Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat


Law of Attraction in Action: Concrete Use of This Power


This is the first in a series on using the Law of Attraction. There’s been a lot of hype about it lately. When Oprah did some shows when the book and DVD, The Secret, came out, it sold like crazy. Many people are looking for easy answers and ways to get what they want. The idea of expressing what you want, and getting it, is very appealing.

But using the Law of Attraction isn’t nearly as simple as The Secret made it look. Nor is it a secret!

The people in The Secret DVD didn’t invent or discover the Law of Attraction. My “idol,” Louise Hay, wrote about it in 1984, in her book, You Can Heal Your Life. When I read this book, I began life as I know it today. It made me realize that I lived a spiritual lifestyle because when I expected things to happen from my heart, they did.

The book emphasizes that we get back what we give out. Our thoughts control what happens to us and what we get. It was a wakeup call that could shatter the earthquake Richter scale. I devoured its pages as light bulbs went off, then bells and whistles woke me up completely. That was when the DoorMat fully found her power! Since then, I’ve used the Law of Attraction to shed my DoorMat layers and become a very empowered woman.

So I watched The Secret DVD after seeing it on Oprah. I was curious. And I learned a lot.

But I do think it’s misleading in how they make getting what you want sound so easy. I wasn’t a novice when I watched, so I could take from it what was helpful. Someone looking for a quick fix might watch, wish for something, and then give up when it didn’t work.

Now Louise Hay has put out her own DVD, You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. It’s simple and a lot clearer. It doesn’t have the drama of a little boy wishing for a bicycle and getting it. The expanded movie has talks by a variety of people I admire. It’s a lot cheaper than The Secret, yet it has the bonus input from people I hold in high esteem, including Wayne Dyer, Christiane Northrup and Esther Hicks. They and many more are in the movie too! Louise Hay narrates it all in her soothing voice.

Louise Hay’s movie bought me back to my spiritual roots. In loving tones, expert after expert shares their wisdom. It reminded me of some tools that I already know but don’t remember to use. Reading or watching something once can be very helpful. Reading and watching more than once reinforces the principles. Over the next few weeks I’ll share some of the lessons on this DVD and how I’ve used them for my benefit. Since watching it, I’ve decided that I must learn all I can and focus on implementing what I learn.

One thing I was reminded of is to change my perception of what seems like a negative situation.

The morning after my conscious was raised, I got an email from the agent for my last book, with the subject saying, “Bad news. This is awful.” Before I read the message, I affirmed that the news would be good. When I opened it, I learned a writer had questioned the need for my book in her newspaper column. It’s a popular paper and she has a popular column. My first response was ouch!

Then I remembered my lesson and looked for the good in the situation.

The writer didn’t trash the book. She just didn’t think it was necessary. So it wasn’t negative! I wrote the agent back saying that I was blessed to have this article about the book. While it wasn’t positive, it did make a lot of people aware of my title. And I expected something good to come from it. An hour tater, l began to get emails from people who heard Howard Stern talking about my book! Robin had read the article and mentioned the title on air. That began a discussion about it. Nothing negative. Just talking about the book itself.
I expected it to become a positive and it really did!

Coincidence? Skeptics think so. But I know that expecting a positive from that seemingly negative situation made it happen. I’ve done it many times every since. MANY! Looking for the blessing in all situations helps you to find them. Next time something negative happens to you, use affirmations to turn it around:

• “Everything will work out for my highest good.
• “Everything happens for a reason. Whatever will be will be.”
• “Out of this only good will come.”

You can turn situations around with your thoughts if you consciously choose to. Look for the good in what you don’t like. There’s always something. Many years ago, before I was published, I’d written a book and got a top agent to rep me. She said there would probably be a bidding war on my book and was asking for 6 figures. She suggested I buy a good, conservative suit to wear to meetings with potential editors. So I did, even though it wasn’t my style, I dropped $300 on one she liked.

I go very excited and told everyone I knew. Six figures seemed like a lot so I thought about what I’d do with that money. But it all fell through. Kaboom! No offers. Not one.

I was devastated—for a few hours. In the past it would have made me give up and be depressed, living in a “why me?” mentality. But after licking my wounds, I affirmed that it happened for a reason and I’d discover it when the time as right. I’ve learned to look back to find reasons for things I don’t like happen. It may take a while but I ALWAYS find the reason. ALWAYS! Finding reasons for why things didn’t go the way you wanted you to allows you to create more blessings.

Finding reasons also helps reinforce accepting that everything happens for a reason. Now that I believe it with all my heart, I can relax if things don’t go my way.

Not getting a book deal felt like a setback at first. I was speaking often and attendees wanted to buy my book. Since I didn’t get a book deal, over the next year I created 6 self-empowerment print newsletters so I’d have something to sell. It forced me to learn how to do graphics on my computer and I designed a really nice publication. People subscribed. I wrote articles I felt proud of. Doing it helped me truly find my writing voice. I wrote for my readers, not for an agent or publisher. Doing this newsletter gave me the confidence to pursue my writing career harder.

I’m selling them out for 8 bucks for all 6, including postage (original price was $18.50). If you’re interested, email me at daylle@daylle.com to find out how to get them. They were my magic wands, the first step towards my freedom to do what I wanted.

It took over a year but I found several reasons for not getting a book deal: I was meant to write the newsletter first, to define my writing voice more clearly. Later, I realized that I was glad I didn’t write the original book. It would have sent me in a different direction and I love the one I’m in now!

Find the reasons for why your life takes a path you don’t like. Look back and figure out what blessings came out of what seemed negative. If you look, you’ll find them. Part of using the Law of Attraction is accepting that good can come out of anything. That allows your life to flow peacefully, instead of getting stressed out about life’s road bumps. If you want a real spiritual treat, pick up You Can Heal Your Life, the movie, expanded version. You can watch the movie itself or when you need a shorter reinforcement, watch one of Louise’s guests give a talk. This double CD packs a huge punch for a lot less than The Secret. It takes you on a clearer path too, to find your way to using the Law of Attraction effectively.

Stay tuned for more posts on this topic.

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  • Becky

    Some good things to try to work into my routine Daylle. Thanks!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad you can use it Becky!

  • Pat Miran

    I liked The Secret but couldn’t make it work for me. This DVD sounds like it might be a better way to learn. thanks!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Enjoy manifesting Pat! : )

  • http://subliminalmentalperception.com/blog Mental Perception

    Hello…I just love dropping in onto your blog! I read atleast 20 articles a day…I also have some of the best ones on my site too. Well, I would like for you to come and visit me sometimes and leave a comment…check me out at http://subliminalmentalperception.com hope to see you there!Mental Perception

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for your very kind words! I’ll drop by yours.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/18004811683234226701 Jenn

    Daylle, What a beautiful post. Thank you for reminding us that we ARE in charge and that we have complete control… it may not always seem like it, but we do. I started my day with your post, and I’m so glad I did – what a great way to start a great Monday!Warmly,Jenn

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for your very kind words Jenn! Happy to help start your day nicely. : )

  • Heather C.

    Thanks for sharing your life and inspiration through your blog!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for stopping by Heather, and for letting me know you appreciate my blog!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/17414793921515206903 3L

    I'm so excited…I can't wait to learn how to use LOA…Thank you!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Enjoy manifesting! : )

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09582130935902458396 Lynne

    Hi Daylle,I just found your blog kind of by accident. I posted a link to it from my blog at http://alaskainmydreams.wordpress.com Hope that is ok. I just read your first post about the Law of Attraction, and I'll be reading ALL of them until I am done. I can really identify with your writing style and your outlook on life.Many thanks.Lynne Schlumpf

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Hi Lynne,Thanks so much for letting me know you find my blog helpful and for letting others know about it. I want EVERYONE possible to benefit from the power we all have in us.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06670988548777992978 Priscilla

    I came accross your blog by chance and I simply love it! I have just read some of your articles and I really have a good feeling that its gonna get better :) Thanks for inspiring me. I make it a point to come to your blog daily and want to complete reading all your articles on Law of Attraction in Action. Its too good ;) I actively wanna make a change in life and your thoughts and sharing is helping me. Keep the spirit flowing. Go to your destiny!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01445486103480238038 Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks for letting me know this Priscilla. I feel very blessed from everyone who benefits from this blog and my books.

  • Balabag-Kalit

    I am so much blessed with what i have read in your article. It put me into a situation where I reflect and meditate to how should I deal and response to things and different situation. I feel empowered and inspired. I am advocating now to start a day by thanking God for everything, and thinking and doing positive things beyond any expectation. We really reap what we sow and we should be very aggressive in grasping every situation to do things in right and positive perspective. Its always an opportunity and we have it every second, every minute, every hour and everyday. This is the Gift that God has given to us aside from many gifts that he has always given. The Law of Attraction is really a good tool or would I say a powerful way of living.
    By the way, I was able to share your article to my colleagues during our devotion and prayers.
    God bless you Ms. daylle!
    Balabag-kalit
    Philippines

  • Balabag-Kalit

    I am so much blessed with what i have read in your article. It put me into a situation where I reflect and meditate to how should I deal and response to things and different situation. I feel empowered and inspired. I am advocating now to start a day by thanking God for everything, and thinking and doing positive things beyond any expectation. We really reap what we sow and we should be very aggressive in grasping every situation to do things in right and positive perspective. Its always an opportunity and we have it every second, every minute, every hour and everyday. This is the Gift that God has given to us aside from many gifts that he has always given. The Law of Attraction is really a good tool or would I say a powerful way of living.
    By the way, I was able to share your article to my colleagues during our devotion and prayers.
    God bless you Ms. daylle!
    Balabag-kalit
    Philippines

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Thanks so much for your very kind words Balabag. I’m delighted to know that my writing has helped you!

  • Ida Smith

    Thank you for such wisdom that you share,I was just talking to my friend about the secret and than i happen to see your posting about the law of attraction.I don’t have any income at this time but when i do receive some i definitly want to purchase your book because i like your concept. I am glade that i ran across your information because it is a trying time for me right now and your words is a great help thank you and keep doing what you do.
    God Bless……..

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    I’m so happy you found my blog Ida and that it helped you! You can download a copy of my self-love book and sign the 31 Days of Self-love pledge here: http://howdoiloveme.com/the-book/

  • http://www.whiffsofbliss.com Joie

    Law of Attraction is all about GRAVITATION, as postulated by Newton, Einstein, and others; it’s an element of spacetime itself, always at work for everyone and everything 24/7. Knowing the science behind the force enables one to harness its powers as humans have done with electricity!
    Joie
    Founder, G Theory
    “Unification of the Science of Gravitation and ‘The Secret’ Law of Attraction”
    http://www.WhiffsofBliss.com

  • Jodi

    Good articles on Law of Attraction. Certainly good things to incorporate into my daily life.

  • netaphia

    I really enjoyed reading this article amongs the others you have provided…..thanks

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  • http://LawofAttraction,apersonalexperienceanduponreflectingbackandhowitisreallytrue. TP

    Before I knew and studied about the Law of Attraction, everything seems to be random or by coincidence and I did not think much of it.
    But after learning about this law, I think back and I have many examples but I shall share a very simple yet real experience.

    I have always wanted to change car and to one that I like, not an expensive super car but a practical and good car and because I like it a lot (plus it has good fuel economy and less painful on the wallet).
    I kept thinking of it, looking at websites and dreaming of getting it. And when my brother in-law bought it, I was like even more attracted to it. I get to sit in it and drove it around just to feel and experience driving my favorite car.
    Then one day I decided to head down to the dealership with my girlfriend just to have a look and enjoy a Saturday leisurely afternoon with her while I get to just see, smell and touch a new car in the showroom.
    Guess what? While I was being attended by the sales person and chatting about how I wanted to buy that car but its price was kind of high. The sales person looked at me and told me that the price is now $10k lesser!
    I was in total shocked and in that moment, I just said to him “Ok. I am buying it today!”.
    He blinked twice and hurried to get the paperwork done :)
    My gf was still dazed at what happened and I was like smiling with all my teeth glaring in the fantastic afternoon glare bouncing off from the outside into the glass encased showroom. All the wonders of light, nature and happiness was there at that moment!
    This did not happen overnight but perhaps over a course of a few months and all I did was picture myself sitting in it (which I did actually in my bro-in-law’s car), looking at pictures of it, reading the specs of the car etc.
    But I did not focus on the price that I could not afford, I already knew that. Instead I focused on the things I loved about the car .. all the positives and not so much the negatives.

    This is one of my best examples I can provide with respect to the law.

    I have a few other examples but I shall reflect on it and decide whether is it worth sharing.

    But I personally do feel that sometimes practicing the law can be difficult because we are all human beings and emotions makes up a lot of what we think and feel inside. And I do forget at times to practice the law to my advantage.
    So I have to keep going back to listen to the audios, read the articles and texts. So as to help me remember how to adopt the law.

  • http://Anotherpersonalexperience TP

    I have been out of work for a while and it was frustrating and stressful to say the least.
    The things that made it worst was I was at one time well paid and enjoyed a certain degree of lifestyle. But it all came crashing down in just one swoop.

    I have sent many resumes, I studied and analyse what I can do to make my resume more creative and attractive. I studied cover letters. I hunt beyond just job boards and I made a lot of efforts as far and as best I could but still the calls came far and few in between.
    As expected to any human beings, one will get even more frustrated, depressed and even more stressed.
    Then I recalled about the Law which I learned and studied before. And I decided that I should help myself stop the downward spiral. It is not easy because the reality of the situation is very real and it does take a lot of effort, even to just feel alright and to not focus on the negatives.

    I made very conscious effort to keep working at looking for jobs because no actions means no result. This is the practical nature of life and it has been said, God helps those that helps themselves.
    I focused on the positives and how I am good at my job and I have loads of experience and can contribute to any employer.
    I made a very strong effort to affirm in my mind that I have sent my resumes out and I expect calls and I will get them!
    The new week started just after I did this and I have been receiving calls from talent recruitment companies and went for discussion a few days in a row!
    Of course it would have been better to have calls from direct employers but then I am not complaining. If I am given any chance to get my toe in the door, I will take it! And that has been my life story largely due to my background and my family was not well to do so we have to make huge effort to take advantage of any chance and be creative to get myself out to create a better life for myself.

    From weeks of silence and almost next to no phone calls, I have received a multitude of calls out of nowhere in just a weekend turnover to a new week after I returned to study, understand and practice the Law again!

    It may come as a strange thing to many people but I am a strong believer because it has happened to me many times. So I share this with you in the hope that somehow things works in strange ways even if we may not believe it.

    I am still waiting for the eventual opportunity to come by and get back to work again .. to be productive again .. and to be happy with myself again.

    Thank you!

  • Daylle Deanna Schwartz

    Glad this is working for you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment angie

    excellent!

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