friendly. Had I stuck to my belief that I had to live on the upper Westside, I can’t imagine being as happy.

Flexibility tells the Universe that you trust it to send you what you need, and at the right time.


When you hold fast to exactly how you want something to manifest, it says that you trust your judgment more than God’s. Of course you should be clear about what you want. But it’s also good to add, “or whatever is best for my highest good.” My faith is so strong that I completely trust that the Universe will send the best possible situation and my thoughts allow it to happen.

Being rigid about what you want can attract what really might not be good for you or you may not get something you didn’t know you could have but would love.


Beth complained to me for a long time that she hated her job because of the people she worked with. There was a lot of tension between staff and she wasn’t treated with the respect she deserved. Each week left her more fed up and it began to take its toll on her health. I told her to get another job. She had been in the same place for so long she didn’t know where to go. She looked to transfer to another department but there were no openings. Then she heard about something a little different, and was told when it was available, she’d be strongly considered for the position.

Beth felt excited for the first time in ages and became set on this potential opportunity. Months passed and it still wasn’t available. She lamented to me when I suggested looking elsewhere that this position seemed perfect for her and it was a miracle she even found out about it. But waiting indefinitely was taking its toll on her so I suggested she consider that maybe God had sent her the potential opportunity to show there were better jobs than she could envision on her own. I pushed her to start searching for them and put it into God’s hands!


“Please help me find the job that will give me the most satisfaction and contentment.”

She listened and ended up turning down the one she’d waited for when it did open up because an even better one manifested. Beth is still in awe that after so many years of being unhappy in her career, she’d found a way to put her skills to good use in a way that made her love going to work. If she hadn’t allowed herself to be flexible about what she attracted, she’d never have known about what she could do to earn a living.

Often you may not get what you thought you wanted and you do get what you didn’t ask for and later discover the wisdom of what the Universe helped you manifest—that you did get the best thing for you!


Set your intentions with an open mind. Be clear about what you want—a job you love, a romantic partner who makes you happy, the perfect place to live, all the abundance you need, etc. But don’t insist on the job being only in one place, the person having blue eyes or other speific features, the living space with a set floor plan, or the exact dollar amount. Let the Universe help you find what’s right for you.

Giving the Universe responsibility for attracting what is for your highest good brings you the best rewards. To this day, I’m still completely grateful for being led to the apartment I’m in now. When you really trust, you attract the fruits of that trust!


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  • Debbie

    Wow! What an awesome post. I've been studying the Law of Attraction for the last couple years and until recently didn't understand the need to be flexible in what I wanted. I was very rigid in what I thought I wanted. I opened myself up to the universe and everything started to fall into place. The last couple months I started my online business as well as following my passion for art. I'm happier now than I've ever been and much less stress.

  • Genaata

    This is what I needed to learn. I've been so fixed on expecting exactly what I thought I needed that I left no room for what might be for my highest good. I've already begun to put that out. Thanks!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    thanks for your kind words Debbie! I'm glad you're working the LOA so well!Glad it was helpful Genaata!

  • Nina

    Thank you so much for spelling it out and being convincing. I have to echo the sentiments expressed in other comments – I've been pretty rigid I think in wanting abundance to come to me in a specific way- I'm realizing I only stand to gain by letting go of the how and when. Wonderful post.

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I'm glad the post resonated with you Nina! Clarity about what you want doesn't mean being rigid about it.

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Anwesha

    Hey Daylle
    But what do you do when you are so totally in love with that one person and noone else seems to fit in? Whatever you are saying is absolutely true because whenever I have been rigid about my work or other ppl it hasn’t really worked, but I got wonderful things when I opened up myself a bit…but I can’t seem to make the law work when it comes to that one special person you knw..

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    NO ONE should be more important to you than YOU. You should be totally in love with YOU. Feeling so much for one person makes you believe no one else will make you happy, which is never true. It skews your thinking, hence the LOA works against you.

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