Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Easing Your Way to Joy


This is my fourth post in my series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. I learned about the Law of Attraction from her books and was re-inspired by watching the DVD with so many great guests. There will be a new post related to this each Monday.

Lately I’ve heard many people complain that life is a struggle, they have to work so hard that it’s hurting them and they’ve lost their pleasure. While I spend a lot of time writing and doing what I have to do, I always make time for me. Sometimes when I’m in overdrive and feeling too much pressure, I step back and remind myself that:

God doesn’t want us to put our health in jeopardy or make ourselves miserable in the pursuit of what we want.

That’s when I pull back, take some breaths and relax. Then I make a new game plan, one that includes my well-bring. When your faith is strong, it’s not necessary to struggle or kill yourself working. That doesn’t mean you don’t have to work hard. You do. Since you get support for what you put out, you get support for what you do. The Law of Attraction supports your efforts, positive or negative.

Put out your life as a struggle, it will continue to be a struggle. Show that you’re willing to work hard for what you want in a reasonable way, and you’ll have a much better chance of getting there. Add faith to the mix and you have the recipe for success! There is a middle ground between struggling and sitting around praying for something to happen.

Relax but work hard, knowing that you have the support you need!

One of my favorite spiritual tool givers, Abraham Hicks, said, “You cannot struggle to joy. Struggle and joy are not on the same channel. You joy your way to joy! You laugh your way to success. It is through your joy that good things come.” He is so right! Enjoying the path to your goals attracts the joy of achieving them.

I have no day job. Many people envy me but I explain that most couldn’t live the way I do. Having no guaranteed source of income would be too scary. When I’m beginning a new book, I have no idea about what kind of deal I’ll get and for how big an advance. Counseling/consulting clients come and go, as do speaking gigs and people who want help with their books. Yet I live in a large, one bedroom apartment in one of the nicest sections of midtown Manhattan!

Friends have actually tried to worry for me, when work isn’t on the horizon. They’ve questioned my refusal to touch my savings when my checking account was empty as I smiled and reassured them that the money would come. Now they’ve learned that my situation is never about IF I’ll get enough money each money, but about WHERE it will come from.

Faith always helps me pay my bills! I always have enough money for whatever I need.

Worrying about where your money comes from shows a lack of faith. So does fear, and having a mentality of being in a struggle to survive. If money gets tight, I look up, say thanks for the income coming my way, and work hard to manifest. But I never make getting it a struggle. I know that God wants me to be relaxed and happy. So I do what I can, without pushing the boundaries between working hard and working too hard. I have such strong faith that everything will always work out and money will come, that it always does!

Faith allows you to KNOW what you need is coming. The more you KNOW, the more the Law of Attraction helps it to happen.

Work your way to this point slowly, by testing faith in action. The more it works, the more you’ll use it. Next time you feel like you’re in a struggle, whether it’s to have enough money, do something to make more money, launch a business, decide whether you should leave a romantic partner who’s not making you happy, maintain self-imposed obligations, etc.:

* Take some deep breaths. Calm yourself down so you can think more rationally and feel better at the same time. The more you relax, the more relaxation will come!

* Remind yourself you shouldn’t be struggling so hard, unless you want to keep struggling. It’s never necessary to struggle in order to reach your goals. Work hard, yes. Struggle—no! Affirm, “I can calmly get what I need.”

* Ask the Universe for guidance and support. Then keep your eyes open for opportunities or ways to bypass what you’ve been struggling with.

* Change your attitude to one of expectation. When you expect to get what you’re working for, you get support in that. Affirm, “I intend to get what I need in a relaxed and joyful way.”

* Look up and give thanks for what you intend to receive, as if you have it already. Do it as many times as you can. The more you give thanks for what you expect to receive, the stronger the Law of Attraction becomes.

Someone I know who posts on a board I participate in has been trying to sell a small business she built up. She’s had 8 offers that all fell through and says she’d struggling to sell it. Each time an offer gets close, she talks about how tough it’s been since none of the deals work out. They’re almost at closing and something happens to foil it. She just got another one and began by saying she hopes this doesn’t go like the others. I emailed her and suggested she focus on just giving thanks for the deal going through, instead of the struggle she’d had trying to sell it. She wrote back that she’d give thanks in a few weeks IF it happens.

That mind-set reinforces doubt and her constant rehashing of deals gone bad is what the Law of Attraction picks up on. I replied that she’d get the deal if she gave thanks for it now.

Whenever you feel in struggle mode, think about what would make you happy. Focus on that and how you can get there, without it being a tough journey. When you get to the place I’m in, your faith will allow you to relax and work hard in the joy of knowing you’ll have what you need. It truly is a lovely place to be! Please join me! ? Put the Law of Attraction to work for your better good!

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  • Vi

    So true Daylle. When I struggle, I feel defeated. Will watch my thoughts more!

  • Bob Tamoa

    I am going to try very hard to stop struggling and start giving thanks. Thanks for the reminder!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad you both found this helpful!

  • Anonymous

    Hello Daylle, Rich, a friend of yours, let me borrow his copies of your Billboard books last year. I enjoyed them immensley ! Recently I have discovered your "Lessons" Blog. I am so happy to be enjoing your sage advice on living. Thank you so very much.Warm Regards,Sharon

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