Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

January 1970 Archives

Do You Have a Toxic Friend Like Lindsay or Britney?

Britney Spear’s friends go in TV talk shows to discuss her private business. On New Year’s Eve we saw pics of Lindsay Lohan being passed a bottle by people knowing she was in recovery from alcohol. It’s said to have […]


Live for YOU, Not a Romantic Partner

Last week a reader asked a question in her comment. She and her boyfriend just finished school and are looking for jobs. They’re both twenty-five. He’s gone back home till summer. Her dilemma—move to his small town under uncomfortable circumstance […]


Getting Good Cable Service

I always put the TV on after I wake up. I like to catch the news and the morning shows help perk me up. This morning I was doing some stretching exercises and almost hurt myself when I was jolted […]


Learning Self-Control

I’m delighted to have my friend Tina Tessina as a guest blogger. She’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has written lots of great books and articles. I asked if I could put a sample of her new book […]

Music — My Drug of Choice

Music is many things to many people. As a music journalist, I’m privy to a lot of CDs. Depending on what I listen to, music can energize, relax, lift my spirits, make me melancholy, help me heal. Lola Fayemi at […]

I Insist You Understand!

I got a large response for my post that addressed how compassion can help you temper the buckets of anger we often have when someone does us wrong. It’s a great anger-buster! But developing it also manifests many more blessings. […]

What’s the Worst that Can Happen? No, Really, the Worst!

I have a terrific guest blogger today—Laura Vanderkam, a New York-based writer and author of Grindhopping: Build a Rewarding Career without Paying Your Dues (McGraw-Hill, 2007) Grindhopping details alternatives routes if you don’t want to stay in a job you […]

I Spent a WHOLE Weekend WITHOUT My Laptop

I never thought it would happen. I check email several times a day, 7 days a week. I also write for at least some portion of every day because I love to write. My laptop goes everywhere with me. It’s […]

Let’s Be Happily Naked! Part Trois

Watching How to Look Good Naked got my brain humming more than usual. It’s so easy to tell someone to lighten up on their body issues. But it’s an uphill battle against all of the factors that reinforce feeling like […]

Let’s Be Happily Naked! Part Deux

Many folks are obsessed with weight—their own and other people’s. I do believe that the ones—who point out extra pounds, or who are out and out critical, or who always notice if you’re body looks good or you’ve gained an […]

Let’s Be Happily Naked! Part Un

Three cheers for the TV show, How to Look Good Naked with Carson Kressley on the Lifetime Network! Carson is illustrating what I’ve been saying in my books for years—whe you change your self-perception, you can become more beautiful and […]

Trading Anger for Joy with Compassion

Albert at Urban Monk invited me to participate in a writing group project about compassion called Spread the Love NOW! created by The Three Monks—Albert at Urban Monk, Wade of The Middle Way, and Kenton of Zen-Inspired Self Development. I […]

One Man’s Miracle

Happy New Year to you all! I entered 2008 feeling positive and expecting GREAT things that I KNOW I will get! For my first post of 2008, I have a guest. David M. Bailey is no ordinary one. I got […]

Previous Posts

Ditch the Victim Mentality
A common thread among clients who come to me for self-empowerment counseling is “Why do people use me?” And they groan, “Why me?” And they whine, “I’ll never get what I want because of _____.”  I tell them to fill in that blank ...

posted 10:41:37pm Jul. 21, 2014 | read full post »

Standing Up for Yourself
You may be angry at many people and want to tell them all of. But you need to –prepare to take a stand first. Before taking a stand, ask, “Am I WILLING to be serious?” You may want to stop unacceptable behavior, but are you willing to ...

posted 12:01:04pm Jul. 18, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: What You Think Of Yourself
This is post 290 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series to see how. Very often, your biggest roadblocks ...

posted 8:44:56pm Jul. 16, 2014 | read full post »

Why People Become DoorMats/People Pleasers
George Bernard Shaw said, “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to ...

posted 2:09:35pm Jul. 14, 2014 | read full post »

Law of Attraction in Action: “It’s for the best”
This is post 289 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series  to see how. People get confused when ...

posted 12:01:14pm Jul. 08, 2014 | read full post »


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