Iâ€™ve been exhausted and stressed lately. I wrote a book with someone who was very difficult to deal with, yet I was responsible for making the deadline. Heâ€™s a good guy but not a writer and clueless about many of the things I asked of him. I often got crazy. Meanwhile, I have another book due in July and many more things on my plate. My sisterâ€™s husband has cancer thatâ€™s grown around the nerves in one side of his face. Heâ€™s having surgery next Wednesday and then a long recovery. Iâ€™m trying to make myself available to support them in the midst of all the other things.
All prayers are welcome! â˜º
So for the last 2 months I havenâ€™t been sleeping well and feel like Iâ€™ve been working non-stop. Thatâ€™s part of why I havenâ€™t been able to post as much on this blog. The book got turned in the end of last week. Once I turned it in, I began to sleep better but I had so much rest to catch up on that I woke up looking forward to nighttime when I could return to sleep. It was hard to do anything. I also havenâ€™t had time to promote my new books and am trying to catch up on that.
On that note, Iâ€™d like to announce the video for my first rap record, Girls Can Do. Please check it out and forward it to friends.
I was the first white female rapper on a dare from students in a class I was teaching in junior high school years go. It led me to become the first woman that I know of to start an independent record label, which I ran for 5 years. So in honor of my 2 new books, Nice Girls Can Finish First (McGraw-Hill) and the third edition of my bestselling Start & Run Your Own Record Label, I filmed a video for Girls Can Do. Now I finally have time to get the word out!
But, as I try to catch up and decompress from the last 2 months, Iâ€™m also allowing for plenty of â€œmeâ€ time.
Many of us feel guilty about allowing ourselves some â€œmeâ€ time. I used to ruin any pleasure in having time to relax and enjoy by thinking I should be doing something more productive. Guilt tainted all the joy. I thought I should be working or helping someone. That was the DoorMat’s version. Now I understand that everyone is entitled to down time. While I canâ€™t just fritter away my time, Iâ€™ve been working very hard and need some R & R, despite having a lot to take care of.
J. Lubbock said, “Rest is not idleness, and to lie on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.“
Doing things that make you happy is never a waste of time! Itâ€™s important to balance work and play. I have a work relate event to attend this evening so I took advantage of the gorgeous weather by going for a run in Central Park earlier, during work time. I finally recognize that treating myself with love and doing things to stay healthy are just as important as doing my work. So is relaxation, doing nothing at all, playing a computer game and other things with no outcomes except to make me feel good.
As long as youâ€™re not being totally lazy for a prolonged period of time, cut yourself slack on taking R & R. You deserve it, guilt-free!
Now I think I’ll relax a little more. It does feel good. Try it!